Author nickgroce Posted February 14, 2014 Author Share Posted February 14, 2014 The reason I cried about losing my job possibly is that if I did, who knows what is out there. I was scared of the possibility of not having good income. Doesn't mean I was going to just sit and cry. I would have went looking The crying about the bills was just frustration and steess Link to post Share on other sites
Under The Radar Posted February 14, 2014 Share Posted February 14, 2014 FFS, even the Terminator understood why we cry ...... it is HUMAN. Trust me guys, you don't want to be with a woman who cannot be understanding if you need to cry ONCE IN A WHILE. The erroneous belief that crying is weak is considerably antiquated. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
kodakgirl Posted February 14, 2014 Share Posted February 14, 2014 Most of the time it is an instant attraction killer but ask yourself if you want a woman you have to constantly be a robot around. My ex said she lost attraction for me when I cried at my best friend's funeral but my wife would never say something like that. Hold out for one of those hard to find women. What a jerk your ex was to say that! Maybe it's weird but I actually find a man crying to be kind of attractive... not in a "sexy" way but if I already like him it triggers strong feelings in me too, feelings of caring and even protectiveness. I usually feel more strongly for a man (or even a male character in a movie!) if I've seen him cry. I guess maybe I find that kind of expression of vulnerability attractive. I'm drawn to humanity and emotion and tears are a definite expression of those things. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
OpheliaSong Posted February 14, 2014 Share Posted February 14, 2014 My hubby cried when each of our kids (both human and k9) died. Since his last strokes he cries all the time. He tapes old reruns of the Lone Ranger from the 1950s. He tears up every damn time the end credits roll and the LR rides off into the sunset. It breaks my heart to see him cry now as he's nearing the end. Normally I don't care to see a man cry. I don't think less of one who cries - in fact I used to get frustrated that hubby never showed emotion and I sometimes s onsidered if he cared - but a constant crier gets tiring. I try never to cry myself and when I do, I go off and cry alone. Hokey, now I am crying. Such a sweet, heartbreaking description. Hugs. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
coryallan Posted February 14, 2014 Share Posted February 14, 2014 depends on reasons. i would say you are ok Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted February 14, 2014 Share Posted February 14, 2014 I don't see a problem with it. It doesn't make any sense to look down on or deny someone the full range of normal human emotions just because of their gender. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
MsOptimist Posted February 14, 2014 Share Posted February 14, 2014 I very much prefer a men who can cry and easily express emotions. I was married to an emotionally unavailable man for almost 10 years. The only times he cried was if we were putting a beloved animal to sleep. He could never express emotion easily. The man I'm dating now is very manly, but also very in tune with his emotions and is not afraid to get emotional. He gets sentimental about his kids (happy tears, like looking at pics when they were babies) or sad parts in movies. There's a difference between a man or woman crying and being overly dramatic vs crying and being emotionally moved by something. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted February 14, 2014 Share Posted February 14, 2014 Hokey, now I am crying. Such a sweet, heartbreaking description. Hugs. My hubby cried when each of our kids (both human and k9) died. Since his last strokes he cries all the time. He tapes old reruns of the Lone Ranger from the 1950s. He tears up every damn time the end credits roll and the LR rides off into the sunset. It breaks my heart to see him cry now as he's nearing the end. Normally I don't care to see a man cry. I don't think less of one who cries - in fact I used to get frustrated that hubby never showed emotion and I sometimes s onsidered if he cared - but a constant crier gets tiring. I try never to cry myself and when I do, I go off and cry alone. I'm sending hugs to you too Hokey. You just never know what a person has been through, the pain they've endured and the strength they possess until they share something like this. I'm sending good vibes for you as well XO 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Stay_Gold Posted February 15, 2014 Share Posted February 15, 2014 I myself have some situations and stories about crying. 1. I am a "some-what" sensitive guy. I only get teary eyed when something critical/life threatening concerns my immediate families well-being, happiness or security. Honestly...I think I get it from my parents. Both my mom and dad are very emotionally unstable people. The main culprit is they suffer from anxiety and other personality disorders and therefore are "always" emotionally unstable/living on the edge. They always seem very "edgy". 