How long have you been single?

[mario_C]

About 20 years.

 

Really.

[notyouraveragebabe]

I see laundry list of requirements. That's a turn off.

 

I also don't see what do YOU have to offer? Ie. why should a guy be interested in you over other girls?

 

I have all the things listed and much more. I'm independent, have my own condo, 2 cars, working on my Masters. I have a job that can cover my expenses. I work out, tall, lean muscles, D cup, nice ass, with all my pearly whites. I'm attractive.I cook healthy food & clean. I'm outgoing, travel, plenty of friends. I'm affectionate and nice. I know how to say please and thank you. I can take a compliment and give compliments. Nothing that I don't ask for.

[notyouraveragebabe]

 

Unfortunately, the closer you slip to 30, the more of the guys who fit your mold will be married already. Your value dips and you are afraid of being alone or even worse: settling. I think you can totally meet someone though still without having to compromise. You might just end up having to put in a little more effort than you think you should have to, but it will go a long way. trust me.

 

 

I'm closer to 30 and the guys that have his life together are already dating, getting engaged, married or in love. I was stuck in a 10 year relationship, and trying to start over is hard;especially at 28. Now I am 28 trying to find the right one. I guess everything happens for a reason, and that reason I have yet to find out. Maybe when I meet this guy I will know. I am picky, but I can't settle. I can be a little flexible on the tall, dark, handsome, with a hot bod. However, I can't settle for a broke loser with no goals in life.

[kodakgirl]

I'm closer to 30 and the guys that have his life together are already dating, getting engaged, married or in love. I was stuck in a 10 year relationship, and trying to start over is hard;especially at 28. Now I am 28 trying to find the right one. I guess everything happens for a reason, and that reason I have yet to find out. Maybe when I meet this guy I will know. I am picky, but I can't settle. I can be a little flexible on the tall, dark, handsome, with a hot bod. However, I can't settle for a broke loser with no goals in life.

 

I hear you-- it is hard to imagine how the kind of great guy we're looking for could possibly NOT be involved with someone. But, well, you can turn it around--great girls like us aren't involved, right? It isn't because of not being special or lovable. It's because of a 10 year relationship that didn't work out, or moving around a lot, or bad luck with the guys things seemed promising with, etc. There's men out there with the same circumstances. Maybe the man you meet was in a relationship for most of his 20s too, then wanted to take a bit of time to be single, truly get over it, and be happy on his own. Maybe he's now having a similar hard time finding a great girl who isn't involved.

 

As I mentioned I did meet someone this summer who felt like "it"... yes, it didn't end up as I wanted (and honestly I'm still not 100% over that), but still, the way I felt, that YES, this is what I waited those 25 years for, this makes the end of things with that ex no problem at all, this is why I've been so picky.... that's the kind of "reason" it all happens for. 28 can feel really old when everyone else seems coupled up, but really, it's not. You're going to find that person that makes you think YES, this is why.

[Silver93]

I hear you-- it is hard to imagine how the kind of great guy we're looking for could possibly NOT be involved with someone. But, well, you can turn it around--great girls like us aren't involved, right? It isn't because of not being special or lovable. It's because of a 10 year relationship that didn't work out, or moving around a lot, or bad luck with the guys things seemed promising with, etc. There's men out there with the same circumstances. Maybe the man you meet was in a relationship for most of his 20s too, then wanted to take a bit of time to be single, truly get over it, and be happy on his own. Maybe he's now having a similar hard time finding a great girl who isn't involved.

 

As I mentioned I did meet someone this summer who felt like "it"... yes, it didn't end up as I wanted (and honestly I'm still not 100% over that), but still, the way I felt, that YES, this is what I waited those 25 years for, this makes the end of things with that ex no problem at all, this is why I've been so picky.... that's the kind of "reason" it all happens for. 28 can feel really old when everyone else seems coupled up, but really, it's not. You're going to find that person that makes you think YES, this is why.

You girls are still young and I'm sure any man will be lucky to have ye.

