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edgygirl

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Why is it such a contradiction? I'm just being honest. I'm saying I like this guy a lot and it's a wonderful thing that my (usual) height turn-off is not altering the least the way I feel about him. I like him although he's not my usual type.

 

It's a good thing.

 

Are you aware of the contradiction in your post?

 

If I were to rewrite the bold from my point of view it would look like.

 

"I recently me someone 32 DD, who I'm really into brain wise and whom I connection emotionally very well and my breast size obsession kind of went down the drain."

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PJKino

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Maybe women like tall guys because they aren't insecure about their height like many short guys are and constantly obsessing about it?

 

Why would a tall guy be insecure about his height when its considered a universally attractive trait? if i was a tall guy and read these ofrums my ego would be out of control

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Why is it such a contradiction? I'm just being honest. I'm saying I like this guy a lot and it's a wonderful thing that my (usual) height turn-off is not altering the least the way I feel about him. I like him although he's not my usual type.

 

It's a good thing.

 

It's funny because he's only an inch lower than your minimum.

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Why is it such a contradiction? I'm just being honest. I'm saying I like this guy a lot and it's a wonderful thing that my (usual) height turn-off is not altering the least the way I feel about him. I like him although he's not my usual type.

 

It's a good thing.

 

I think the point was you datign a man one inch under your preference is hardly goign after a total opposite of your norm the fact you made it seem like it was such a radical extreme thing of you to date a man one inch under 6 feet was a little comical thats all

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edgygirl

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Oh I see. You think 5'11 is tall. Well, not for me. For me it's below MY average preference. My usual type is at least 6'2, ideally 6'4 (most my exes were between this range).

 

But again, I'm happy to feel super attracted to someone who is shorter than my usual type and that it can be so good physically.

 

Are you aware of the contradiction in your post?

 

If I were to rewrite the bold from my point of view it would look like.

 

"I recently me someone 32 DD, who I'm really into brain wise and whom I connection emotionally very well and my breast size obsession kind of went down the drain."

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Salvatore85

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You obviously don't grasp the entire concept.

 

If you don't think a girl feels safer with a 6'6" 250lb guy vs a 5'6" 150lb guy you're kidding yourself. Take this example, you're out somewhere and some guy grabs your girls ass or something else inappropriate. Any guy is going to stand up for his lady, who do you think is going to do a better job? Or is it even going to be possible for the smaller guy, or would he have to just ignore it, he doesn't look good if he just gets laughed at trying to stick up for his girl. I've had guys make a girl i'm with cry for whatever reason, many times it doesn't even take a word before they are profusely apologising.

 

There is a million reasons in why a women would feel safer. Some of it is purely just fantasy to.

 

This is silly. Being tall and big doesn't make you a good protector if you can't handle yourself. My bestfriend is 6'3" and has been beaten up more times than I can remember. I'm 5'6" 150lb and have been an athlete my whole life, trust me if you grabbed my girlfriends ass I sure as hell wouldn't be trembling in fear regardless of your size. I'm a nice guy but being short has never kept me from defending myself.

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Oh I see. You think 5'11 is tall. Well, not for me. For me it's below MY average preference. My usual type is at least 6'2, ideally 6'4 (most my exes were between this range).

 

But again, I'm happy to feel super attracted to someone who is shorter than my usual type and that it can be so good physically.

 

You do realize he could lie and say he's 6' and you'd never even realize it lmao

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The guy who actually knows how to fight.

 

Really? So I wonder why so many guys are intimated by a size difference then? Or you're one of those dillusional guys who don't care about size, let me know how that turns out for you :laugh:

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Let's face it: all things being equal, most women would prefer a tall guy to a short guy. Simple as that. We can't help attraction and yes, height is attractive.

 

And that's perfectly fine, but don't get upset when guys prefer blonde hair/blue eyes and large breasts...not even really my preference, just sayin...

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I don't care about the numbers really. It's just that I know that when a guy is under 5'11ish my attraction (in real life) unfortunately drops immensely. I wish I didn't feel this way as it makes my options way smaller. It sucks really. I wish I didn't care, but attraction is usually beyond consciousness. I don't chose to be/feel this way.

 

You do realize he could lie and say he's 6' and you'd never even realize it lmao
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Really? So I wonder why so many guys are intimated by a size difference then? Or you're one of those dillusional guys who don't care about size, let me know how that turns out for you :laugh:

 

If you can't fight your height isn't going to protect you.

