JoL Posted January 29, 2005 Share Posted January 29, 2005 what happens when you ask her again, and she says no? what will you do then? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Midwest guy Posted January 29, 2005 Author Share Posted January 29, 2005 Originally posted by JoL what happens when you ask her again, and she says no? what will you do then? I'll just feel sad. I mean why did being persistant according to her turn her off for? Why is it girls dont like pushy guys? Is it cause if they get into a relationship with a pushy guy they would call them all the time? Why do women think of the kind of guys that call a gal like 2am in the morning and talk non stop? Link to post Share on other sites
JoL Posted January 29, 2005 Share Posted January 29, 2005 Girls want to be with the kind of guy who will give her space, let her do her own thing and still have fun. You aren't even dating this girl and you are already calling her when she says NOT TO. You are going to be very disappointed when she wont want to go on a date. All the sings point in that direction im afraid. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Midwest guy Posted January 29, 2005 Author Share Posted January 29, 2005 Originally posted by JoL Girls want to be with the kind of guy who will give her space, let her do her own thing and still have fun. You aren't even dating this girl and you are already calling her when she says NOT TO. You are going to be very disappointed when she wont want to go on a date. All the sings point in that direction im afraid. Why did she say again she would call me back? Could it be cause shes afraid to tell me no and afriad of hurting me? She is a polite girl so at the same time she is trying not to make me feel like a bad person. On the other hand she did admit I was pushy. I mean if she didnt want to go to dinner with me she should have told me the first time I asked her out so I guess maybe she did at first have slight interest. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Midwest guy Posted January 29, 2005 Author Share Posted January 29, 2005 If I call her on Valentines day and tell her I miss her would that sound tacky? I mean we havent went out but since shes two hours away is that ok to do since I want to date her? Link to post Share on other sites
unreal Posted January 29, 2005 Share Posted January 29, 2005 Midwest Guy: Every last one of your questions have been answered OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN! You keep saying and asking the same things over again. So what, she is polite and nice. She obviously doesn't want you and is not interested in you. Yes, you have scared her away. No, you will not be able to change that now by repeating the same behavior that scared her away in the beginning. Let's look at some of your behavior patterns here. First, she never gave you her phone number, yet you got it elsewhere and called her. You asked if you could call again, she said NO and was upset that you called her the first time. Second, she told you that she would like you to stop calling and she would call you. She never called you when she said she would. Third, she told you that you are too pushy and she ISN'T interested. She doesn't want to date you. There is no misunderstanding with this situation. This isn't rocket science here buddy! You can go on and on about how she lives 150 miles away and she is busy with this and that, but it doesn't make a difference. Let her go or you may end up going to jail VERY SOON for harrassment and stalking. What you are doing right now is STALKING her. That is a pretty serious thing nowadays. Go find yourself another polite and nice girl and take things SLOWLY with her. There is no way you can just meet someone without ever going out with them and act the way you are doing right now with this girl. You say you miss her badly and want to call her on Valentines Day and may move up to Quincy where she is staying? You don't even know her for god sakes! This has become creepy! I almost wish this girl posted on this site, I would give her advice on how to get away from you instead! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Midwest guy Posted January 29, 2005 Author Share Posted January 29, 2005 Originally posted by unreal Midwest Guy: Every last one of your questions have been answered OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN! You keep saying and asking the same things over again. So what, she is polite and nice. She obviously doesn't want you and is not interested in you. Yes, you have scared her away. No, you will not be able to change that now by repeating the same behavior that scared her away in the beginning. Let's look at some of your behavior patterns here. First, she never gave you her phone number, yet you got it elsewhere and called her. You asked if you could call again, she said NO and was upset that you called her the first time. Second, she told you that she would like you to stop calling and she would call you. She never called you when she said she would. Third, she told you that you are too pushy and she ISN'T interested. She doesn't want to date you. There is no misunderstanding with this situation. This isn't rocket science here buddy! You can go on and on about how she lives 150 miles away and she is busy with this and that, but it doesn't make a difference. Let her go or you may end up going to jail VERY SOON for harrassment and stalking. What you are doing right now is STALKING her. That is a pretty serious thing nowadays. Go find yourself another polite and nice girl and take things SLOWLY with her. There is no way you can just meet someone without ever going out with them and act the way you are doing right now with this girl. You say you miss her badly and want to call her on Valentines Day and may move up to Quincy where she is staying? You don't even know her for god sakes! This has become creepy! I almost wish this girl posted on this site, I would give her advice on how to get away from you instead! Shes a soccer player. I'll pm you her pic on the univ site if you want. Im not no stalker just someone who wants a date with a hot chick. Link to post Share on other sites
