Author katie79 Posted January 24, 2005 Author Share Posted January 24, 2005 it can go either way! depends on the person and the type of relationship they are in. Link to post Share on other sites
butterfly029 Posted January 25, 2005 Share Posted January 25, 2005 Yeah, so you both want to move in together and get excited about it. And then it makes the girl want to get married even more and the guy never proposes... Or it takes him years to decide to do so... Link to post Share on other sites
Zora Posted February 1, 2005 Share Posted February 1, 2005 Here's my story... First off - statistics are ..well, just statistic, just another persons words... opinions of and on something, if we all followed a book or a website or a persons thoughts of what is said to be the right thing or the wrong thing ... well, we'd all be up the creek Just Zora's opinion here (yes, another opinion) ha ha Well my b/f of almost two years we live together. I lived in an apt, he owns a house. So after months of basically living at his house it was time to make the move, at first I was scared, scared to lose the "my time" bathroom time too so I held off, then I said dam, I love this guy, I want to spend the home time with him, I want to really know him before I make any committments... so we live together now. Life is SOOO good even after many months now. We never fight (although I am not saying we will NEVER because I was always told never say never so) but so far, nothing. We are both so laid back. The house chores are both of ours, the cooking is too, he works full time as I do, he gets out sometimes sooner, sometimes later then I do so we see eachother at night when we are done with our days, BUT the biggy here is he HAS A LIFE and I have a huge committment to my life outside of work... so we get plenty "us" time and "individual" and "potty" he he time. I wanted to see his quirks before the relationship got deeper and the are quirks that I absolutly can live with. Now, to say we will marry or not just because we live together is silly in ways. Will we get married? I am so not sure, if he do, cool, if not , welll I still have a great roomate who I love dearly regardless. I think I think alot different the alot of other women though, my mind is more manly haha Link to post Share on other sites
hotgurl Posted February 2, 2005 Share Posted February 2, 2005 I also always wondered where those studies we getting their numbers. Also the time frame. Are they studying one year or changes over several years. What are they comparing it to. Plus one big point every study never mentions is the economic factor. Back in the day people got married earlier, college was less expensive and mostly they lived with their parents prior to marriage. Now people are getting married later. They usually move out after college. They are saddled with more debt from attending college, rent, food, gas ect have gone way up and salaries have not kept pace. As you age it is also harder to find roommates especially ones that you like ect.. it is very difficult for most people, I know to afford to live by oneself. So when in a long term relationship it makes sense financially to co-habitat. So your dating a guy you love your roommate moves out it's natural to think hey lets try it. How this effects marriage I don't know. But I have a feeling what they are comparing it to is outdated ideals. Link to post Share on other sites
Spira Posted February 2, 2005 Share Posted February 2, 2005 One Q: How can you get married to someone or even think about it before you've lived with them first? That seems strange to me. You don't *really* *really* know someone until you've lived with them. Link to post Share on other sites
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