What have I done?

[blind_otter]

Originally posted by Grinning Maniac

You missed a stereotype: the delusional people in crap relationships looking for validation. Whoops.

 

:lmao:

[GirlDown]

Originally posted by Debo

LOL, Tell us how you really feel, GirlDown.

 

 

[GirlDown]

Originally posted by aurora19

Girl Down

Sorry in high school when I was a "hopeless romantic" I had cute crushes on nice guys & I kept my legs closed! (so at you least you waited until you had a serious relationship to start whoring, congratulations on that!)

 

Sorry to hear you have deep seated issues about the blow jobs you gave the football team to fit in! (hahaha, that was pretty funny, but i actually never did that, especially with the football guys...i fit in long before i ever gave anyone a blow job! it just got even more popular after that.

 

Ok, GirlDown you want a drama queen, I'll give you an ****ing drama queen. (too late)

 

I am going to be brutally honest with you (finally, honesty about something...)

 

I love my fiancee, I am going to marry him, he has done bad, I have done bad, overall we are blissfully happy! ( )

 

We work thorough it all & again most of the problems have to be over glorified, it's what you all want to hear anyways. Because this is the real truth, I have not been getting laid, but I love this man! You have all gone around & around in circles convincing me that this is right & this is wrong & maybe it's b/c of this & that & oh wait what about that terrible thing that happened 5 years ago. And then I am convinced I am bad, bad, bad! I was trying to be straight up & hear some "helpful realistic" advice & instead I get a bunch of Oprah & Dr. Phil's & their fluffy "I am holier than thou attitude". Gosh, stop deep frying your brains in self help hell!! (um....okay...)

 

Sometimes believe it or not people, there are some wonderfully good human beings out there who **** up & lie & cheat & for silly reasons. Point in case.

Look I am getting married, that's the rest of my life!!! That's scary **** (we all may be in agreement, it sure is scary that you're getting married)

Everyone's a dirty dog somehow! (nope, just you)

 

I know some of you don't want to hear that, but I imagine that's why you're all on this web site, b/c someone did an oh so horrible thing to you... come on none of you will EVER know the REAL story, you hear bits & pieces here & there. (so i guess we'll be meeting your faincee soon, then...)

 

No one would listen to you with seriousness in the "real world", that's why your ranting here... (so that's why you're here...)

 

You know what I want to say to all of you, sort out your own damn problems! Your gut instinct is your best friend!! Talk to the people who really know you! Don't resort to here b/c your only real friend is a pet snake you call "Gandalf" (okay, now what the hell are you talking about?)

 

I am sexually frustrated, I wanted to **** the ex & I did & it was great!!!!! (yup, you're right, you are definitely not a slut, and that comment completely proved it, thank you for confirming your chastity... )

 

But, it was wrong, I feel bad, it's over & it will NEVER happen again b/c know I am sure I want to be with my fiancee despite everything (usually one decides this BEFORE an engagement, but better late than never, right? )

 

Even the good can be bad, in my everyday "real" existence people think I am as sweet as honey & pie. go figure!!!( yes go figure, and go figure that when you turn you back they say the same things to each other about you that you've been hearing here) Because normally I am, but damn you people know how to make people feel bad & convince them that things are worse than they really are! (i guess some of us thought it was prett bad for obvious reasons)

 

I made a wrong turn going to this site! Next time I'll turn to people who know me & I will listen to my heart & my heart thinks this is better left in the past!!!!

 

Good luck, but you'll never get what you all need here! It's outside of here!!!

 

Now I'll leave you over pretenscious a**h***s to name call me & pysco analaze me! Good lord when did you all become "experts"!

 

 

Bon voyage, and enjoy your one way trip to denial world.

[katie79]

Okay...

we've already established it was wrong of her to cheat.

We've said it a hundred times...I'm sure she gets the point. What amazes me is the little attention people are giving to the fact her fiance has cheated before, left her for another woman, and probably still is doing this (once a cheat always a cheat!).

 

Let's get over the fact it was wrong. In this particular case, aurora main problem stems from low self-esteem:

 

She has been cheated on and rejected by this man numerous times in the past and has accepted his behavior. Although it has hurt her, she blocked it out at the surface, and buried it for a while. After the "buried matter" arose, her defense mechanism was to go out and do the same thing. Deep down she was burned by his past and present behavior. At this point, she doesn't realize the cause of her actions are because her fiance was such a sh*t to her in the past and present, and she should have dumped him a while back. Now she feels guilty.

 

What would I do if I were you, aurora??

 

I would tell my fiance what happened.

Nor would I feel too terrible about it, since he did the same to you twice (he probably did cheat with the other girl he left you for!) and his attention span towards you sux anyway.

 

You accepted his behavior of betrayl in the past, so he should accept yours and you both should never do this again. If he can't accept it, leave. F*ck if you have "wedding plans", not worth the rest of your life.

 

Not to be judgemental, but *just my opinion*, this relationship sounds doomed beyond repair. Too much betrayl, cheating, abandonment has occurred. It's a train wreck. Find a man who is honest and faithful to you, this way you don't feel the need for revenge or attention.