Want to get over my obsession with dating only tall guys...

[Els]

All I'm seeing here is 'waaahh my preference is totally fine and I'm entitled to it but the preferences of the opposite sex are shallow". Everything else is a red herring - the number of people with a particular preference doesn't make that preference any more or less acceptable.

 

Move along, folks...

[lollipopspot]

The problem with that......is that MANY women give a tall guy bonus points just for being tall without even realizing it. Its a subconscious thing. Some guy that is only 2 inches taller than Tracy may be a better fit and have more in common with her.....but Tracy doesnt even give the guy a chance, because shes transfixed on Jim that is a foot taller than her...

 

In my experiance with men I know or have known......I have never heard any of them mention that they "only" like this or that type of woman.

 

MOST men have a wide variety of tastes....and usually are attracted to many different women as paths are crossed.

 

I disagree with you. I believe that as many or more males care about weight than females care about height.

 

I would further this by saying that height is even much of a consideration for most guys when it comes to attraction. Weight, sure. But height - not at all - that's a woman thing...

 

if something superficial like height is your primary determinant when choosing a man to date, maybe marriage and kids is not really for you.

 

That's like saying if a guy discriminates by weight (which many do), that maybe marriage and kids isn't for them. Problem is, that after having kids, many women do gain a lot of weight, and then the the guy is stuck with the fat woman they didn't want. That's a bigger risk. At least with height, it's not going to change.

 

The amount of women that prefer dating tall guys totally drowns out any realistic number of the amount of men that want 20 yr olds with DD's.

 

Sure, but it doesn't drown out the number of men wanting slender women.

 

As some have mentioned, we all have types and rarely do we break them. And also as some have mentioned, the female "type" seems very formulaic and predictable

 

I think there is a very specific type of female that most men tend to go for. Not fat.

[ascendotum]

That's a silly question...

 

I find tall guys make me feel more protected. Like they are big enough to take care of me....

Protect you from what.....? Al qaeda? MS-13? Goldman Sachs? Zombies? pushy salesmen? Jehovah witnesses?

 

Personally its in the same realm as a guy only ever wanting to date blue eye + blond hair girls. Its shallow but I get it that people get turned on to specific attributes. Personally I don't see why you have to change if you don't see there is a specific problem, and advice from a bunch of people on LS I can't see making any difference to what turns you on when it comes to a guy or any issue you have over feeling vulnerable.

[lollipopspot]

Protect you from what.....? Al qaeda? MS-13? Goldman Sachs? Zombies? pushy salesmen? Jehovah witnesses?

 

Probably protection from the general sense of danger that a lot of females grow up with. Protection from sexual predation and violence. Ever walk a woman to her car at night, or across campus? That kind of danger.

[lollipopspot]

its imaginary. a 5 7 guy can preotect as well as a 6 3 guy.

 

Perhaps, depending on individual strength. But I'm just explaining why a female might desire "protection."

[LEEVIT2F8]

Don't underestimate the protection factor. 100% of girls I have dated for an extended period of time have all made a nearly identical statement. They feel safe with me in any situation because they know I can handle whatever might spring up.

 

Keep in mind these are not small women. My type is most definitely tall and athletic. Almost all of them have been at least 5'10+.

 

My 13yr old son is 6'2" 220 pounds. And the girls flock to him like crazy. So its not just this girl that prefers a big guy. I think it comes from evolution myself. Something ingrained in our DNA that helped us survive for millions of years.

[somedude81]

A 7 foot, 300 lb guy isn't going to protect you any better against a guy with a gun than a 3'2 90 lb guy can.

[SJC2008]

I find it funny how guys that are 6 foot + readily date woman a foot or more shorter than them. That would be like me dating a woman who's 4'10" and there's no way that's going to happen. I guess my height range is small but it's a general preference. If I really like a woman I could go down to 5' or up to my height.

