jcm101 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 So i'm 21 in college. I've had plenty of one night stands with girls (not something im really proud of but whatever), i've been told im good looking, I talk to plenty of girls at bars..which is my problem. I don't know where else to meet GF material girls and the bars are sure not it. We would really have to click for me to date a girl I met from a college bar. I never really have any decent looking girls in my classes. I guess maybe cold approach? The bus maybe? lol I really don't know.
Barbarossa Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Do you like sports? I have had some success with intramurals. What about clubs or other organizations at school? Most people at bars are just looking to hook up
Author jcm101 Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 Do you like sports? I have had some success with intramurals. What about clubs or other organizations at school? Most people at bars are just looking to hook up I do, but I just do intramurals with guy friends. And not in any clubs, maybe i'll join one. I just see so many guys with GFs and the first things I think, is how they met each other. I'm a good looking guy. I'm not saying it as being cocky or w/e. I've been told. I even get tons of matches on Tinder. I've gone on a few dates, but nothing further recently. I just really want a GF (never had one). I'm getting sick of the bar scene and just hooking up with a girl one night and never hearing from again.
Phoe Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 I never really have any decent looking girls in my classes. Maybe your standards are too high? Most girls really are decent looking. A huge chunk of the female population is at least average looking, which typically equates to some decent or cute looks. If you are in college with a bunch of young girls and have been taking all these classes and have NEVER had a decent girl in any of them, then your idea of decent is probably really skewed. 4
Barbarossa Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 I do, but I just do intramurals with guy friends. And not in any clubs, maybe i'll join one. I just see so many guys with GFs and the first things I think, is how they met each other. I'm a good looking guy. I'm not saying it as being cocky or w/e. I've been told. I even get tons of matches on Tinder. I've gone on a few dates, but nothing further recently. I just really want a GF (never had one). I'm getting sick of the bar scene and just hooking up with a girl one night and never hearing from again. Maybe you should try to lower your standards a bit your obviously a good looking guy so I'm sure many average girls would love to go on a date with you. There has got to be some women in your classes that you could talk to and persuade into a date.
LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 So i'm 21 in college. I've had plenty of one night stands with girls (not something im really proud of but whatever), i've been told im good looking, I talk to plenty of girls at bars..which is my problem. I don't know where else to meet GF material girls and the bars are sure not it. We would really have to click for me to date a girl I met from a college bar. I never really have any decent looking girls in my classes. I guess maybe cold approach? The bus maybe? lol I really don't know. Is it that all these one night stands are not coming back for seconds? Or is it jump out the window and leave a fake name? Having had plenty it seems like there would have been a few you wouldn't have minded round 2 with right? Second your in college the girls are everywhere. Hang out on campus more? Hit the gym or the rec center? Cafeteria? Stores? Restaurants? Dorms? Apartment complex? Pools? Park? Friends? Parties? Bars? Sporting events? Clubs? Walking down the road?????? etc etc etc Third your in college!! Most girls are going to bars. I'll let you in on a secret just because you didn't meet them in a bar doesn't mean they don't go to them. Is your thing its just hard for you to approach girls without a few drinks first? Maybe that is why your best success is in the bar scene?
Author jcm101 Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 Is it that all these one night stands are not coming back for seconds? Or is it jump out the window and leave a fake name? Having had plenty it seems like there would have been a few you wouldn't have minded round 2 with right? Second your in college the girls are everywhere. Hang out on campus more? Hit the gym or the rec center? Cafeteria? Stores? Restaurants? Dorms? Apartment complex? Pools? Park? Friends? Parties? Bars? Sporting events? Clubs? Walking down the road?????? etc etc etc Third your in college!! Most girls are going to bars. I'll let you in on a secret just because you didn't meet them in a bar doesn't mean they don't go to them. Is your thing its just hard for you to approach girls without a few drinks first? Maybe that is why your best success is in the bar scene? You bring up good points. Your last point about having some drinks first only goes for in bar scene lol. Hard to talk to drunk college girls if you're sober. I feel the easiest way to meet girls is through social circles. I also see so many cute girls at the gym but most always have earphones on. I honestly don't know. I've been on dates. Met actually a girl from library, texted, but nothing out of it.
d0nnivain Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 How'd you get the one night stands? Why were they only one night stands? If you didn't call them the next day, maybe your lack of a GF is on you. Are there any girls in your classes you find attractive or interesting? Ask one to study with you. See how things go from there & work up to asking her on a date.