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And that's perfectly fine, but don't get upset when guys prefer blonde hair/blue eyes and large breasts...not even really my preference, just sayin...

 

I won't because apart from the hair color that's pretty much me :p

 

I get your point. I have large breasts (34 DD) and there are threads going around about guys that prefer smaller breasts. I don't care. I don't post in those threads and try to make a case for them being shallow or whatever. I accept people's preferences. Maybe short guys could do the same ;)

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Why is it such a contradiction? I'm just being honest. I'm saying I like this guy a lot and it's a wonderful thing that my (usual) height turn-off is not altering the least the way I feel about him. I like him although he's not my usual type.

 

It's a good thing.

If a guy who is 5'11, is shorter than your usual type, then how tall do you actually prefer? :confused:

 

Also, 5'11 is still taller than average.

 

Using my breast example, if in the past I only dated women that were G cups but am now dating a woman that is only DD do you think I could say that my breast size turn-off is not altering how I feel about her?

 

Oh I see. You think 5'11 is tall. Well, not for me. For me it's below MY average preference. My usual type is at least 6'2, ideally 6'4 (most my exes were between this range).

 

But again, I'm happy to feel super attracted to someone who is shorter than my usual type and that it can be so good physically.

OK, I just saw your post.

 

So before you were only into GIANT men but now you're fine with dating guys who are only slightly taller than average.

 

I guess that's some progress right?

 

Frankly, really short women who need to date very tall men, actually sounds like a fetish.

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Why would a tall guy be insecure about his height when its considered a universally attractive trait? if i was a tall guy and read these ofrums my ego would be out of control

 

I said tall guys ARENT.

 

Look at this forum, many many short guys are.

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Eivuwan

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I don't care about the numbers really. It's just that I know that when a guy is under 5'11ish my attraction (in real life) unfortunately drops immensely. I wish I didn't feel this way as it makes my options way smaller. It sucks really. I wish I didn't care, but attraction is usually beyond consciousness. I don't chose to be/feel this way.

 

Since you are dating someone shorter than your preferences it is evidence that attraction is more flexible than you thought it was.

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Really? So I wonder why so many guys are intimated by a size difference then? Or you're one of those dillusional guys who don't care about size, let me know how that turns out for you :laugh:

A guy who is 5'10, isn't any harder to take down than a guy whose 5'6.

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I won't because apart from the hair color that's pretty much me :p

 

I get your point. I have large breasts (34 DD) and there are threads going around about guys that prefer smaller breasts. I don't care. I don't post in those threads and try to make a case for them being shallow or whatever. I accept people's preferences. Maybe short guys could do the same ;)

I clicked like because of the 34 DD :love:

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I won't because apart from the hair color that's pretty much me :p

 

I get your point. I have large breasts (34 DD) and there are threads going around about guys that prefer smaller breasts. I don't care. I don't post in those threads and try to make a case for them being shallow or whatever. I accept people's preferences. Maybe short guys could do the same ;)

 

I do. An individuals preference is perfectly fine with me considering I'm short and for the most part it's never hampered my dating life. It's just like any other hang up honestly.

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PJKino

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I said tall guys ARENT.

 

Look at this forum, many many short guys are.

 

I know that was my point when you said maybe girls prefer tall guys because their not insecure about their height like short men are my point is tall men have no reason to be insecure about their height because women fawn over height like its gold

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Attraction isn't logical and the OP underscores that by wanting to address her 'obsession' with tall men. My quick scan, noting she's had one 'true love' with one particular tall man tells me she's likely young and more life experience will solidify her attraction style. If accurate about her age, IMO don't worry about it or even consider it an obsession. Date tall men. We're getting taller with every generation. You like what you like.

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Ruby Slippers

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Let's face it: all things being equal, most women would prefer a tall guy to a short guy. Simple as that. We can't help attraction and yes, height is attractive.

Yep. Also, tall people earn more money on average. As do fit and handsome/pretty people. Not fair, but true.

 

I've been tall since high school, and once I got over my self-consciousness about it, I realized that height generally commands attention and respect - for women, and definitely for men.

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Frankly, really short women who need to date very tall men, actually sounds like a fetish.

 

Could be, I don't know. It never felt like that, just like a preference.

 

But I've thought about that at some point. It annoys me to feel this way I would prefer to have more options attraction-wise.

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I knew it :laugh:

 

Too bad I am an inch taller than your maximum height requirement :(

Preference my dear :)

 

You also have that sexy European accent which makes up for your shortcomings :p

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