Beth Posted January 29, 2005 Share Posted January 29, 2005 Originally posted by Midwest guy I've never had a gf before and my head doc said I should try to social more and I got the balls to ask a chick out whos beautiful, and yet is my type of gal. I mean shes single too and only has had one bf before. It hurts me cause she should have at least gave me a shot. Midwest guy: Please, print out this entire thread and take it with you when you see your "head doc" and let him read it and discuss it with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Midwest guy Posted January 29, 2005 Author Share Posted January 29, 2005 Originally posted by Beth Midwest guy: Please, print out this entire thread and take it with you when you see your "head doc" and let him read it and discuss it with you. Why? I mean my doc said maybe she wasnt interested and he said its not a big deal. My mom said shes worried that I might not know how to handle rejection. Women dont understand how mens hormones are. I mean this girl is hot, and shes polite, single and is the type of gal I want. She should give me a shot. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Midwest guy Posted January 30, 2005 Author Share Posted January 30, 2005 All the guys at work nag on me now about how I cant even buy a girl lol cause of the whole giftcard thing I got for her. They say after over a month its still funny. One of the guys said shes just trying to play me and to move on. This girl is too cute to let slip away. Link to post Share on other sites
Screenplay Posted January 30, 2005 Share Posted January 30, 2005 Well, I had a similiar situation that maybe relates to this in some way (Though not to this scale). I met this wonderful girl named Erin at work, we hit it off well, and after a month or so I got her number. We called each other every 2-3 days for a couple weeks, each time talking for about 30-45 minutes. However about this time last week, presumably due to some drama with her "ex" (Long story), she suddenly became totally disinterested in me. I tried calling her a week ago and left a message for her to call, talked to her briefly in person on thursday and she said she was sorry for not calling but danced around actually saying shed call or not, and on saturday when I actually got ahold of her she gave a couple excuses as to how busy she was, said shed call back in a few minutes, and never called. My take is that simply put something happened that changed her outlook either on me, or on dating in general. The way I see it, she knows how to contact me and if she does Id pick things back up in a heartbeat, but otherwise despite how strongly I felt such a relationship would work Ive decided its time to just cut the losses and move on. Many of the people here who have weighed in with advice of their own are largely correct in what they say, it would do you good to seriously stop calling her but also to push her out of your mind. You dont have to forget about her nor do you have to deny what you feel for her, but at the same time you have to realize that she really doesnt seem to feel the same way towards you. I say this because Ive had to do the same thing with Erin. It is best not just for her but for yourself to just take a deep breath, realize that things just probably arent going to work out in the way you had hoped, and move on. Sure, this woman was your type, but there are others, many others. Take what you have learned from this situation and apply it to the undebatable fact that there are other women out there looking for someone just like you. Honestly, theres not much that I can say that hasn't been said already. You are obviously infatuated with this woman, but at the same time a person needs to know when to just let go. As hard as it seems, nothing is going to make the uneasy feelings you have about this whole thing go away until just force yourself to step away. If she genuinely wants to be with you she undoubtedly knows where to find you and how to contact you, but don't beat yourself up by waiting around in those places forever or waiting by the phone either. If I were you, and I say this as someone who has firsthand knowledge of the boat youre in, I would just move on. She was a great person, yes, but there are many, many other great people out there. Link to post Share on other sites
Beth Posted January 30, 2005 Share Posted January 30, 2005 Midwest guy, I am going to close this thread to further posting because we feel this thread has gotten repetitive and that a number of opinions have been rehashed multiple times. It doesn't seem that you are getting the answers you want. Maybe its time you explore why you think she should "give you a shot" with your doctor. Perhaps he or she can give you the answers for which you seek. Good Luck with this. Link to post Share on other sites
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