If you want them back.

[BC1980]

I dont know if its funny, but its true. I lost my dad in november, the ex dumped me a week and a half later. It has been excruciatingly painful having to deal with it both at the same time but losing her was worse than losing him. Its sort of robbed my grieving process for my dad with is so f'd up.

 

He did not choose to die and leave, she chose to leave.

 

I meant funny as in odd, not funny like "ha ha."

[WantanS4]

I know man, we make stupid decisions when we are emotional.

 

 

however way you want to put it, or for whatever reason, you dumped her.

 

 

 

you learn from your mistakes, don't throw someone away to try to spark anything.

 

 

it don't work that way.

 

 

the correct way is to stay *together* and work it out.

 

 

she rebounded BECAUSE you dumped her.

 

 

do your thing man.

 

So... like... Umm... just to let everyone know... I've managed to fall into what seems like a relationship (no joke, seriously, practically tripped) since this last post. And for some odd reason, it feels as if we've been together for years.

 

Why am I posting this?? Well, because, I gotta say: I don't think about the EX at all now.

 

I'm in awe acutally, and I can't quite figure out if it's real, or if I'm just kind of rebounding. But the reality of it is, I think and feel, that I absolutely enjoy her company 10x more than the ex.

 

Weird no?

 

So guys, something better awaits around the corner! Keep your heads up and do your thing.

[jphcbpa]

So... like... Umm... just to let everyone know... I've managed to fall into what seems like a relationship (no joke, seriously, practically tripped) since this last post. And for some odd reason, it feels as if we've been together for years.

 

Why am I posting this?? Well, because, I gotta say: I don't think about the EX at all now.

 

I'm in awe acutally, and I can't quite figure out if it's real, or if I'm just kind of rebounding. But the reality of it is, I think and feel, that I absolutely enjoy her company 10x more than the ex.

 

Weird no?

 

So guys, something better awaits around the corner! Keep your heads up and do your thing.

 

great for you! tell us more.....

 

how did you meet?

 

how long since the BU?

[LifeGoesOnMan]

So... like... Umm... just to let everyone know... I've managed to fall into what seems like a relationship (no joke, seriously, practically tripped) since this last post. And for some odd reason, it feels as if we've been together for years.

 

Why am I posting this?? Well, because, I gotta say: I don't think about the EX at all now.

 

I'm in awe acutally, and I can't quite figure out if it's real, or if I'm just kind of rebounding. But the reality of it is, I think and feel, that I absolutely enjoy her company 10x more than the ex.

 

Weird no?

 

So guys, something better awaits around the corner! Keep your heads up and do your thing.

 

 

 

thatta boy!!!

 

 

one door closes, another one opens, if you let it!

 

 

amazing how fast those feelings seem to fade when someone else shows interest in you.

 

 

I think that's what people are missing most, not the actual person, but the feeling of being wanted.

[jphcbpa]

thatta boy!!!

 

one door closes, another one opens, if you let it!

 

 

amazing how fast those feelings seem to fade when someone else shows interest in you.

 

 

I think that's what people are missing most, not the actual person, but the feeling of being wanted.

 

 

This was from my morning meditation....

 

The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live.

-- Flora Whittemore

We often hear the phrase, "When one door shuts, another opens." It means everything has a beginning and an end. When our travels on one path are completed, another path lies ahead.

It's not easy to feel a door close. Relationships, friendships, careers, and lives end. Although we may not understand why a door closes, it's important to remember our Higher Power has everything to do with it. By the same token, we may not understand why certain doors open, revealing opportunities we may have longed for. Again, our Higher Power feels we are ready to pursue that new experience.

The doors that open and close today help prepare us for our experiences tonight. The doors that open and close tonight will help us grow toward tomorrow. We are not mice in a maze, randomly pursuing paths for a reward of cheese. We are children of our Higher Power, guided towards our chosen goal through the many doors we open and close along the way.

[WantanS4]

great for you! tell us more.....

 

how did you meet?

 

how long since the BU?

 

Met through friends...

 

Started talking about 2 months after BU... and umm, didn't go out the first time but maybe 2 weeks ago...

 

It was like *POOF*... now it's 'How are you doing dear?'....

 

My head spins when I think of it, but honestly, I'm not complaining. Just in awe.

[LifeGoesOnMan]

This was from my morning meditation....

 

 

 

awesome and very true.

 

 

it's all emotions, feelings, chemicals

 

 

& they fade

 

 

& then they flare up again for someone else when you least expect it.

 

 

what's meant to be, will be.

[jphcbpa]

 

I think that's what people are missing most, not the actual person, but the feeling of being wanted.