Just keep trying to meet new people and Mr Right will be just around the corner. Good luck.

[Silver93]

I'm closer to 30 and the guys that have his life together are already dating, getting engaged, married or in love. I was stuck in a 10 year relationship, and trying to start over is hard;especially at 28. Now I am 28 trying to find the right one. I guess everything happens for a reason, and that reason I have yet to find out. Maybe when I meet this guy I will know. I am picky, but I can't settle. I can be a little flexible on the tall, dark, handsome, with a hot bod. However, I can't settle for a broke loser with no goals in life.

 

I hear you-- it is hard to imagine how the kind of great guy we're looking for could possibly NOT be involved with someone. But, well, you can turn it around--great girls like us aren't involved, right? It isn't because of not being special or lovable. It's because of a 10 year relationship that didn't work out, or moving around a lot, or bad luck with the guys things seemed promising with, etc. There's men out there with the same circumstances. Maybe the man you meet was in a relationship for most of his 20s too, then wanted to take a bit of time to be single, truly get over it, and be happy on his own. Maybe he's now having a similar hard time finding a great girl who isn't involved.

 

As I mentioned I did meet someone this summer who felt like "it"... yes, it didn't end up as I wanted (and honestly I'm still not 100% over that), but still, the way I felt, that YES, this is what I waited those 25 years for, this makes the end of things with that ex no problem at all, this is why I've been so picky.... that's the kind of "reason" it all happens for. 28 can feel really old when everyone else seems coupled up, but really, it's not. You're going to find that person that makes you think YES, this is why.

You girls are still young and I'm sure any man will be lucky to have ye.

Just keep trying to meet new people and Mr Right will be just around the corner. Good luck.

[Scales]

Gonna have to agree with Silver with on this one, the fact that you both are single gives hope to guys searching everywhere. Quality is around, the opportunities just become fewer. I seriously have no doubt you will both somebody, so relax.

[kodakgirl]

You girls are still young and I'm sure any man will be lucky to have ye.

Just keep trying to meet new people and Mr Right will be just around the corner. Good luck.

 

Gonna have to agree with Silver with on this one, the fact that you both are single gives hope to guys searching everywhere. Quality is around, the opportunities just become fewer. I seriously have no doubt you will both somebody, so relax.

 

That is sweet, thank you

[organizedchaos]

I would say men are going to disagree with my post. I don't think I am asking for a lot.

 

1. Have a good job- is that really hard?

2. Work-out-eat healthy- take care of yourself, it's your body. I don't want my future husband to have a stroke at 50 and bed ridden at 51.

3. Education- Geez go to college. Do something with your life. I want a guy with goals and who is ambitious.

4. Handsome- I don't want a guy with no teeth.

5. Sweet- buy me some flowers, tell me I'm pretty, open my door.

6. Car- if you have a job then you would have a car.

 

This might be a good lesson for some of you guys. It's not that hard.

 

Pretty basic requirements. I hit all 6.

[Hornylildevil]

Three years in March. Tired of being single and playing the games. In fact, I'm damned lonely. I'm trying, though.

[Beast_117]

All my life. 22 years old.

[Salvatore85]

I'm closer to 30 and the guys that have his life together are already dating, getting engaged, married or in love. I was stuck in a 10 year relationship, and trying to start over is hard;especially at 28. Now I am 28 trying to find the right one. I guess everything happens for a reason, and that reason I have yet to find out. Maybe when I meet this guy I will know. I am picky, but I can't settle. I can be a little flexible on the tall, dark, handsome, with a hot bod. However, I can't settle for a broke loser with no goals in life.

 

How, exactly were you "stuck" in a 10-year relationship? If you don't mind me asking of course?

 

What if the guy didn't go to college but still does well financially? Not every intelligent person chose college. I'm quite intelligent and chose the work force and make more than enough to take care of myself. And let's be honest, nobody wants to settle for a broke loser with zero ambition.

