hasaquestion Posted February 19, 2014 Share Posted February 19, 2014 Since this subject appears to come up in every other thread. What can a guy do that really makes a positive impression on you? And on the other hand, what attributes do you consider deal-breakers or significant negatives? What personality traits just tick you off? Be as specific as possible. Link to post Share on other sites
scatterd Posted February 19, 2014 Share Posted February 19, 2014 I like a man that is considerate, well mannered, fun, and treats people respectfully. I am not interested in cocky, and arrogant men, that know everything. Rudness is unexceptable but a liar you can not trust is a total deal breaker. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted February 19, 2014 Share Posted February 19, 2014 Each person has their own individual tastes. Not one person here will give an answer that will have any impact on anyone you meet out in the real world. The best thing for each person to do is just be themselves and do what comes natural. You will attract the best possible mate that way. If you're with someone and it feels anything other than natural and positive... then you're with the wrong person. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
894hjk Posted February 19, 2014 Share Posted February 19, 2014 Keepers: Earns same or more than me Generous with £ Sense of humour High sex drive Good in bed Confident Hairy chests/bellys Good with kids Not needy but needs me Fairly open Straight talking Masculin Respectful Smart Not keepers: Skinny/very slim men- they just don't do it for me. Skint Not working Moody Clingy Letchy Aggressive Low sex drives Feminin Too in touch with their feelings Scaredy types Not emotionally available No respect Link to post Share on other sites
kodakgirl Posted February 19, 2014 Share Posted February 19, 2014 The biggest thing to me is niceness... not regular, pleasant "niceness" or "nice guy-ness", but true, deep, niceness. Someone who is genuinely sweet, caring, thoughtful, considerate, supportive, compassionate, and kind, not just to women he's interested in but to everyone. Always there for friends and family, ready to help out strangers. Also important is confidence in who he is. He might not be the most outwardly confident person ever (my ex sure wasn't), but that's not the same as truly knowing who he is and valuing that. With this I would include introspection, personal growth, and emotional expression. I also really need to be with someone with a great attitude, an interest in the world and in learning, optimism and curiosity. Someone who is pursuing things he loves, but has interests beyond that as well. Someone who is interested to hear about things out of his usual sphere as well as share his own knowledge and passion. Intelligence is very important to me, especially emotional intelligence. Negatives for me are, well, the opposite of that. Not genuinely nice or only nice to get his own way. Hard-hearted. Selfish. Closed-minded. Not interested in introspection. Non-emotional. Cold. Boring. Narcissistic. Emotionally unavailable. Unintelligent. Pessimistic. Critical. Rude. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ja123 Posted February 19, 2014 Share Posted February 19, 2014 A kind heart ... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted February 19, 2014 Share Posted February 19, 2014 Why are you asking women what they like? Wouldn't it be better to ask other guys what works? A lion does not ask a zebra how to catch zebras after all... he asks the older lions... Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 19, 2014 Share Posted February 19, 2014 For me first there has to be chemistry. You can't make yourself into that. It will change for everybody. If the chemistry is there I need to see: intelligence a sense of humor compassion generosity (meaning don't be cheap) a sense of adventure but not too extreme responsibility industriousness / hard working Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted February 19, 2014 Share Posted February 19, 2014 Compassionate, loving, affectionate, honest, caring, thoughtful, able to think for himself and not follow the crowd, genuine, sincere, loyal. Deal breakers; racist, homophobic, sexist, lacking in compassion, cruel. Since this subject appears to come up in every other thread. What can a guy do that really makes a positive impression on you? And on the other hand, what attributes do you consider deal-breakers or significant negatives? What personality traits just tick you off? Be as specific as possible. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Bigcitydreamer Posted February 19, 2014 Share Posted February 19, 2014 Why are you asking women what they like? Wouldn't it be better to ask other guys what works? A lion does not ask a zebra how to catch zebras after all... he asks the older lions... Bad analogy because a lion is killing a zebra, devouring it, using it for food. A relationship is a mutual partnership trying to benefit 2 different people, so why wouldn't you want the input of the person you are trying to enter a relationship with? My favourite qualities in a man that I've seen so far are: genuine niceness, willingness to try new things, intelligent, and one that I didn't realize the importance of until lately which is enjoy doing the same things as me/ similar desires in how to spend the day or a weekend off etc. I think having similar lifestyle goals and interests is probably one of the biggest things I'm looking for in my next relationship. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Kingston100 Posted February 19, 2014 Share Posted February 19, 2014 Now that I am older, I am into a guy that puts his cards on the table. None of this game playing crap. If you dream of moving across the country, tell me. If you want 3 or 4 kids and a dog in the subburbs, tell me. Guessing games are not attractive. Outside of that, it is really attractive when a guy notices little things he can do for you. Like, he came to your place for the first time and noticed a light was out... so the next time he shows up with a light bulb and offers to change it. That's sweet. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Candy_Pants Posted February 19, 2014 Share Posted February 19, 2014 I like a great sense of humor. A man who is unafraid to get things done, whatever that might be. Rough hands from doing hard work. A sly but sweet smile. Knowing he cherishes me as his wife and as a woman. Trusting him with my future. Carrying his child and seeing how he treats me like a queen. His insatiable sexuality towards me. Turn offs are being impatient, easily agitated, sexist, racist, egotistical, inconsiderate, and rude. Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted February 19, 2014 Share Posted February 19, 2014 What can a guy do that really makes a positive impression on you? Smile. Be kind to service people, kids, animals, family, me. Be funny. Be laid back and easy to please. Show interest in what I'm saying and engage in real conversation with me. Be charitable and generous. Have purpose. And on the other hand, what attributes do you consider deal-breakers or significant negatives? What personality traits just tick you off? Be as specific as possible. Rudeness. Being clingy, desperate, or needy. Aggressive driving. Whining. Complaining about life but not being willing to do anything about it. Persistent pessimism. Judging other people. Smoking, heavy drinking, or drug use. Poor hygiene. Not liking animals. Being controlling. Link to post Share on other sites
mea_M Posted February 19, 2014 Share Posted February 19, 2014 Good sense of humor, respect, practical and most of all, the ability to let me be who I am in my own way with full acceptance of that! Amen for my husband. Mea Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted February 19, 2014 Share Posted February 19, 2014 @OP.....I hope you are not expecting rational answers here i.e. things that are really substantial to hold a relationship together? What you are bound to get, as you can see thus far is pap/fluff...things that will only hold a relationship temporarily. Oh...you will probably hear things like "narcissistic", "abuse" and "controlling"....I can tell you that these work both way. If you have ever been shoved, called names, and had things thrown at as a guy, then you will know where I am coming from. One person's narcissist is another person's normal. Link to post Share on other sites
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