Mondmellonw Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 Ok, so. My answer to my own thread is yes. I actually have told some people or mutual friends to never talk about him with me anymore. Yesterday I got someone to ask me the following: "Is it true that you left him just because one of his girl friends gave him a scarf on his birthday?" This girl added that "we looked so happy together"... Ok. Yes. This situation made me left him for good and I know it sounds stupid... I thought about it for days, weeks and months. When I confronted him about it he even defended his friend. I am not a jealous person. I like to have my own space and my own group of friends (the same goes for a partner) but those days we saw each other 2 times, and he didn't even contacted me in any other way. I did, but he was always "in a hurry". (he still used his facebook and all, but he barely replied each time I tried to have contact). I didn't said she was a bad person or anything. It just seemed weird to me that she came from another city just to gave him a scarf and a hug. He never told me where they saw each other, and he was wearing the scarf when he came to my house. (On his birthday, cause I took him to a Japanese restaurant as a gift. He was hungover this day). This friend actually posted something on his wall for his birthday. It made me feel awkward cause he kind of avoided me before but he of course replied to her. My bigger brother suggested that this was just a play-move to make me a little jealous, and I think the same. But he was 26 year old, and I, being 20, never did this kind of thing to get his attention. It seemed silly. He just had to communicate what was wrong before doing this. Other reasons: He told me about his ex that she cheated on him multiple times. That he felt lucky for being out from that relationship. That he felt alive when he left. And you could actually see it on his eyes. But one day he unblocked her from facebook and stalked her. He replied to her pleading via phone messages by insulting her. The main point is: he never finished having contact with her, even if it was just to treat her badly (and I found this even more terrible. Told him once that I preferred if he was just indifferent). She was still hanging out with his friends to drink. Trust issues, and him lying and manipulating information. The day I left he actually liked one of her posts, so... Was I giving to much importance to this behavior? I am not american, in my country the facebook relationships have became just as important as the real ones. They're a serious reflection of the real ones. Yes... our weird culture. I don't need our mutual friends to know all of this. So if they want to think that I left "just because of that" then it's ok... I just needed to vent. It upsets me. Link to post Share on other sites
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