d.ariel007 Posted February 16, 2014 Share Posted February 16, 2014 My boyfriend and I have been on and off for the last 6 months due to him being too impulsive by starting fights often. These fights were him accusing me of cheating, though I have never cheated on him or even looked at another man during these months. During our last break he met a random homeless girl and decided to invite her to live with him. He had even invited her to sleep in his bed with him. He later told me about this and explained that she was never living with him, but was just leaving her stuff at his place. Supposedly because she was staying at different guys houses every night. Yesterday, I was hanging out at his place with him and I noticed a random make-up bag in his bathroom that wasn't there earlier in the day. An hour later she comes knocking on the door, she walks in barely says hi to me, then walks into the bedroom to make conversation with my boyfriend, while I'm sitting in the living room. She stayed for about 15 minutes and then left. He barely told me that she was still coming over and never mentioned that she stopped by earlier that day nor did he attempt to introduce me to her. He denies he's ever cheated on me, but this situation just doesn't make sense to me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted February 16, 2014 Share Posted February 16, 2014 Of course he has. No hetero man would just resist when there's another girl laying next to him in his bed. Just be careful; if it's still true that she sleeps around with other men, you could get a STD from your boyfriend. If you still want this relationship despite these skyscraper-sized red flags, ask for having him tested regulary. If not daily. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
ThatMan Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 Do you have any personal experience with homelessness? Normally I might add something to the lines of, blah blah blah, do whatever is best for you, I wasn't there and I do not know what happened, and so on. This time, however, I would would count on it. Get tested for STDs right away. It's common for jerks like your boyfriend to agree to allow homeless girls stay in exchange for sex. More people do this than you might think. That's why she's been passing around with all these men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 I'm sorry, but dafuq?!? It sounds to me like she's still living there. And you can be almost 100% assured that he's slept with her. Girl...RUN. And get tested pronto. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Cakess Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 Your health is in danger. Get tested. Dump your bf. He is taking advantage of a woman and I find totally disrespectful and disgusting. You can do better. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
FnlyFrei Posted February 20, 2014 Share Posted February 20, 2014 Live with him? Sleep in his bed ?!?! Get away from him. What a pig ! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted February 20, 2014 Share Posted February 20, 2014 My boyfriend and I have been on and off for the last 6 months due to him being too impulsive by starting fights often. These fights were him accusing me of cheating, though I have never cheated on him or even looked at another man during these months. During our last break he met a random homeless girl and decided to invite her to live with him. He had even invited her to sleep in his bed with him. He later told me about this and explained that she was never living with him, but was just leaving her stuff at his place. Supposedly because she was staying at different guys houses every night. Yesterday, I was hanging out at his place with him and I noticed a random make-up bag in his bathroom that wasn't there earlier in the day. An hour later she comes knocking on the door, she walks in barely says hi to me, then walks into the bedroom to make conversation with my boyfriend, while I'm sitting in the living room. She stayed for about 15 minutes and then left. He barely told me that she was still coming over and never mentioned that she stopped by earlier that day nor did he attempt to introduce me to her. He denies he's ever cheated on me, but this situation just doesn't make sense to me. There are 2 issues here that are disturbing : 1 - his jealousy, his arguments, your on/off relationship ... that's not healthy. Why do you want to live in this constant state of drama ? Did you kill someone and are being punished now for it ? 2 - another girl is living there with him. Do not ever accept this kind of behaviour. I accepted it [for a while], she even slept over at some guy's place [3 guys actually, it was a college room in a dorm]. Ppl who are in relationships, and are good partners are mindfull of these situations and avoid them. Even if she was his very platonic friend that he knew since they were infants, it would be a 'meh' situation. He is using her, for sex and for creating drama in your relationship with you ... why are you staying for this drama ? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Jethro Posted February 20, 2014 Share Posted February 20, 2014 I'm sorry, but dafuq?!? I'm just gonna repeat the most poignant thing in this thread- dafuq? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 21, 2014 Share Posted February 21, 2014 So he asked a woman to live with him, sleeping in his bed, leaving stuff in his bathroom... and somehow you're still sticking with him? Are you for real? Seriously? How can ANYBODY be so naive? They are having sex with each other, and he might be taking advantage of her by exchanging his bed for the night for her body. Either way, why on earth would you still want anything to do with him? The day a boyfriend of mine has another chick semi-move in or sleep in his bed with him is the day we are no longer together and NC is instigated. He will walk all over you. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Poppygoodwill Posted February 21, 2014 Share Posted February 21, 2014 The fact that she ignored you and he didn't bother to try to introduce you....and you're his gf, right? Run away my friend. And get tested because if she's bed surfing she's no doubt bringing little crotch gremlins along for the ride. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mr_dave Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 The fact that she ignored you and he didn't bother to try to introduce you....and you're his gf, right? Run away my friend. And get tested because if she's bed surfing she's no doubt bringing little crotch gremlins along for the ride. I wish I could like this a million times, I died laughing at "little crotch gremlins" Post of the year! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mr_dave Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 On a serious note, if I were a single guy with my own place, and became friends with a homeless girl, I would probably offer her somewhere to stay, unless I suspected she were into drugs, or likely to steal. Without any exploitation involved... But if I had a girlfriend, there's no way I would, it does look rather bad. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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