Barby Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 So I just found out that they guy I like and have been talking to is NOT 23 but in fact only 18! I mean I knew he looked young! But I had no idea he was that young! Am I wrong for still talking to him and considering dating him? Age isn't a big issue for me but I am kinda shocked to be honest. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 YOU MONSTER!!! God will pour forth his fire and judgment and the devil will poke you in the butt with his fiery pitchfork of doom and torment.......*phew* Just had to get that out of my system. The main problem with dating a younger person is thier maturity level. Now that you didnt know this person was 18 and thought that they were 23 instead is a good sign. If you still had a great time with them, then why let a few years get in the way. Hell lots of women date younger guys. Some 30 year olds go out with 21 year olds. Much bigger age difference there, but both parties seem happy enough. I say try it out. Once your family and friends get over the fact that they are younger than you, and see your happy all will be well.......except for the looming cloud of damnation!!!!!!!!!!!!.....er.....sorry...... Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 How old are you Barby? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Barby Posted January 18, 2005 Author Share Posted January 18, 2005 I'm 24 He's 18 6 year age difference!!! But I like him so much and he was afraid to tell me...I dunno I guess I can't be mad because he didn't "actually" lie to me....I just never asked... But I still really really like him! Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 18 still legal heh. If you like him, and hes not super immature, then go for it. I've met women much younger than me that are probably way more mature than me. I say go for it. Worst case it dosnt work out and you both move on. Better than not trying at all. Only problem is you cant bring him to bars yet Link to post Share on other sites
Author Barby Posted January 18, 2005 Author Share Posted January 18, 2005 Only problem is you cant bring him to bars yet Neither of us drink and I'm not really a "bar kinda" girl so that isn't even an issue! I sooooo do want to try with him, he lives 10 hours away from me but we've agreed that we do want to meet up for sure and see what happens...I mean I know it sounds crazy but I kinda hope it could work! Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 Ok the worst thing about this you left out. 10 hours!?!?! god woman, thats a long ways away. I mean god bless you if you can manage it. I thought 1 hour away was bad oh....on a totally unrelated note......how do you put pictures on your profile. I want a pic of me Link to post Share on other sites
Author Barby Posted January 18, 2005 Author Share Posted January 18, 2005 Well we are in the "getting to know each other" stages still, I've been talking to him for a few weeks so who knows if anything will come of it. He's offered to drive and see me...and assuming it works out he said he'd drive to see me every weekend but if it did/does work out then I'd rotate weekends with him. I would rent a car to go see him in VA on some weekends. But again only time will tell if it can/will happen. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 Well like i said, god bless you if you can make it work. Thats a long haul. Goodluck Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 barby, if you'd not have posted your age I'd have said you were 17, tops! my theory is, if you hit it off, you hit it off. Age is irrelevent by that point ... knock yourself out, honey Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 First of all, he lied about his age-who DOES that? Would you have given him a second glance if you were aware of his age? I would feel kind of stupid myself if I were 24 and I had an 18 year old boyfriend. If you really, truly like him and think he's capable of giving you the relationship you need, then don't worry about it. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 BTW, I love that pic of you! You're a doll! Okay, onto the reply. OMG go for it, it's better than Oscar!!! Oh wait, who isn't? Rob that cradle! Link to post Share on other sites
RowanRavyn Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 Robbing the cradle can be fun!! You are a pretty lady Barby. