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Originally posted by iceisles

She sent me a long e-mail to apologize for being so busy and said "I guess we can get together for Valentine's Day". I told her, "Thanks, but I've changed my mind." If that's as enthused as she's going to get, I don't want to go. Accept halfhearted offers? I think not.

 

Her: "I guess"....?????

 

 

Good for you Iceisles.

 

You should have said, "Thanks, but I've changed my mind. I GUESS I'm busy." :rolleyes:

 

 

Excellent.

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Originally posted by iceisles

Let us know how it goes if you do.

 

Sure. She usd the same excuse last time she would call me. I dont understand why she didnt like me calling her the first time. Im going to tell her my feelings and that I really miss her. I just dont think its fair she judged me before even letting me take her out to dinner. I dont think thats fair.

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Originally posted by Midwest guy

I dont think thats fair.

 

I agree, but apparently romance doesn't always play fair.

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Originally posted by iceisles

I agree, but apparently romance doesn't always play fair.

 

Well my chances might not be good but Im going to like they do in hockey "crash the net" and try everything to score. Having any other last ditch ideas that I can win her over with?

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Originally posted by Midwest guy

Well my chances might not be good but Im going to like they do in hockey "crash the net" and try everything to score. Having any other last ditch ideas that I can win her over with?

 

Sometimes when you "crash the net", you wind up in it or taking a puck off the face, so be prepared for that. Whatever you do, don't push too hard. It's obviously a turn off and will set you back. Slow and steady seems to be what's preached around here. Next time you call her, be casual and friendly. If you feel comfortable asking about getting together, go ahead and do it.

 

Just be safe. I'd hate to see you crash the net and be left pulling your own goalie on Saturday night.

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Originally posted by Midwest guy

Sure. She usd the same excuse last time she would call me. I dont understand why she didnt like me calling her the first time. Im going to tell her my feelings and that I really miss her. I just dont think its fair she judged me before even letting me take her out to dinner. I dont think thats fair.

 

Ok, I may just have gotten half of the story, but sincerely, I wouldn´t want any guy that I barely know to lay all his feelings to me. I simply DO NOT wish to know too much too soon. That´s one thing.

 

Second, there´s no damn fairness when you date someone. I think it was immoralist who said dating is discriminatory, selective and absolutely NOT fair. You have absolutely no right to expect her to give you a chance and go out with you. One of my friends recently complained about it - "you never gave me a chance". Well, I don´t give a damn. I do not want to date him and I do not want to give him a chance. I know him well enough to say that I do not want to date him. He thinks it´s not fair, I think it´s just not my obligation to give anybody any chances. It´s my right to chose if I want to go out with him or not. And this girl also have the right to tell you that she simply doesn´t want to give you a chance and go out with you. She has no right to play games with you, but she has absolutely no obligation to give anybody any chances. It´s her time, it´s her life and it´s her decision.

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Originally posted by kooky

I think it was immoralist who said dating is discriminatory, selective and absolutely NOT fair.

 

yeah KOOKY, and I would extrapolate the above comment to life in general also, not just dating.

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Originally posted by alphamale

yeah KOOKY, and I would extrapolate the above comment to life in general also, not just dating.

 

Well, I wouldn´t go so far. For example, I do no support racism, but if someone prefers his mates to be of a special race I wouldn´t necessarily call this racist.

 

I´m just tired of this special friend of mine who recently complained again. Always nagging about me not going out with him even though we were friends. Hey man, I know how it is to go out with a friend who´s just a friend and a friend who hopes it will turn into a date! This time he was complaining about me never giving him a chance. Well, damn it, nobody has a right to have a date with me, this is so absolutely ridiculous!!! And it´s nobody´s business who I´m in love with.

 

I do believe people have the right not to get mislead or cheated on, but I don´t think you can demand from someone feelings that the other person doesn´t have. You should be honest about them, but that´s it.

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