Poor Self Esteem

[Trnamakesnse]

I've had poor self esteem since I was a kid, I'm 27 now and finally realized all my relationships and friendships have really been ruined not because of myself really but my poor self image. I had a hard childhood but I got through all that and made great improvements to myself. I've already started having better self esteem by sticking to my morals and standing up for myself and not being around people who treat me badly. I'd like any tips everyone can provide to help me have better self esteem. Currently I'm looking for a job so I can get my own place having just finished college I've been a full time student a long time but I finished.

[SadNLonley]

Just like you, I have always had low self esteem. My breakup really make me open my eyes as to how low I think of myself. I started doing some research online and found that if you can work on positive affirmations, get these good thoughts in your head on a daily basis and one day you actually start believing these thoughts. An example they used was... what is 2 + 2? 4 right? How do you know that? Its because we were taught memorization. After you see and do these things over and over, it automatically comes to you without thinking about it.

 

So, what I started doing just a couple days ago is going to Youtube and searching for Positive Affirmations and listen to this with headphones on. They say it could take 60 days, but once the mind memorizes these things, you believe its true.

 

Good luck. I hope you start feeling better about yourself.

[mea_M]

Hi there. Best advice I can offer is forget the world around you and get to know who you are. In other words, you need to dig deep and find out what it is that's causing your low self esteem. This is something that can be repaired. It might not happen overnight, but little steps to get to know who you really are will help. Hang I'm there, you can do this!

 

Mea

[Trnamakesnse]

I think I already know what's given me my low self esteem. Thing is I was born mildly autistic. Of the very highest functioning level, I'm perfectly capable of being independant and honestly have learned a lot of social skills to the point no one ever knows I am at all unless I feel like telling them. But as a child I was picked on and as a teen I was looked down on. As an adult I've learned how to avoid all those things that I did and improved myself beyond anyone else's expectations of me. My mother was told I'd need to be institutionalized as a child for the the rest of my life. I graduated high school public school and then went to finish and get a degree. I've held one job for five years and made friends with everyone there. The only person who knew I had aspergers was my boss and only because my mother told her >.>... But I got along really well with everyone. I always do now haha it's gotten super easy to make friends.

[regine_phalange]

I think I already know what's given me my low self esteem. Thing is I was born mildly autistic. Of the very highest functioning level, I'm perfectly capable of being independant and honestly have learned a lot of social skills to the point no one ever knows I am at all unless I feel like telling them. But as a child I was picked on and as a teen I was looked down on. As an adult I've learned how to avoid all those things that I did and improved myself beyond anyone else's expectations of me. My mother was told I'd need to be institutionalized as a child for the the rest of my life. I graduated high school public school and then went to finish and get a degree. I've held one job for five years and made friends with everyone there. The only person who knew I had aspergers was my boss and only because my mother told her >.>... But I got along really well with everyone. I always do now haha it's gotten super easy to make friends.

 

That's something beyond your control, and not your fault. It's also no one else's business! You are who you are, with small imperfections, we are all imperfect. No reason for self pitying, if you were someone else, wouldn't you like Trnamakesnse?

 

I've already started having better self esteem by sticking to my morals and standing up for myself and not being around people who treat me badly.

That's more than half the battle!

 

I got more self esteem when I started practicing Yoga.

Makes me feel happy, my body feels like a feather. These 40 minutes per day I spend time with my self alone, feeling the small miracle of my body which I often overlook.

[Under The Radar]

A career you enjoy and a home for yourself will be huge for increasing self-esteem. As mentioned, you are already working towards that.

 

I'd definitely add some form of exercise to the list. Having a nice fit body, at an appropriate weight for your height, will significantly improve your confidence.

 

The best method ever devised for physique transformation is strength training ...... specifically with barbells, dumbbells, and bodyweight calisthenics.

[Trnamakesnse]

I started dieting but gave up again... I lpst twenty pounds in a month. When i was 15 i lost 50 in 3 months. All i did was count calories and run almost everyday playing BBALL. I lose weight too fast i'm told my whole family is skinny though but me. I tried exercising but it's hard learning all the stuff i need to know. Right now i just want a job and to keep telling myself nice things basically. Trying not to get depressed overwhat happened. I've been slowly improving my self esteem over the years and honestly i had a crappy friend who got upset everytime i tried to exercise or just anything to improve my feelings of my self but they're gone now. Trying not to fall into depression between school and getting a job hah. Keeping my thoughts happy and looking forward is helping. Tbh i like having a bit of a belly makes me feel filled out i was skinny a long time didn't enjoy that