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Barby Posted January 18, 2005 Author Share Posted January 18, 2005 First of all, he lied about his age-who DOES that? Actually I never asked him We hit it off and talked about everything under the sun EXCEPT that, (go figure hahaha!) He asked me where I was from and I told him Indiana and I'm 24...what about you? (and he just told me from VA) So technically he didn't lie to me . Would you have given him a second glance if you were aware of his age? Probably not, but now that I know him it hardly seems worth throwing away a friendship and maybe more just because of it...I mean I know it a way it sounds bad but he seems wiser and more mature than that (even more than myself)...he's so intelligent and sweet. Robbing the cradle can be fun!! You are a pretty lady Barby. This will be my first time! And thanks that's very sweet of you to say. BTW, I love that pic of you! You're a doll! Okay, onto the reply. OMG go for it, it's better than Oscar!!! Oh wait, who isn't? Rob that cradle! Thank you so much for saying I'm a doll..hahaha! I'm flattered! Yes I know MOST everybody is better than Oscar, I've had NO contact with him and Gawd this guy is soooooooooooooo much better!! barby, if you'd not have posted your age I'd have said you were 17, tops! my theory is, if you hit it off, you hit it off. Age is irrelevent by that point ... knock yourself out, honey Wow I always feel that I look like an older woman (an old lady even (poor self image) thanks to dear old Oscar telling me that "we're old 24 is already very old). I must admit I'm flattered that you think I look younger! And thanks for the encouragement....we did hit it off and I know (well I'm pretty sure) I'm going to give this a chance...I just can't judge about his age (since he is legal) we just "connected" to well... Well like i said, god bless you if you can make it work. Thats a long haul. Goodluck Thanks..I think it's really worth a shot! Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 So is he an online meet? Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 Have fun -- dating is about fun, its not all a search for a permanent relationship. I'm thinking 18 = stamina baby! If it works into a lasting relationship - great, if it doesn't you can still have fun together. Not all breakups have to be painful -- if you both have fun and decide its not going to work for long-term, then you can part on friendly terms and enjoy the memory and learning experience. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. That really is a good pic of you! Did you go to glamour shots? Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 Hello, Barby I think you're in the country where "the pursuit of happiness" is written in the Constitution. So if this makes you happy, try it. I, on the other hand, saw my sister's attempt to go out with a guy 4 years younger than she is. She's 21, he's 16, will be 17 in March (legal age for men in Europe is 16, btw). Anyway: adventure is on the way. She had some great times, she also had some lousy times. He was great to her, but had no idea how to act around a woman. Mind you, my sister demands lots of attention and constant adoration, but then, who doesn't. They live in the same city, saw eachother a lot ant the whole relationship lasted about... 1 intense month. They split up (her choice), but in my opinion they'll get back soon, she's too crazy over him. Not all 18 years old are the same. Your bf is older than my sister's bf. My sister is a very high maintainance girlfriend in terms of attention. I told you all this in order to be prepared. Girls have some expectations regarding their dates. I'm 24 also and I know I do... Keep an open mind. My sister told me they are fiesty, those young devils ! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Barby Posted January 18, 2005 Author Share Posted January 18, 2005 That really is a good pic of you! Did you go to glamour shots? No thanks for asking I actually snapped a couple of pics with my sister's webcam...I didn't have on make-up or anything, it was all natural Thanks for the compliment though! So is he an online meet? Yeap. We talk on the phone, chat face to face (on webcam), ect. I don't know what's happening to me, I have NEVER met anyone from online and the guy i talked to before this, well I just didn't "feel him" and now I'm "smitten" by this guy....I mean I probably sound immature and stupid but I have real hope (finally) that possibly something good could come of this, even if it's just a really good friend...or a relationship (which I know probably nothing lasts forever).. But I'm smitten none the less! Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 Cool...so is he within driving time for you, if you wanted to meet him? The web cam things sounds pretty cool, guess you can't scam as easily on that thing....I've been burned sooo many times. G'luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 You go for it girl. He is legal and you like him, to me that's all that matters!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Barby Posted January 18, 2005 Author Share Posted January 18, 2005 Cool...so is he within driving time for you, if you wanted to meet him? He is actually 10 hours away I'm in Indiana and he's in Virginia BUT he is willing to drive up here and see me and I'm willing to drive to see him as well. He's such a sweety! I'm talking to him now Luckily he doesn't know about this place or else he'd know what I really thought of him...I don't let on to my feelings easily to him. You go for it girl. He is legal and you like him, to me that's all that matters!!!!!! Thanks girl! I am going for it, slowly but surely! Link to post Share on other sites
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