How do I make him comfortable with LDR?

[ShreyaD]

I met an amazing guy while I went back home. Its fair to say that he seems like the perfect guy for me and I really like him. He told me he really likes me as well. We both felt an instant connection and things got going. However, I study in another country so I can only see him every four months. He has never done long distance before so I can tell he is uncomfortable, but he said he will give it a go. We are trialling it for one semester to see if it lasts and if it doesn't then we will go our separate ways. I really don't want to lose him. How do I make him feel more comfortable?

[malxme]

Im in a similar situation. Met a great guy, but he is moving. Unfortunately my guy isn't keen on long distance, so thats pretty much the end of it, nothing I can do. I've done long distance before and it IS hard, but if you put in heaps of effort its doable. Whats really troublesome is feeling that one person is putting in more effort than the other. You both need to work at it, you need really strong communication, need to keep in contact regularly. I used to do silly things like eat dinner with him over video chat, play scrabble online against him, so we had a regular thing we did together. I think it's really important that you are both on the same page in terms of what you expect in your LDR. Eg, if you're like me and would like to speak to him say once a day, make sure he knows that. Even if its only an email, you need to feel like youre part of each others lives. I would pack up a box of treats i thought he would like and mail it to him as a surprise. Just making sure he knew i was still around, even if not physical. Work at it, and it may just work out Good luck!