 

Edit: I've been single for a year after a 5-year relationship

[iouaname]

I've been single now for about 14 months! I've forgotten what it feels like to be in a relationship

[Musing]

I've been single for almost 2 months

I don't plan on dating for awhile. If opportunity presents itself when I am ready, I'll take it, but I'm not in a hurry at the moment.

 

I look for a guy with both positive and negative attributes. As long as they aren't devastating negatives, anyway (like abusive, sociopath, etc)

Total-package kind of guys honestly freak me out and bore me at the same time.

I'm weird.

 

That said, my kind of guy is hard to find because he is an introvert like myself and we don't really tend to go out often so, I'm at a loss

 

I'll go brood around a coffeehouse sometime maybe.

[notyouraveragebabe]

How, exactly were you "stuck" in a 10-year relationship? If you don't mind me asking of course?

 

What if the guy didn't go to college but still does well financially? Not every intelligent person chose college. I'm quite intelligent and chose the work force and make more than enough to take care of myself. And let's be honest, nobody wants to settle for a broke loser with zero ambition.

 

Edit: I've been single for a year after a 5-year relationship

 

Dated my guy for 10 years since high school. I guess I was stuck because I thought he was the one until now.

[notyouraveragebabe]

Anyways all this complaining and I met someone at the gym today. :love:

 

If you follow my other thread "Should I ask this guy out?" I been flirting with a hot gym guy with all the qualities I want. Tall, dark, handsome, with pearly whites. Athletic bod. Has a car, a good job. Went to the gym today and finally ran into him again. It's been 2 weeks since I last saw him. I took the initiative and asked for his number. He looked shocked and confused, but he took my phone and called his with it. So he has my number too. I just mentioned if he want to work out, don't know where it will go, but we shall see. Hopefully, he doesn't think that I just want to work out with him. I mean; I hope he knows I'm interested in a relationship. He seems interested, we talked for a while at the gym, but he hasn't text me anything more than "let's meet up tomorrow night at the gym." He hasn't ask me out or anything more.

[Salvatore85]

Anyways all this complaining and I met someone at the gym today. :love:

 

If you follow my other thread "Should I ask this guy out?" I been flirting with a hot gym guy with all the qualities I want. Tall, dark, handsome, with pearly whites. Athletic bod. Has a car, a good job. Went to the gym today and finally ran into him again. It's been 2 weeks since I last saw him. I took the initiative and asked for his number. He looked shocked and confused, but he took my phone and called his with it. So he has my number too. I just mentioned if he want to work out, don't know where it will go, but we shall see. Hopefully, he doesn't think that I just want to work out with him. I mean; I hope he knows I'm interested in a relationship. He seems interested, we talked for a while at the gym, but he hasn't text me anything more than "let's meet up tomorrow night at the gym." He hasn't ask me out or anything more.

 

He hasn't text you anymore because he doesn't want to seem desperate.

[ltjg45]

I don't ask for much; good job, educated, athletic, eat healthy, sweet, handsome, caring, have car, don't live with parents, and outgoing.

 

Actually, you are asking for quite a lot. These days, it is quite difficult to get that, even as a man, in this dog-eat-dog world. It is almost a given that to get a good job, you have to be cruel to get it so good luck finding a man who has a job that also has morals......even more so if he's single.

[Arclight]

I've been single for coming on 15 years now. 34 years old.

 

In those fifteen years I've never had a date or any interest at all from women so far as I can tell.

I'm not especially proactive in that regard, but then no woman I've ever asked out has said yes and as the years go by you feel less and less inclined to ask.

 

I can understand the frustration of the OP. It's not so much a case of keeping up but the feeling that the world is moving on without you. And in many ways it's true. I see my friends dating, getting married, having children and realize they're moving on to a world I most likely will never have.

[maiden of rohan]

Single for four years, and I'm still not ready to "settle" down. I don't date at all, and I'm quite happy with it.

 

Do I have high standards? I don't know. I think everyone should have high standards for the person you intend to devote your life to. Then again, I'm so happy being alone that I know it will take someone very special to make me think I'd be happier with them than without them.