[somedude81]

I find it funny how guys that are 6 foot + readily date woman a foot or more shorter than them. That would be like me dating a woman who's 4'10" and there's no way that's going to happen. I guess my height range is small but it's a general preference. If I really like a woman I could go down to 5' or up to my height.

ROFL

 

If I dated "women" that were 4'6, I'd get thrown in jail.

[Weezy1973]

That's like saying if a guy discriminates by weight (which many do), that maybe marriage and kids isn't for them.

 

Nope. I said nothing about discriminating - I was talking about primary attractors. Essentially people whose attraction is primarily based on superficial qualities (height, weight, body type, money, ambition, etc.) are naturally less likely to be marriage/kids minded than people whose attraction is primarily based on deeper qualities (empathy, compassion, loyalty, honesty, trustworthiness etc.). That's just common sense.

 

Superficial qualities like height are absolutely no indicator of how good a relationship partner a person is. Literally none. If you find that your attraction is based on superficial qualities (rather than qualities that actually matter when it comes to relationships) you are likely not a good candidate for a long term relationship.

 

And absolutely no judgement against that either. Some people are relationship minded and some aren't. A good indicator is what you find attractive in a partner.

[ThatGirl213]

How about just dating someone that brings more than just the height......or is that just crazy talk because height is the glue that holds a relationship together?

 

What is the definition of a "short guy"?

 

Short is one who is less that 5'11...

[edgygirl]

Haven't read all the answers but I had the same problem all my life.

 

I recently met someone (5'11) who I'm really into brain wise and whom I connect emotionally very well and my height obsession kind of went down the drain. Not to mention amazing physical chemistry

 

I am so thankful for the world to prove me wrong and that I CAN get along and be really attracted to men under 6'. I'm 5'4. Totally get what you're asking. Give guys who are a bit shorter a chance. You won't regret it.

[somedude81]

Short is one who is less that 5'11...

So you'd consider anybody that is average height in the US to be short.

 

Good to know

[somedude81]

Haven't read all the answers but I had the same problem all my life.

 

I recently met someone (5'11) who I'm really into brain wise and whom I connect emotionally very well and my height obsession kind of went down the drain. Not to mention amazing physical chemistry

 

I am so thankful for the world to prove me wrong and that I CAN get along and be really attracted to men under 6'. I'm 5'4. Totally get what you're asking. Give guys who are a bit shorter a chance. You won't regret it.

Are you aware of the contradiction in your post?

 

If I were to rewrite the bold from my point of view it would look like.

 

"I recently me someone 32 DD, who I'm really into brain wise and whom I connection emotionally very well and my breast size obsession kind of went down the drain."

[MrCastle]

Don't underestimate the protection factor. 100% of girls I have dated for an extended period of time have all made a nearly identical statement. They feel safe with me in any situation because they know I can handle whatever might spring up.

 

Keep in mind these are not small women. My type is most definitely tall and athletic. Almost all of them have been at least 5'10+.

 

My 13yr old son is 6'2" 220 pounds. And the girls flock to him like crazy. So its not just this girl that prefers a big guy. I think it comes from evolution myself. Something ingrained in our DNA that helped us survive for millions of years.

 

Actually there is no science behind it. Studies have shown that shorter males and taller males have a similar number of offspring. As well, if the height thing was scientific/innate, there would be no short people and the average height for males would be a lot taller than 5'9.

 

This is nothing more than commercialized propaganda, much like women and weight in the media. Nothing scientific.

[suladas]

A 7 foot, 300 lb guy isn't going to protect you any better against a guy with a gun than a 3'2 90 lb guy can.

 

You obviously don't grasp the entire concept.

 

If you don't think a girl feels safer with a 6'6" 250lb guy vs a 5'6" 150lb guy you're kidding yourself. Take this example, you're out somewhere and some guy grabs your girls ass or something else inappropriate. Any guy is going to stand up for his lady, who do you think is going to do a better job? Or is it even going to be possible for the smaller guy, or would he have to just ignore it, he doesn't look good if he just gets laughed at trying to stick up for his girl. I've had guys make a girl i'm with cry for whatever reason, many times it doesn't even take a word before they are profusely apologising.

