Want to get over my obsession with dating only tall guys...

[Salvatore85]

I said tall guys ARENT.

 

Look at this forum, many many short guys are.

 

It's no different than skinny guys, flat chested girls, large women and men, ugly people being upset about their circumstances. Just because it doesn't apply to you doesn't mean you can run around saying someone has a complex. Like I said, being short hasn't hurt my dating life because I lucked out and I'm good looking.

[Larry56]

I'll just chime in with me 2 cents about this subject.

 

as a GUY who is 5"3' - let me tell you, it's very depressing to read this thread. But I totally understand that this is typically what Women (and Men) find attractive about tall men.

 

You can not reform biology, women are hardwired to like tall guys. I never even thought about this subject until I broke up with my last girlfriend (which was last year).

 

Now...to be perfectly honest, I really do think the OP should take some time to talk to shorter guys. Because when it comes down to it, a lot of guys out there are;

 

emotionally unstable, lot's of baggage, ****ed up childhoods, cheaters, abusers, drug addicts (not a terrible thing), controlling, womanizers, liars, users, scam artists, smooth talkers and so on.

 

That's just simply the case with some men today, tall or short their totally ****ed in the head, and you gotta serious listen to what they are saying with their mouths (and then some)

 

But let me tell you my first girlfriend when I was 18 was a 5"11 model (I am not joking...)

 

Most of the really attractive women I have ever dated (including the last one) came after me!!

 

Why is that?

 

Because I never did anything other then be myself when I first meet women. I would always walk into a room, get ZERO looks. Then I'd open my mouth and then.....a few weeks later a friend would tell me how x and x liked me etc.

 

Now that's not to say I'm fantastic with some women, I totally screwed up the last one that *came after me* by doing too much. Because I forgot that some *hot* women find me attractive.

 

However, I think you should at least see how you go, it won't kill you to spend time with some of these guys. How many times have I ever heard a women tell me they didn't find their partners attractive when they first met them, or how they eventually *fell in love* over time after talking to this guy for a certain period of time. Plenty!

 

 

ps.. in regards to men liking a "certain height" of a women. Just not true, typically I wouldn't go for women who are shorter than me, but that's cause I prefer taller women (when they like me).

[suladas]

If you can't fight your height isn't going to protect you.

 

If you're big enough, 99.99% of the time it isn't going to come to that.

 

You'd be amazed how many doors open up for you when guys are scared of you

 

Why do you think bouncers, security, etc all are big guys? When's the last time you went somewhere and seen a bouncer who's like 5'6"? I'm not saying fighting is good or turns on women, but them knowing you can protect them does, simple as that.

[edgygirl]

Exactly! It feels really good actually.

 

What I realized is that this guy's brain is so awesome and we get along so well that I AM attracted to him as much as I would be to any guy who is 6'2. Him being really good in bed also helps

 

Since you are dating someone shorter than your preferences it is evidence that attraction is more flexible than you thought it was.

[Salvatore85]

Could be, I don't know. It never felt like that, just like a preference.

 

But I've thought about that at some point. It annoys me to feel this way I would prefer to have more options attraction-wise.

 

Why are you upset about it? Hell I'm short and I don't see any issue with it. I'm an American who goes crazy for English ladies. It may be weird but it's what I'm attracted too. I can't help it the same way you can't. As a short man, nothing you're feeling is wrong so don't be upset about it. There's plenty of women for us short fellas as well.

[Eivuwan]

You know what's funny? Some women like tall men because they want to feel protected. I prefer men who are not too much bigger than me partly because I wonder how I would ever get him to safety should he get injured in an inconvenient place. Lol. Also the advantage of dating a shorter man is that you don't have to look up so often when talking and kissing is easier etc.

[SJC2008]

Let's face it: all things being equal, most women would prefer a tall guy to a short guy. Simple as that. We can't help attraction and yes, height is attractive.

 

Understood but how much taller do you need a man to be is the debate. I find it laughable that some women have to have a man close to a foot taller for attraction to even be possible!

 

I've dated/been on dates with women ranging from pretty chunky to bikini body. What if I said I'll only date woman who can rock a bikini? That'd make me picky, and shallow AND a hypocrite because I'm a little chunky myslef.

[Salvatore85]

If you're big enough, 99.99% of the time it isn't going to come to that.