2. I have NEVER cried in front of a GF/girl acquaintance. So I have no problems there. 3. I have only ever cried in front of family members, close friends and relatives. 4. I have also cried in front of co-workers/bosses. This one "bothers" me the most. Deep down...I know its "BEST" to never cry in a workplace environment. Its totally unprofessional and says you lack confidence and desirable attributes. This is one of the aspects of my life I am working on to improve and hopefully change for the better. Like what a lot of the other posters said...when I get a family in the future..."hopefully" I would "NEVER" have to cry in front of my children/wife. Thanks for hearing me out. PEACE!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 15, 2014 Share Posted February 15, 2014 My ex cried a lot. Every time we had a fight; he cried. Way more than me. I can't say I found it attractive :/ Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted February 15, 2014 Share Posted February 15, 2014 100% bad. never do it no matter what. If your mother drops dead in front of you, never let her see you shed a tear over it. no matter how much women say they want to see emotion in a man, they will subconscious lose sexual attraction and respect for a man they see cry. It may not be fair and it may not be 'right' but it is what it is. Cry to your best friend, your sister, your grandma, your clergy, your shrink or your bartender but NEVER to a woman you want to have a sexual desire for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Under The Radar Posted February 15, 2014 Share Posted February 15, 2014 100% bad. never do it no matter what. If your mother drops dead in front of you, never let her see you shed a tear over it. no matter how much women say they want to see emotion in a man, they will subconscious lose sexual attraction and respect for a man they see cry. It may not be fair and it may not be 'right' but it is what it is. Cry to your best friend, your sister, your grandma, your clergy, your shrink or your bartender but NEVER to a woman you want to have a sexual desire for you. I have to respectfully disagree with you on this. I don't cry often, but on the rare occasion that I have, it was never poorly received by the woman I was with. In fact, surprisingly, it had the exact opposite effect in that it brought us closer together. The key is in not crying all of the time and having the right partner. Crying all of the time IS weak, unattractive, and childish. I do agree that outside of a committed LTR, crying in front of an attractive girl one might be interested in, would not be advisable. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted February 15, 2014 Share Posted February 15, 2014 I teared up at the end of Captain Phillips, when Tom Hanks' character is in shock of the ordeal he went through. Does this make me less of a man even though I am comfortable with showing my emotions? With some women, of course. And that type of woman I would stop seeing immediately. There's nothing wrong for showing your emotions, being human, as long as you exhibit self-control. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GoreSP Posted February 15, 2014 Share Posted February 15, 2014 can it be a horrible thing to cry in front of your girlfriend/wife? Me and a co worker argued about this today actually I have been with my girl for 10 months and have cried 3 times in front of her 1)Was possibly getting laid off and I talked to my girlfriend about it and was just frustrating 2)At christmas when she wrote me a really sweet message in a card about how much she cares about me 3)A month ago when I had an anxiety attack because I fell behind on bills due to a car repair My co worker said never cry in front of a girl but i dont think its bad if its something legit what you think? Well if my boyfriend cried in front of me I would probably be a little creeped out at first (more in a 'oh sh*t what do I do?? way) but I wouldn't think any less of him because he cried in front of me. How did she react? Link to post Share on other sites
WP4046 Posted February 15, 2014 Share Posted February 15, 2014 can it be a horrible thing to cry in front of your girlfriend/wife? Me and a co worker argued about this today actually I have been with my girl for 10 months and have cried 3 times in front of her 1)Was possibly getting laid off and I talked to my girlfriend about it and was just frustrating 2)At christmas when she wrote me a really sweet message in a card about how much she cares about me 3)A month ago when I had an anxiety attack because I fell behind on bills due to a car repair My co worker said never cry in front of a girl but i dont think its bad if its something legit what you think? No grown man should be crying about a layoff or overdue bills. So you probably looked very feminine Link to post Share on other sites