 

There is a million reasons in why a women would feel safer. Some of it is purely just fantasy to.

[SJC2008]

Short is one who is less that 5'11...

 

Ok that's just rediculous. The average woman in the US is 5'4" and the average man is 5'9.5". If you dated a man who is average height he'd be 7.5 inches taller than you, an inch and a half more than the average height difference of six inches between couples. And you're having a hard time with this how??

[SJC2008]

You obviously don't grasp the entire concept.

 

If you don't think a girl feels safer with a 6'6" 250lb guy vs a 5'6" 150lb guy you're kidding yourself. Take this example, you're out somewhere and some guy grabs your girls ass or something else inappropriate. Any guy is going to stand up for his lady, who do you think is going to do a better job? Or is it even going to be possible for the smaller guy, or would he have to just ignore it, he doesn't look good if he just gets laughed at trying to stick up for his girl. I've had guys make a girl i'm with cry for whatever reason, many times it doesn't even take a word before they are profusely apologising.

 

There is a million reasons in why a women would feel safer. Some of it is purely just fantasy to.

 

I know you were addressing SD buy my take is that I do beleive in biology but within it's limits. Men are attracted to women with nice figures because our brains are wired that way. I'm sure women's brains are wired to want a taller man but when you go way outside the window of average (6 inches) is when it becomes picky.

[somedude81]

You obviously don't grasp the entire concept.

 

If you don't think a girl feels safer with a 6'6" 250lb guy vs a 5'6" 150lb guy you're kidding yourself. Take this example, you're out somewhere and some guy grabs your girls ass or something else inappropriate. Any guy is going to stand up for his lady, who do you think is going to do a better job?

The guy who actually knows how to fight.

[suladas]

Ok that's just rediculous. The average woman in the US is 5'4" and the average man is 5'9.5". If you dated a man who is average height he'd be 7.5 inches taller than you, an inch and a half more than the average height difference of six inches between couples. And you're having a hard time with this how??

 

That is HER opinion of short.

 

Just like some guys have an opinion of what is small/big boobs.

 

So saying you don't think that's average or whatever is irrelevant.

[PJKino]

So does every other women

[Eivuwan]

That is HER opinion of short.

 

Just like some guys have an opinion of what is small/big boobs.

 

So saying you don't think that's average or whatever is irrelevant.

 

Well when your opinion doesn't match reality, then your choices for relationships is very limited.

[Ninjainpajamas]

Posts like these make me feel like I'm wasting my time on LS when I could be exploiting my height advantage in the real world...

 

brb

[PJKino]

The problem with that......is that MANY women give a tall guy bonus points just for being tall without even realizing it. Its a subconscious thing. Some guy that is only 2 inches taller than Tracy may be a better fit and have more in common with her.....but Tracy doesnt even give the guy a chance, because shes transfixed on Jim that is a foot taller than her.

 

Having a "physical type" that you are attracted to shouldnt be the key to it all.

 

In my experiance with men I know or have known......I have never heard any of them mention that they "only" like this or that type of woman.

 

MOST men have a wide variety of tastes....and usually are attracted to many different women as paths are crossed.

 

But when I look back at my experiences hearing other women talk, or post on here.....I find that there seems to be an overwhelming amount of women that have a very very narrowed down preference as to the "type" of guys they will consider dating, or talking to with a chance at dating for that matter.

 

I truly believe many women are their own worst enemy when it comes to dating. Because they dismiss huge chunks of the male population without giving them a chance, and usually without any solid reasons, other than "thinking" only that type of guy will make them happy.

 

Women hvae a more strict/narrow view of whats attractive or ideal then vice versa and these days if you add old id argue there possibly more shallow then men

[Eternal Sunshine]

Let's face it: all things being equal, most women would prefer a tall guy to a short guy. Simple as that. We can't help attraction and yes, height is attractive.