Want to get over my obsession with dating only tall guys...

[topaMAXX]

There is no denying that short man are at a disadvantage. Sure, they can still do well but they will need to work harder than tall men.

 

I don't think this is true. I'm lazy as hell and I do really well. A lot of girls chase me, in fact.

[Andy_K]

At 5'11" I'm approximately average height, give or take a bit.

 

Interesting thing is, girls who fancy me think I'm tall, and girls who don't think I'm short.

[soccerrprp]

At 5'11" I'm approximately average height, give or take a bit.

 

Interesting thing is, girls who fancy me think I'm tall, and girls who don't think I'm short.

 

5'11 is short????!!! You gotta laugh when girls say this to you, no?

 

I shudder to think the number of horrible relationships that exist b/c someone used height, for example, as a primary consideration to dating someone.

[ascendotum]

People have every right to want what they want. Men have the right to want a skinny woman and women have the right to want a tall man. You'd think women are villains of some kind reading this thread.

 

Yes on LS fat guys expecting to get slender gfs are given a berating by the women in numerous posts. A fat guy only having the time of day for a woman under 110 lbs is a Shallow Hal. Your example of a short guy not wanting to date a big bertha woman is not the same analogy.

If most short fit guys were rejecting girls at their end of the gene pool (like some of the short women here) and were exclusively chasing after tall women or tall fat/chunky women, then it would be the same scenario as the OP....but they're not. Most short guys I'd say are happy to date women that are built similar to themselves.. unlike the topic of this thread. Throwing 'fat woman' into the argument to try say see you short guys don't want that you're just the same, is crap...unless the short guys in question are fat stumpy blokes.

[lollipopspot]

If most short fit guys were rejecting girls at their end of the gene pool (like some of the short women here) and were exclusively chasing after tall women or tall fat/chunky women, then it would be the same scenario as the OP....but they're not. Most short guys I'd say are happy to date women that are built similar to themselves.. unlike the topic of this thread. Throwing 'fat woman' into the argument to try say see you short guys don't want that you're just the same, is crap...unless the short guys in question are fat stumpy blokes.

 

Nope, it's not any more holy to be a short guy of any girth who rejects a fat woman because of her weight than it is to be a female of any height who rejects a short guy because he's short.

 

Maybe some short guys who don't want to date fat women want to feel that they're better than those women who reject them, but it's all the same. People have their preferences and one isn't any more shallow than another.

[maiden of rohan]

The first guy I had a serious relationship with was on the short side. It didn't bother me all that much because he didn't have a complex about it. If he'd had insecurities about it, it would have been an immediate turn-off. He was taller than me and that makes everyone a giant. So long as he can reach the top shelf, so I don't have to do an obstacle course to reach the gravy, it's all good. :laugh:

 

Then again, I don't think there's anything wrong with having a preference for tall guys or any given physical trait. So long as it is attainable, because if a person is constantly chasing after something that they can never obtain, it's verging into unhealthy and limiting their options completely.

 

I do like tall guys, however. Like, Alexander Skarsgard tall. Something about that gets me hot under the collar. All things being equal, I would probably choose the taller guy. Just as I'm sure if a guy has a preference for bigger boobs, all things being equal, he would choose the bustier girl.

 

 

So while I have a preference for tall guys, I'm not against dating a shorter guy if he has everything else I'm looking for, and doesn't have a syndrome about his height.

[soccerrprp]

Well, unfortunately this has become a debate as to whether short-guys deserve, are as desirable, but the OP is asking for help with an OBSESSION for tall guys.

 

It clearly sounds like she wants to be able to overlook height as a primary consideration and is not asking whether it's okay to have height as a preference.

 

OP, any idea what the root of your "obsession" with tall men may be?

[maiden of rohan]

Well, unfortunately this has become a debate as to whether short-guys deserve, are as desirable, but the OP is asking for help with an OBSESSION for tall guys.

 

It clearly sounds like she wants to be able to overlook height as a primary consideration and is not asking whether it's okay to have height as a preference.

 

OP, any idea what the root of your "obsession" with tall men may be?

 

I don't understand why OP wants to change her preferences-if she can attain a tall guy, what's the big deal?

[soccerrprp]

I don't understand why OP wants to change her preferences-if she can attain a tall guy, what's the big deal?

 

She realizes that dating tall guys (ONLY) hasn't brought her the ideal relationship she continues to seek. That she has limited herself by ONLY considering tall guys and missing out on some really great guys who are not so tall. She's expanding or wanting to, her options. Her 'preference' is still for taller men, but she just wants to open herself up for more opps of finding someone.

[SJC2008]

If I hit on a chick that's was 5'3" and she told me I was too short for her I'd laugh in her face and tell her too get a life. I don't see how people here don't think that's rediculous.

[maiden of rohan]

If I hit on a chick that's was 5'3" and she told me I was too short for her I'd laugh in her face and tell her too get a life. I don't see how people here don't think that's rediculous.

 

Everyone has preferences. I find it ridiculous that you would react so childishly simply because a woman rejected you regardless of the basis. It doesn't really matter that it was because you were too short for her, she simply wasn't attracted to you.

[soccerrprp]

Everyone has preferences. I find it ridiculous that you would react so childishly simply because a woman rejected you regardless of the basis. It doesn't really matter that it was because you were too short for her, she simply wasn't attracted to you.

 

maiden,

 

I'm 5'6 and have had little to no problems dating in my life. I'm pretty certain that I've been over-looked b/c of my height, but only once in my entire life thus far have I been OPENLY rejected b/c of my height. It's this overt declaration of disapproval of height that is annoying and laughable. If you don't want to date shorter guys, just don't and keep the comments in regards to such to yourself.