 

You'd be amazed how many doors open up for you when guys are scared of you

 

Why do you think bouncers, security, etc all are big guys? When's the last time you went somewhere and seen a bouncer who's like 5'6"? I'm not saying fighting is good or turns on women, but them knowing you can protect them does, simple as that.

 

And yet you continue ignoring the fact that size doesn't equal protector. I can fight, quite well actually. I honestly don't care about your size and you wouldn't intimidate one bit. What is going to happen when you run into a guy like myself who can fight and isn't scared of your size? How are you going to approach that situation?

[somedude81]

Could be, I don't know. It never felt like that, just like a preference.

 

But I've thought about that at some point. It annoys me to feel this way I would prefer to have more options attraction-wise.

Yeah, it sounds like something you can't control and it doesn't make much logical sense.

 

If anything you may feel more vulnerable because of your diminutive stature and believe that only a Hagrid sized man can protect you.

 

(Yes I'm teasing )

 

Exactly! It feels really good actually.

 

What I realized is that this guy's brain is so awesome and we get along so well that I AM attracted to him as much as I would be to any guy who is 6'2. Him being really good in bed also helps

From your point of view, how different is 6'2 from 5'11?

[edgygirl]

Because it would be easier to have a wider range of people to date.

 

But thank you Appreciate it. And btw you seem like a great guy.

 

Why are you upset about it? Hell I'm short and I don't see any issue with it. I'm an American who goes crazy for English ladies. It may be weird but it's what I'm attracted too. I can't help it the same way you can't. As a short man, nothing you're feeling is wrong so don't be upset about it. There's plenty of women for us short fellas as well.

[SJC2008]

That is HER opinion of short.

 

Just like some guys have an opinion of what is small/big boobs.

 

So saying you don't think that's average or whatever is irrelevant.

 

Of course it is. Even though I'm 5'10", half an inch taller than average and eight and a half inches taller than her.

[Eternal Sunshine]

Understood but how much taller do you need a man to be is the debate. I find it laughable that some women have to have a man close to a foot taller for attraction to even be possible!

 

I've dated/been on dates with women ranging from pretty chunky to bikini body. What if I said I'll only date woman who can rock a bikini? That'd make me picky, and shallow AND a hypocrite because I'm a little chunky myslef.

 

I dunno how would I feel if I was short. I am 5'8" - which is an average height for an Australian man. If I want a man that's taller than me, I have removed half of the dating pool.

 

Ideally, I prefer guys that are taller than me in 3" heels. So 6'2" and above.

 

But if a guy had other qualities that I like, I am willing to remove that criteria.

[edgygirl]

I dunno. It's more of a primitive urge, not conscious. From my experience, when I feel a guy is too short for me attraction-wise and I ask their height, they are usually 5'9 and shorter. So with time I realized I'm not that attracted to guys under that height.

 

I tried to date a guy who was 5'9 because we had lots in common, but after trying for months I had to confess to myself that I wasn't attracted enough to him to keep dating him and that was not fair to him. The only analogy I can think of that would make sense to you is not being able to have a hard on. It is what it is, right? We can't force it :/

 

Yeah, it sounds like something you can't control and it doesn't make much logical sense.

 

If anything you may feel more vulnerable because of your diminutive stature and believe that only a Hagrid sized man can protect you.

 

(Yes I'm teasing )

 

From your point of view, how different is 6'2 from 5'11?

[somedude81]

I dunno how would I feel if I was short. I am 5'8" - which is an average height for an Australian man. If I want a man that's taller than me, I have removed half of the dating pool.

 

Ideally, I prefer guys that are taller than me in 3" heels. So 6'2" and above.

 

But if a guy had other qualities that I like, I am willing to remove that criteria.

Is it OK if I wear 7" heels?

[Salvatore85]

Because it would be easier to have a wider range of people to date.

 

But thank you Appreciate it. And btw you seem like a great guy.

 

I understand where you're coming from considering we all have preferences. I guess as a short guy it gets annoying when other short guys, whom have preferences, get upset because a female has her preferences as well. It's just a fact of life, people want what they want and none of us are perfect.

[SJC2008]

I dunno how would I feel if I was short. I am 5'8" - which is an average height for an Australian man. If I want a man that's taller than me, I have removed half of the dating pool.

 

Ideally, I prefer guys that are taller than me in 3" heels. So 6'2" and above.

