If a man cries will women think it's a weakness?

[bostonterrier]

Well, I think the last time I cried I was around 14 years old when my grandfather died in a car accident,but men are still humans and expressing our feelings won't make us less masculine.

[samsungxoxo]

Well, I think the last time I cried I was around 14 years old when my grandfather died in a car accident,but men are still humans and expressing our feelings won't make us less masculine.

It's completely normal to cry over the death of a loved one. I don't see how anyone would expect you to still be stoic over that.

 

So yes a man can cry if he's undergoing something painful. It would only be a turn off if let's say he's crying because I didn't give him a glass of water or after an argument with TV channels, basically one crying for any little stuff.

[carhill]

Here's my conclusion, having been through the 'weakness' wringer....

 

If one's spouse/partner is sufficiently attracted, emotional expression, like crying, indicating vulnerability, is or can be be static to attractive. However, if attraction is precarious, such expression, not necessarily rising to the level of open crying, can tip the balance to the 'creepy' side.

 

It's not so much 'weakness', indicating something bad or wrong, but rather attractive or unattractive behavior and, since attraction isn't logical, there is no 'formula' that one can consistently rely upon. At the end of it, I'd rather be myself and be alone. This gives me the opportunity, right now, to be up early watching the Olympics and get a little misty eyed at the beauty and elegance of the venue and the competitors, something which comes naturally to me, without having to 'check myself' for a partner or spouse. Thank God for clarity!

[notthathard]

Yeah I don't think it should, but it depends on what situation the guy is crying. I mean if he is crying every time something bad happens to him then I can see how this is perceived as weak.

 

I think crying is a normal human response to emotional/physical/mental pain and should not generally be perceived as weak, but it shouldn't be a thing that happens regularly.

[HeavenOrHell]

It's no more weak for a man to cry as a woman, why shouldn't men feel or express emotion? I wish more men would, rather than appearing to not care much.

I can't stand gender stereotyping.

 

You're right it doesn't make you less masculine.

 

 

Well, I think the last time I cried I was around 14 years old when my grandfather died in a car accident,but men are still humans and expressing our feelings won't make us less masculine.

[HeavenOrHell]

A woman would be perceived as weak too if she's crying a lot.

 

 

Yeah I don't think it should, but it depends on what situation the guy is crying. I mean if he is crying every time something bad happens to him then I can see how this is perceived as weak.

 

I think crying is a normal human response to emotional/physical/mental pain and should not generally be perceived as weak, but it shouldn't be a thing that happens regularly.

[Stay_Gold]

Check out my post here in the same forum a couple days ago. I am in the same predicament you are in.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/mind-body-soul/self-improvement-personal-well-being/461445-stoicism-smoking

[samsungxoxo]

A woman would be perceived as weak too if she's crying a lot.

Yeah, I can imagine what a turn off it would be for a man if his gf is crying for everything on a daily basis.

 

Drama kings/queens are annoying.

[Disillusioned]

Ha ha... I wonder how the average woman would feel if her bf asked her for sex, and then he broke into crying when she said no? I'd get a kick out of seeing that.

[xxmusical]

I don't think crying would make a man less masculine. Crying is a way to cope with feelings and express emotions. Unless the guy is crying over every little thing, I don't see a problem with a man crying. It tells me that the man has feelings. I cried so much when my grandma passed away. My bf had tears in his eyes too. In a way, seeing him upset over my grandma's death increased my fondness for him.

[GravityMan]

This should be gender neutral.

 

Men and women who cry over every little thing are probably annoying to be around. I suppose you can also consider them weak.

 

However, men and women who never cry or show feelings or grief tend to have issues too. It's an extreme in the other direction. It would be considered strange not to show at least some semblance of grief when a loved one passes away. Overly stoic, hard, stone-faced robots generally aren't very well-liked. There's a good chance that those people are actually insecure and they've gone to lengths to bury that side of them.

 

Now, emotionally stable people who also have some empathy and humanity and are willing to show their vulnerable side when appropriate - those are the ones who are more likely to be truly confident. They're usually calm and collected, but around the right people they don't hide themselves and are open about sharing their feelings and emotions.

[samsungxoxo]

This should be gender neutral.

 

Men and women who cry over every little thing are probably annoying to be around. I suppose you can also consider them weak.

 

However, men and women who never cry or show feelings or grief tend to have issues too. It's an extreme in the other direction. It would be considered strange not to show at least some semblance of grief when a loved one passes away. Overly stoic, hard, stone-faced robots generally aren't very well-liked. There's a good chance that those people are actually insecure and they've gone to lengths to bury that side of them.

 

Now, emotionally stable people who also have some empathy and humanity and are willing to show their vulnerable side when appropriate - those are the ones who are more likely to be truly confident. They're usually calm and collected, but around the right people they don't hide themselves and are open about sharing their feelings and emotions.

Exactly...

 

Robot-like individuals and overly dramatic types are awful extremes.

[whichwayisup]

Well, I think the last time I cried I was around 14 years old when my grandfather died in a car accident,but men are still humans and expressing our feelings won't make us less masculine.

 

My H cried when his mom died and last year when his brother died. Any woman (or anybody) who says a man crying is weak are idiots.

[Fluttershy]

no context is important as people have said. Man or woman who cry over everything can make you immune to their tears. I don't even get annoyed it is just like it doesn't matter to me. But someone, male or female, who cries less easily, when they do cry you feel it. Their tears carry more meaning.

 

But if people cry over movies I think it is sweet. unless they cry over every movie then it is back to my first point.