How do you deal with consistent rejection

[Heatemyheart89]

I am a 24 year old female and in the past 2 1/2 years I have been rejected by dates etc. I feel so broken. My confidence is so low.Is there any way of getting over this?

[Lernaean_Hydra]

As part of the 1990s kid master race, and just inches away from being 24 myself, I certainly know that feel intimately. However your relative vagueness didn't leave much room for advice.

 

What is it that you want out of life at this stage and what do you mean by you've been "rejected by dates"? Do you mean you've had a lot of failed first dates, aren't getting attention or are getting attention but find it quickly wanes? The devil IS in the details after all...

[stillafool]

Maybe you should let men approach you and do the asking, this way you won't be rejected!

[Heatemyheart89]

I don't remember where I read this but it was interesting..

Basically a group of guys at a college somewhere put so much money in each, then they decided the first guy to get rejected 20 times or so got the lot. The idea was to make taking the risk of asking someone out/telling someone how you feel/etc and turning it into a win-win situation.

 

 

Maybe you could kind of use that psychology too? If not by betting on it then by setting a goal of rejections by a certain time? It sounds absolutely insane, but the fear of rejection really is all in your head. It's actually quite like a game once you get into it.

 

 

If that suggestion sounds completely stupid to you then the only advice I can think of is don't let it stop you from putting yourself out there. I've found rejection from someone only hurts until I've gain interest in someone else.

Thank you that is a great reply!

[hasaquestion]

I am a 24 year old female and in the past 2 1/2 years I have been rejected by dates etc. I feel so broken. My confidence is so low.Is there any way of getting over this?

 

That's the problem with confidence. When you get a good outcome it makes you feel good, and you get more confidence which makes you more attractive to others. When you get a bad outcome it gets you down, and you lose confidence which makes you less attractive to others. Its a catch-22.

 

OP could you talk to me about what you feel is good about you? Why should I as a guy start dating you? Tell me about it.

[mea_M]

I know rejection is tough. Repeated rejection even tougher. I guess look at it this way, try to be thankful that perhaps these rejections happened for a reason. You know just not the right person? Also, take a step back for a bit. Perhaps explore your approach to meeting new potential love interests?

 

Mea :-)

[lino]

Welcome to the average man's world.

 

I'll give you some advice often written on this message board for men dealing with constant rejection.

 

Keep putting yourself out there and asking guys out. It's a numbers game.

 

Enjoy life without a man, partaking in your hobbies and the right man will come when you least expect.

 

Work out, dress nice, get a good hair cut, get a good job, be funny, confident, etc