Jealousy issue. Whos to blame ?

[giantxtc]

I will try to make this a short post. I'm 28, been divorced 2 years now because my wife had been cheating on me and left me for another man. My girlfriend is 26. Her Ex is an alcoholic and been in rehab countless times. She was a waitress and I met her at her work place. I Got her # and it took 2 weeks for her to finally meet me. We have been dating almost 2 years and the other night we talked about moving in together. I got cold feet and told her I'm not sure I can trust her. This is the first time trust issues has crossed my mind. My reasons are -

#1 Shes had a CRAZY sexual past. one night stands etc. - That's my biggest issue. Ive heard rumors she has even had a few since we met. coming from past co workers who HATED her, they were guys. my g/f said their starting rumors because she wouldn't sleep with them"

#2 When we met I found out she was actually talking to other guys. The only reason she met me after 2 weeks is because a guy stood her up and she didn't want to be bored all night so, she text me. That hurt pretty deep, knowing I was just her backup one night - Her excuse now was, we had just met and she was free to do what ever she wanted. Now she wish she could take back how we met because she has fell inlove with me

#3 My next issue is, she stays on my case about who I'm texting and to not have a facebook. but a few months ago she started liking a guys photo of himself and of his truck, which is lifted and very nice truck. She said she didn't see a problem with liking a guys photo and his truck. BUT, If I liked a girls photo she would flip **** on me

#4 Last issue is her EX boyfriend, which is a severe alcoholic said she cheated on him countless times. She claims he is a drunk, and trying to ruin her life.

After I brung the issues up with her trying to communicate she says I am pyscho and I'm not over the fact my wife cheated on me. She said I need to get help for my self and not "couples counseling" . All my issues date back to within our first 6 months also. She says I need to move on from the past. I feel I'm over my wife cheating, but wanted to get other peoples opinions. Maybe I am overthinking my issues with my new girlfriend ? Maybe I'm not over what my Ex wife has done and I'm taking it out on my new girl. I don't know. I'm I being over jealous ?

Edited February 13, 2014 by giantxtc

[Keenly]

the biggest red flag to me is she is telling you that you are not allowed to have a Facebook.

 

 

Don't get me wrong, Facebook is stupid, but the fact that she is telling you what you can and can't do in regards to your social life is a gigantic red flag that reeks of hypocrisy and control issues

[ThatGirl213]

So many red flags!!!!

 

She says you cannot have facebook (I suppose she thinks it is ok for her to have one), she wants to know who your are texting, doesn't want you liking any pictures of other girls, several people telling you she is a cheater, when you bring up your issue, she wants to flip and make up feel guilty about how you feel...Sounds a bit of a psycho to me.

 

Btw why do her co workers hate her so much? Because she did not sleep with them sounds a bit off.

 

I feel she wants to control you and when she knows she has you there, she might just do whatever she wants to do...And she might have whatever lame excuse she can come up with then or maybe make you feel guilty about the situation.

 

Maybe you did not move on from your ex wife's cheating but your current gf has no right to be trying to control you so much. So I don't think you are over reacting.

 

Do not give in to these kind of control freaks...Coz if you do, you are only inviting trouble.