 

The one time a woman (online) ridiculed my height, I simply stated the obvious..."yes, I am short. And? I have no problems with my height and I'm still taller than you are." She never responded back. I learned enough from that exchange to know that she was a crappy person. Not b/c she preferred taller guys, rather, b/c she thought it appropriate to ridicule me for something I have no control over and remind me of the obvious.

 

At least that's the way I see it.

[Emilia]

maiden,

 

I'm 5'6 and have had little to no problems dating in my life. I'm pretty certain that I've been over-looked b/c of my height, but only once in my entire life thus far have I been OPENLY rejected b/c of my height. It's this overt declaration of disapproval of height that is annoying and laughable. If you don't want to date shorter guys, just don't and keep the comments in regards to such to yourself.

 

The one time a woman (online) ridiculed my height, I simply stated the obvious..."yes, I am short. And? I have no problems with my height and I'm still taller than you are." She never responded back. I learned enough from that exchange to know that she was a crappy person. Not b/c she preferred taller guys, rather, b/c she thought it appropriate to ridicule me for something I have no control over and remind me of the obvious.

 

At least that's the way I see it.

Meh, I've been ridiculed for my age (which is getting worse as I'm getting older, at least you are not getting shorter) and it's well known that a lot of men like women that are young/younger/youngish.

 

It is what it is.

[xxoo]

I think sometimes, people are looking for more than attraction. They're looking for (desperate for, in some cases) validation. Height is valued in man, so the woman needs that to show that she is good enough. Youth and thinness are valued in women, so the man needs that to prove he is good enough.

 

But if you truly believe you are good enough, then you are free to be with the person you like the most, and get turned on by the most. All that other crap stops mattering.

 

And then sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.....

[man_in_the_box]

Really? So I wonder why so many guys are intimated by a size difference then? Or you're one of those dillusional guys who don't care about size, let me know how that turns out for you

 

So next time my gf gets too much unwanted attention from some gentleman who doesn't know about boundaries I should just walk away and pretend nothing happens ?

[Els]

That's no big deal. Hard work pays off in my experience.

 

I like this guy's attitude.

 

Personally, while I can understand the 'biological' drive to be next to a large man, for some reason it hasn't really kicked in with me. I personally view the most important factors to safety/protection as: 1) observation skills, and 2) quick thinking. Okay, probably 3) physical fitness, too...

 

I don't want a man who jumps into fights with other guys for any reason, either, even if it's a good reason. My guy's life is worth way, way, way more to me than pride or winning an argument with a lowlife who isn't even worth it. The only time people should be fighting is in self-defense if there is really no other choice, IMO.

 

That being said, I still think the women on here are being bashed way too hard for their preferences. It doesn't matter whether someone wants a 6' guy or a 5' guy, a 300 lbs guy or a 150 lbs guy - just let them like what they like, sheesh. As long as they're not complaining every 2 weeks about how no men ever like them and later reveal that to really mean 'no men over 6' like them', what's the problem?

[StanMusial]

People like what they like.

 

What are you willing to sacrifice for a tall man? If he's tall and unemployed is that OK? What about if he is tall and a cheater and a liar? What if he's tall but boring and quiet? What if he's tall but is balding? There are so many variables to consider.

[Andy_K]

5'11 is short????!!! You gotta laugh when girls say this to you, no?

 

Hah, yes. I think for many you're either 'tall' (over six foot) or 'not tall', and therefore short. No middle ground!

[Emilia]

While I agree that everyone is entitled to preferences, I'm so glad I don't place particular importance on height or race. Life is just so much easier with more options

[stillafool]

That's a silly question...

 

I find tall guys make me feel more protected. Like they are big enough to take care of me. I also find tall men physically very attractive. That's my type, I guess

 

I don't understand the point of your thread. If you only feel "protected" by tall guys why would you want to try to date shorter men? Are there not enough tall men interested in you? I don't think it's nice to just use someone as an experiment. Lots of women (even tall ones) are attracted to shorter guys as well. It's all about the chemistry. I find it interesting that tall women never start these type of threads. Wonder why?

Edited February 20, 2014 by stillafool

[soccerrprp]

Meh, I've been ridiculed for my age (which is getting worse as I'm getting older, at least you are not getting shorter) and it's well known that a lot of men like women that are young/younger/youngish.

 

It is what it is.

 

:laugh:Depending on genetics, health, as I age, I will likely get shorter! But as long as I'm with my gf until I pass to the next world, I will always be tall(er) man in her life.

 

Again, keep it to yourself, you know? If one doesn't want to date older people, just don't and move on.

[ThatGirl213]

It's not a rule you're missing my point. Where are you from?

 

I did not say I was having a hard time finding one..Just wondered if my obsession was causing me to miss out on too much.

 

I am from the Caribbean.

[Emilia]

 

Again, keep it to yourself, you know? If one doesn't want to date older people, just don't and move on.

Yeah, that particular thing happened in OLD and he was negging. In real life it's not something that would occur, probably because wouldn't end up talking in the first place.

 

Real life tends to be more pleasant than OLD - in my experience.

[ThatGirl213]

Well, unfortunately this has become a debate as to whether short-guys deserve, are as desirable, but the OP is asking for help with an OBSESSION for tall guys.

 

It clearly sounds like she wants to be able to overlook height as a primary consideration and is not asking whether it's okay to have height as a preference.

 

OP, any idea what the root of your "obsession" with tall men may be?

 

I don't know what caused this obsession...It was the same way since I was a teen.

[soccerrprp]

Yeah, that particular thing happened in OLD and he was negging. In real life it's not something that would occur, probably because wouldn't end up talking in the first place.

 

Real life tends to be more pleasant than OLD - in my experience.

 

OLD allows people to be MORE of a jerk than they already are. It's just NOT NECESSARY to mention the reason why you are not interested. Just ignore and wish someone luck and move on.