Author jcm101 Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 How'd you get the one night stands? Why were they only one night stands? If you didn't call them the next day, maybe your lack of a GF is on you. Are there any girls in your classes you find attractive or interesting? Ask one to study with you. See how things go from there & work up to asking her on a date. ONS were from bars. Decently attractive, but not worth pursuing. I actually don't have that crazy standards. It's just I don't feel comfortable dating some of these I've been on mutliple dates with girls I liked but it got to nothing. There's actually one or two cute girls in two fo my classes. Should of maybe sat by them the first day.
Author jcm101 Posted February 20, 2014 Author Posted February 20, 2014 So im going to try talking up some girls who aren't bad in my classes after class. Maybe catch them and ask them a question pertaining to the class then go from there.
notyouraveragebabe Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 I do, but I just do intramurals with guy friends. And not in any clubs, maybe i'll join one. I just see so many guys with GFs and the first things I think, is how they met each other. I'm a good looking guy. I'm not saying it as being cocky or w/e. I've been told. I even get tons of matches on Tinder. I've gone on a few dates, but nothing further recently. I just really want a GF (never had one). I'm getting sick of the bar scene and just hooking up with a girl one night and never hearing from again. Hmm I talked to a few good looking guys, but sometimes I never progress the relationship because they were jerks, arrogant, or dumb. Most females just hook up with hot guys and date smarter guys with a personality. Hot guys are fun to look at him or sleep with, but at the end of the day I would rather be with a guy who is smart and treats me good. Just saying! Don't know if this is your case, but I'm just throwing it out there.
Author jcm101 Posted February 22, 2014 Author Posted February 22, 2014 Hmm I talked to a few good looking guys, but sometimes I never progress the relationship because they were jerks, arrogant, or dumb. Most females just hook up with hot guys and date smarter guys with a personality. Hot guys are fun to look at him or sleep with, but at the end of the day I would rather be with a guy who is smart and treats me good. Just saying! Don't know if this is your case, but I'm just throwing it out there. I'm not dumb lol. I'm a funny guy too. It's not like i've been on 100s of dates and failed. Only a select number, not many. I guess it's really just a numbers game and I have to just approach a lot. I see many cute girls on bus near me, but most of time their sitting with earphones in.
Lei Ping Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 So i'm 21 in college. I've had plenty of one night stands with girls (not something im really proud of but whatever), i've been told im good looking, I talk to plenty of girls at bars..which is my problem. I don't know where else to meet GF material girls and the bars are sure not it. We would really have to click for me to date a girl I met from a college bar. I never really have any decent looking girls in my classes. I guess maybe cold approach? The bus maybe? lol I really don't know. You're working too hard at it. Keep doing 1 night stands and sooner or later one of them will stick. Then you'll have a whole different set of problems to deal with. Enjoy your youth and get your schooling in. These are the last of your carefree days, trust me there will be plenty of time and opportunity for relationships after you graduate. 2
JDPT Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 You're working too hard at it. Keep doing 1 night stands and sooner or later one of them will stick. Then you'll have a whole different set of problems to deal with. Enjoy your youth and get your schooling in. These are the last of your carefree days, trust me there will be plenty of time and opportunity for relationships after you graduate. Amen to that...
Noproblem Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 21 is young and better to be single ...Studying and enjoying life until he\she finds the one...
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