 

But if a guy had other qualities that I like, I am willing to remove that criteria.

 

Very reasonable and goes back to my point earlier in that it seems like the shorter a woman is the taller a man she wants.

[Eternal Sunshine]

Is it OK if I wear 7" heels?

 

:lmao:

[Eternal Sunshine]

Very reasonable and goes back to my point earlier in that it seems like the shorter a woman is the taller a man she wants.

 

Yep, noticed that. Short women should stop taking tall men out of the dating pool

[edgygirl]

I understand where you're coming from considering we all have preferences. I guess as a short guy it gets annoying when other short guys, whom have preferences, get upset because a female has her preferences as well. It's just a fact of life, people want what they want and none of us are perfect.

 

Yes I also get upset with guys who are too superficial. But I shouldn't as I also have my preferences obviously.

 

This guy I'm dating told me he would never be with a chubby/fat chick. I am 116 pounds now and 5'4 but I used to be almost 200. I got really annoyed by his statement as he wouldn't glance at me when I got fat. After talking to a few friends, I realized I have no right to be annoyed by that, as what we like is usually deeper than merely societal preferences.

 

I still get annoyed though when I feel someone is shallow and only cares about a partner's looks because of how it looks socially.

[Salvatore85]

Short guys need to understand that the only thing stopping them from dating, is themselves. They, I say they because I'm not hung up on it, worry so much about statistics and such that instead of taking a chance and just going for it they sit on the sidelines. Do you honestly think a tall ugly guy has any better chance than a short good looking guy? In my own experience the answer is no regardless of what statistics say. Instead of complaining about your height just go after what you want, the worst thing they can do is say no.

[hasaquestion]

I understand where you're coming from considering we all have preferences. I guess as a short guy it gets annoying when other short guys, whom have preferences, get upset because a female has her preferences as well. It's just a fact of life, people want what they want and none of us are perfect.

 

Exactly. Why is it so shameful to have preferences? I hope the people who are complaining about "height bias" have never turned down a 200-lb woman in their lives.

[somedude81]

Yep, noticed that. Short women should stop taking tall men out of the dating pool

Ha ha ha.

 

Tall women and short women should have a battle for the tall guys.

 

I'll claim the losers

[Ruby Slippers]

Maybe short girls desire tall guys on the primal level because they're more likely to produce taller offspring that way - and as the link I posted earlier suggests, height does provide a significant advantage in this world, especially if you're male. Two short people are almost certain to produce short offspring. Height is an attractive genetic feature, and probably even more attractive on the primal level to short women, who are not likely to produce taller offspring without a tall partner to balance out their shortness.

 

I have a hard time feeling strong attraction to a guy shorter than me, and in general, the taller he is (within reason), the stronger my girl boner. This doesn't mean I'll rule out guys my height, or even a little shorter, just as I wouldn't rule out a guy for not having other genetically desirable features.

[suladas]

And yet you continue ignoring the fact that size doesn't equal protector. I can fight, quite well actually. I honestly don't care about your size and you wouldn't intimidate one bit. What is going to happen when you run into a guy like myself who can fight and isn't scared of your size? How are you going to approach that situation?

 

 

I'm waiting for that to happen

 

Seriously never had it happen. And while I don't condone fighting, if it did happen, I would be happy to show what a difference size makes

 

I've stepped into two guys who i've watched make a girl cry (without my friends in sight) and they immediately started apologising i'd say they were "average height"..... In cases like this, being big with the right demener commands respect, and quite frankly a guy who is 5'6" (unless he's a UFC fighter) is going to get laughed at.

[Salvatore85]

Yes I also get upset with guys who are too superficial. But I shouldn't as I also have my preferences obviously.

 

This guy I'm dating told me he would never be with a chubby/fat chick. I am 116 pounds now and 5'4 but I used to be almost 200. I got really annoyed by his statement as he wouldn't glance at me when I got fat. After talking to a few friends, I realized I have no right to be annoyed by that, as what we like is usually deeper than merely societal preferences.

 

I still get annoyed though when I feel someone is shallow and only cares about a partner's looks because of how it looks socially.

 

When I started dating my ex she was very athletic(soccer player) and her body was amazing but after years of being together she put on about 30-40lbs and the odd thing was I didn't really notice it. I was madly in love with her and I simply didn't care. When you really love someone you can be quite forgiving of a lot of things. I learned a lot from that honestly.