Edited February 24, 2014 by maiden of rohan

[Guy On The Couch]

I've been single 2.5 years. And to be honest it has been really exuberant. It's a matter of choice staying single for me. Call me selfish, well because I am.

[kart180]

single for 4 years now but not happy. Wish I could date again but just cant

[skydiveaddict]

Geez where are these guys?! I'm tired of looking.

 

 

Like I've said before, we're all out skydiving

[mattny]

I signed up after reading this. Those guys that youre looking for, we are out there...I know so because Im one of them

 

6 months recently single, 4 years 2 months was my last relationship. Last year tested our strength, we were making progress, secretly had put money away for a ring (was always broke and wouldnt tell her why), and because of her staying by my side I knew she was it.

 

30 days out from proposing to her, she threw in the towel.

 

It devastated me pretty hard, it was like getting left at the altar. She has since started seeing someone else already, I see her in crossfit all the time, our conversations were normal at the beginning but have since dropped to nothing. Wished her the best of luck in her new relationship and have moved on.

 

As far as gentleman qualities go, I did everything 'right'. Loved her everyday, always opened the door, pulled out her chair, followed her when out to dinner, etc. Never stopped courting her, always kept her on her toes. Even when I had trouble keeping a job last year (job market was extremely tough in NY here), i had a lot of lines/feelers out, something was bound to bite. 3 weeks after we broke up, I landed my career at NYs biggest utility company (grandpa worked here for 38 years).

 

I had always told her to be patient and things would turn out well...she could have the world. Now its mine to find someone else to share it with.

 

Im 31, workout 5-6 days a week, crossfit like a mofo and love my career..yeah I took a 50% salary cut to start, but in two years it will pay off. I consider myself fit, healthy, and love life. Ive had issues with being selfish, but ive gotten a lot better.

 

Sometimes I do feel like time is wasting for me. Im kind of beyond the going out phase, all my friends are married, getting married or have kids, and im starting over from scratch at getting my own place and getting my life back in order. Feels like im 22 again....lol! But I know it will get better.

 

Ive been on several dates, but gotten friendzoned each time. Kept it flirty, wasnt a doormat, went for the kiss to show my intentions, and got rejected each time. In the end I realized most of them didnt know what they wanted, I guess partially because they couldnt believe a guy like me exists (i got to hear the 'where are the nice guys' story over and over) or I must be too good to be true and lying in order to get into their pants. While I will admit that im a freak in the sheets, Ive kind of leaned away from going for sex the first time around...maybe thats causing my results?

 

My ex and I had an affair while we were both in relationships. Not the greatest way to meet but the sex was out of this world and I enjoyed putting her to sleep lol! But Im happy to have met her and been a part of her life. I think there was real love there at one point.

 

I guess im just rambling at this point, but even a guy like me, who still can be socially awkward at times, can loosen up and still go out and get a phone number or a date, regardless of outcome. Confidence will attract them, wether you think they are right for you or not.

 

What I really want is this, and i said this to my ex the first full night we spent together. " Im not perfect. Im not trying to be. I have flaws, and lots of them. There will be times Ill make you happy, times I make you sad, and times you'll hate my guts. But in all I want you to stay by my side no matter what happens, we are both a work in progress and love isnt perfect." She didnt tell me til a year later she cried that night in the dark, I dont know what her emotions were lol.

 

That is what I want. I will choose to not settle, but I will keep going on dates. Those guys that every woman claim dont exist, we are out there. You claim we 'arent a challenge' and you always go for bad guys cuse 'they need fixing', well we have our own issues too. And a challenge? Try me Im working on a condo of my own and acquiring a 911, something ive l

put off for 6 years in order to pursue other priorities. I want a woman who sees the potential in me and wants to come along for the ride and be a part of the struggle, and stay for the reward in the end, as any girl can always present herself when things are going well....but will they see the light when times get tough and dark, and know that things will get better?

[Noproblem]

All my life.

My motto is" single and I'm planning to keep it that way."