AnneT1985 Posted February 16, 2014 Share Posted February 16, 2014 If you were at an event and your new husband's ex girlfriend who he is no longer in contact with happened to be there and you periodically noticed your husband's sister (your new SIL) socializing with her throughout the night, but asked her to exchange numbers and hang out only when you were standing right there saying hello- would you take this as an immature or nasty act toward you? Link to post Share on other sites
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 16, 2014 Share Posted February 16, 2014 I read your other thread and the sister just sounds like she's immature or enjoys the drama. I wouldn't worry about it. And if they went on a handful of dates decades ago I wouldn't go stressing about it being his 'ex-girlfriend'. I would take what D0nnivain suggested you do. Be pleasant and polite, but guarded, around the SIL. And forget and move on. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnneT1985 Posted February 16, 2014 Author Share Posted February 16, 2014 (edited) thanks dear- I was referring to a real ex gf this time though haha;) xx Edited February 16, 2014 by AnneT1985 spelling errors Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted February 16, 2014 Share Posted February 16, 2014 Your SIL can be friends with whoever she likes. If she were sniffy with you, and gushing over her, yeah - bit weird - but otherwise I'd suggest it's nothing to dwell on. Link to post Share on other sites
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 16, 2014 Share Posted February 16, 2014 thanks dear- I was referring to a real ex gf this time though haha;) xx Oh really? Lol, sorry. That's quite a coincidence that you've ran into his exes at two separate events, both with his meddling sister getting involved... what's with her? I wouldn't take it personally, at all. Plenty of people stay in touch with exes of people in their lives, especially if it was a long relationship and you kept in touch with the family afterwards. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 16, 2014 Share Posted February 16, 2014 If you were at an event and your new husband's ex girlfriend who he is no longer in contact with happened to be there and you periodically noticed your husband's sister (your new SIL) socializing with her throughout the night, but asked her to exchange numbers and hang out only when you were standing right there saying hello- would you take this as an immature or nasty act toward you? His sister's friendships with whomever, even an ex of her brother's, shouldn't upset or bother you. I doubt it was a nasty act or immature act against you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnneT1985 Posted February 17, 2014 Author Share Posted February 17, 2014 Certainly not a friendship itself that is an issue. It was choosing the timing of initiating a friendship with an ex that I was curious about. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnneT1985 Posted February 17, 2014 Author Share Posted February 17, 2014 (edited) But that's just me- personally if I wanted to rekindle or start a relationship with my brother's ex, which I likely wouldn't if we weren't already friends and had each other's phone numbers, it would be at a time when his new wife wasn't standing right beside me and when I had plenty of opportunity to do so at other times:) Edited February 17, 2014 by AnneT1985 Link to post Share on other sites
Anne Boleyn Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 Depends on what your relationship with your SIL is. If it's friendly and she likes you, I'd think nothing of it. If it's contentious, then maybe there's something to it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnneT1985 Posted February 17, 2014 Author Share Posted February 17, 2014 (edited) Thanks a lot. I do not know her much at all which is why I posted to y'all:) and you are such a helpful and kind crowd! xx Edited February 17, 2014 by AnneT1985 Link to post Share on other sites
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