WP4046 Posted February 15, 2014 Share Posted February 15, 2014 The reason I cried about losing my job possibly is that if I did, who knows what is out there. I was scared of the possibility of not having good income. Doesn't mean I was going to just sit and cry. I would have went looking The crying about the bills was just frustration and steess If you lose your job it's no time to cry, you have to come up with a solution to return back to the workforce 1 Link to post Share on other sites
WP4046 Posted February 16, 2014 Share Posted February 16, 2014 I cry several times a month and it's because of attitudes like yours that I'll always be seen as a loser. how would a woman feel safe around a guy in public who crys all the time? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
WP4046 Posted February 16, 2014 Share Posted February 16, 2014 I cry several times a month, which to my knowledge isn't all the time. But whatever, I will always been seen as a loser in this world. What's just fascinating are all the women who feel "safe" around the charming good looking guy who has a criminal past, yet get creeped out if a guy cries several times a month. You can cry, just in private Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 16, 2014 Share Posted February 16, 2014 I cry several times a month and it's because of attitudes like yours that I'll always be seen as a loser. It really isn't an attitude.. I posted what works for me and how I handle those intense feelings.. if crying works for you don't let me stop you.. you aren't a loser for crying.. no more than I'm a winner for not crying.. not crying doesn't make me a winner.. it makes me who I am... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 16, 2014 Share Posted February 16, 2014 My co worker said never cry in front of a girl but i dont think its bad if its something legit what you think? 1 and 3 keep to yourself. 2 is OK Unfortunately, my natural inclination to be emotionally expressive was literally beaten out of me by men so I don't cry anymore, even when people die. A close friend died a month ago and another female friend was just diagnosed with brain cancer and I feel really bad about those things but...nothing. It's gone. You're young. Be selective and don't let them get to you. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
blondiechika Posted February 16, 2014 Share Posted February 16, 2014 Id think it was cute to be honest Link to post Share on other sites
Eivuwan Posted February 16, 2014 Share Posted February 16, 2014 Personally, I think that if you believe in gender equality, then men should be able to express their emotions as freely as any female. Also, why does it matter what other people think? What matters is what your gf thinks and if she thinks poorly of you because you are human and have moments of weakness, then do you really want to be with her? It seems like she is understanding, so what's the problem? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Eivuwan Posted February 16, 2014 Share Posted February 16, 2014 Anyway, men are people too. Crying as a stress release is natural and as long as it's not done too often, it is better than the way some people deal with their emotions (alcoholism, etc). Link to post Share on other sites
nomadic_butterfly Posted February 16, 2014 Share Posted February 16, 2014 Definitely depends on the girl. I'd personally think you were a wuss. I prefer a manly man. I like a man who can express himself and is sensitive but crying is too extreme IMO. I can cry enough for the both of us. The exception is death of a loved one. LMBO OMG tell us how you really feel mamasita! Link to post Share on other sites
nomadic_butterfly Posted February 16, 2014 Share Posted February 16, 2014 can it be a horrible thing to cry in front of your girlfriend/wife? Me and a co worker argued about this today actually I have been with my girl for 10 months and have cried 3 times in front of her 1)Was possibly getting laid off and I talked to my girlfriend about it and was just frustrating 2)At christmas when she wrote me a really sweet message in a card about how much she cares about me 3)A month ago when I had an anxiety attack because I fell behind on bills due to a car repair My co worker said never cry in front of a girl but i dont think its bad if its something legit what you think? As long as you don't come off as emotionally unstable I guess it's fine. I'd personally feel weird about a man crying all the time. As a female, I seldom cry. I had an ex that would even purposely try to "make me cry" because he said I am not normal for a woman. I dated an actor once and he cried about every little thing. I found it comical. Then when I told him I don't see us going further he did a dramatic departure with tears, talk to the hand gesture and all as I boarded the train. It was very hard to take him seriously. He then said he feigned it all. To me a habitual cryer is insincere and/or emotionally unstable. I love my men macho; cry when someone dies/get seriously hurt, etc. but for more trivial things I'd find it weird. There are women who will eat that up though so it's about finding the girl who accepts you for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts