Friend's motivation to date is almost non-existant

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Friend of mine, approaching the big 5-0, I think has completely lost interest in dating. Perhaps it's a good thing? LOL I dunno, but it's actually kind of sabotaged some prospects, including having pissed off a woman even.

 

Last woman he had encountered was a month prior to actually having moved on, but...she had shown considerable interest in him, but he had serious lack of follow-up.

 

She even showed up at a Meetup Gala Event that she had decided NOT to go to, but only changed her mind at the last moment because she knew HE was going to be there.

 

She dropped obvious hints, but never took the bait.

 

He moves so slow...she figures he isn't interested.

 

It took him 3 weeks to get back to her to offer to ask her out, but it fizzled.

 

This has been a pattern with him lately, but he had JUST recently said its just hasn't been worth it to him to go through the planning process of a date. It's just too much work nor he has the energy for dating anymore.

 

Even when he goes to Meetup events he only sits there like a bump on a log acting fascinated with what's on TV in the restaurant as opposed to socializing with the rest of the group.

 

I would hang with him, at first...then I'd mention to him I'd go around and mingle...he'd be sitting there not even watching the BAND play, but the TV (of course you can't hear the TV)

 

I go back to sit down with him and ask him, "So...you having a good time" and he says, "I guess, but hey...I've been watching the snowboarders on TV and the ....."

 

I zoned out after that, he was talking about the mechanics of how someone places their foot into a snowboarders board. I was thinking "What's wrong with this guy? Why does he even come??"

 

VERY strange behavior.

 

To be honest, I think his physical health is doing this. He's gained some weight, has a bad food/ankle as well as back. So he's been rather larthargic as of late, too...so may be that's it? But it's really affecting his social life.

 

Anyone can recommend anything? Could it be a health issue or he's just plain apathetic?

 

I have heard that women get to a certain age, even though single...seem to lack the "eagerness" they once had when it comes to dating. Some women have complained in men's cases at this age...that men of that age don't put much effort to their dating plans or whateve.r