Will love life be ruined bc of my condition ? :(

[PumpkinSpice]

So basically I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and I love him so much. I gave him my virginity over a year ago and have loved sex with him ever since. However, about 6 months ago, for the first time, I started feeling an intense pain whenever he entered me. I always felt pain since then. Sometimes the pain is so bad he has to pull out before even being fully inside. Other times I'm able to muscle through the pain for his sake, but he knows me so well that he'd stop after seeing how much pain I'm in.

 

The pain is not associated with a condom allergy, birth control, or infections. He pleases me so much in other ways (oral, touching, fingering) and I get very turned on and wet, but even then if we try to have PIV sex, it always hurts NO MATTER WHAT. I've gone to doctors, I've taken tests, the only "diagnosis" one doctor could give me was Vaginismus, an involuntary contraction of pelvic muscles that cause severe pain with sex.

 

Before this condition, I loved sex with my boyfriend. He loves me and has always been supportive of me with this problem and never forces me to do what he knows I simply can't. He knows this is hurting me because not only do I want to be able to please him fully, but I'm a very sexual person and feel very bad that I can't do what I want with him because of this condition.

 

I know it's just sex, but this issue is getting in the way of our relationship and our intimacy. He's very loving and understanding and still pleases me in other ways, but I feel as if I'm not 100% able to please my man the way I used to before I developed this problem. He assures me that this isn't the case, but I still can't help but to feel inadequate and insecure. I want our intimacy to flourish, not die. I fear it will affect the relationship further if I don't find a cure for my pain.

 

Has anyone gone through something similar? Advice would be much appreciated, thanks..

Edited February 12, 2014 by PumpkinSpice

[d0nnivain]

Get a second opinion from a doctor. Keep pressing until you can find a doctor who can help you

 

 

You aren't going to solve this problem by talking to a bunch of lay people on the internet. We are not qualified to diagnose you. Telling you garbage like relax or use an OTC lube or some other such nonsense won't fix what's wrong.

[Els]

You received a lot of suggestions on your other thread, most of which revolve around talking to a specialist doctor.