Coping Social Networking Young Age

[Don007]

Hello, im having difficulties forgetting about my past girlfriend. Im about to be 21 and we broke up when i was 19 but we always left things open ended. Its been like 7-8 months of no contact but the feelings and memories are just as strong(just in the back of my head). Both of my parents have been divorced twice and ive taken those experiences along with my own dating which i wont label as all knowing but eager to successfully have one partner for many years. When i see girls( its not difficult ive seen loads already) they think im a player and i end up having like a binge relationship few night stands sort of thing. Then they probably go back to their bf. This last girl is on my mind alot like no ones ever been before, this instinct must mean something but we dont communicate like that. Ive moved on physically and stay strong(school, reading, working out, small circle of friends). At night its the worst but i understand we all have our demons. I dont want to go hookup meaninglessly, just one loyal girl will do. Success stories are what keeps me hoping for the best, however i cant be the sucker who is thinkin about an ex 10 years later. Im handsome, well rounded with good qualities and i cant figure out why i cant work towards my future wife. Maybe im just blowing off steam, it seems like the same problem again and again. Try not to judge, any advice or words of encouragement would be welcomed.

[lakerman34]

Hello, im having difficulties forgetting about my past girlfriend. Im about to be 21 and we broke up when i was 19 but we always left things open ended. Its been like 7-8 months of no contact but the feelings and memories are just as strong(just in the back of my head). Both of my parents have been divorced twice and ive taken those experiences along with my own dating which i wont label as all knowing but eager to successfully have one partner for many years. When i see girls( its not difficult ive seen loads already) they think im a player and i end up having like a binge relationship few night stands sort of thing. Then they probably go back to their bf. This last girl is on my mind alot like no ones ever been before, this instinct must mean something but we dont communicate like that. Ive moved on physically and stay strong(school, reading, working out, small circle of friends). At night its the worst but i understand we all have our demons. I dont want to go hookup meaninglessly, just one loyal girl will do. Success stories are what keeps me hoping for the best, however i cant be the sucker who is thinkin about an ex 10 years later. Im handsome, well rounded with good qualities and i cant figure out why i cant work towards my future wife. Maybe im just blowing off steam, it seems like the same problem again and again. Try not to judge, any advice or words of encouragement would be welcomed.

 

Honestly, you sound like you have it together a whole heck of a lot more than I did when I was 21. Good on you.

 

My advice is rather simple, and it's this: YOU'RE 21!

 

I know it doesn't sound like much now, but 21 is REALLY a puppy. You have your whole life ahead of you! You haven't REALLY experienced women yet! I'm 23 and I haven't really yet either.

 

When I was 22, I broke up with my ex, that girl that made the biggest mark on me in my entire life. I remember telling random women at the store about it, and one woman REALLY changed my way of viewing things: "I'm 31. Your 22. You're still a puppy, and she's a kitten. Even if you did last a bit younger, you have SO much more growing up to do."

 

Wait til you're 22, and see how much you've grown up in a year. Then 23, then 24, then 25. You'll be AMAZED.

 

I JUST sort of had it "ended" with a girl I may have been in love with. She's 21. I'm not too distraught over it. You know why? BECAUSE I KNOW SHE'S ONLY 21! In our "breakup" talk, I could tell that she thinks she has it all figured out. She isn't even close. That gave me what I needed to make this healing of my heart much easier.

 

Take a step back, and just REALLY think what this girl is going to mean to you in your life. When your life is coming to an end, you may not even remember her name or her story (not due to being senile, but for it being, in the grand scheme of things, rather meaningless). But she'll always be a small story in your life. She's just a stair on your grand staircase. The girl waiting for you at the top will be worth waiting for, and you'll wonder why you spent so much time ruminating over this one.

 

Cheers, man!