 

THIS is true...I think I am still holding onto this fantasy of who I made her out to be. I miss the connection and companionship. The truth is she is a good person, but not a good partner.

 

I look forward to having companionship in the near future. Not ready for it yet...well I am, but my heart is not and I would not be fair to another woman just yet. In time...

[LifeGoesOnMan]

Met through friends...

 

Started talking about 2 months after BU... and umm, didn't go out the first time but maybe 2 weeks ago...

 

It was like *POOF*... now it's 'How are you doing dear?'....

 

My head spins when I think of it, but honestly, I'm not complaining. Just in awe.

 

 

 

that's great!!

 

 

just take it slow, don't expect too much too fast and just let it ride!!

[LifeGoesOnMan]

THIS is true...I think I am still holding onto this fantasy of who I made her out to be. I miss the connection and companionship. The truth is she is a good person, but not a good partner.

 

I look forward to having companionship in the near future. Not ready for it yet...well I am, but my heart is not and I would not be fair to another woman just yet. In time...

 

 

 

its very true, because as soon as I was semi-dating a new girl a few months into my breakup, my ex wasn't even crossing my mind a 1/4 of the time she was the months before.

 

I'm sure as hell I was crossing hers though!

 

 

the connection you created with your ex was real, and that will never change, sure you "disconnect", date other people, move on, but when you have or had genuine feelings for someone, you will probably always have a special connection (you did sleep with each other consistently for significant amount of time after all)

 

 

you just gotta believe you will have that same connection and feelings for someone else, eventually & when you're ready.

 

 

in time my friend, in time.

 

 

something like over 3 billion girls out there after all.

[malin819]

well she is so messed up we exchanged a few emails she sent this

 

Keep in mind I'll finally moving out this weekend. I'm giving her what she wants even if she doesn't want that and she doesn't like it

 

Ill start thinking like you do and put my happiness first. And for me to be happy right now u need to be out of my life

 

I didn't respond and an hour later she sent this

 

For me to get over you . I have to get you out of my life Not talk to you and not see you. Cause if I do ill want to talk and cuddle again. And with the situation right now its not good Thanks to you im now putting my happiness first without thinking of anyone before me.

Edited March 7, 2014 by malin819

[WantanS4]

well she is so messed up we exchanged a few emails she sent this

 

Keep in mind I'll finally moving out this weekend. I'm giving her what she wants even if she doesn't want that and she doesn't like it

 

Ill start thinking like you do and put my happiness first. And for me to be happy right now u need to be out of my life

 

I didn't respond and an hour later she sent this

 

For me to get over you . I have to get you out of my life Not talk to you and not see you. Cause if I do ill want to talk and cuddle again. And with the situation right now its not good Thanks to you im now putting my happiness first without thinking of anyone before me.

 

LET HER GO!!!! Let her have her way, because right now, she's trying to validate and dignify that decision. Let it be... as hard as it is, let her have her way.

 

She'll wake up one day and say "ohh... what was I thinking." Maybe then, like in my case, it'll be too late.

 

As for my ex, which I have to work with, her pride is getting in the way. She has no one... her rebound blew up in her face... now she's just another one of the many single, 'doesn't know what she wants' women roaming from one door to the next looking for 'real affection'. I pity her actually... just too bad she doesn't get it.

[malin819]

I went out yesterday and she popped up with her friends and she pulled my arm and gave me a speach that destroyed me so I left. Saying that she could make mistakes and sleep around even if she didnt want to

 

Then she called 4 times and txted I might be drunk but I miss you. Then Miss you. Then please give me a kiss pleasssseeeee and finally when I didnt respond she said fine then!

 

I only responded to the first call and she was asking where I was why I left the bar and what she was doing.

[Geekinthepinkx]

Hi i hope you could help me

 

my ex bf and i had a great relationship for 4 years, he is my clyde and i was his bonnie my partner in crime. The only reason that i could think of the break up was when we found out that the hospital abroad wanted me to work for them for 2 years.. The deadline was at the of the month.. My ex bf ask me if i could get him any job there so he could come with me he planned to get us wed before i leave even before, i heard from his mom that for 2 weeks he was pissed off cant think clearly, he started to hang out with his officemates that are bad for him, drinking alot going to bars (which he doesn't like ) . I just let him do his thing because i think maybe this is the way for him to let his anger out that i was going away. So thats when he met the girl in their office..

 

I think they took advantage of him being depress and feed him with "she doesnt love you anymore" crap.

 

We broke up and he started dating his co worker, after 3days of the break up.. I didn't curse him, yell at him bad mouth him from other people . i keep understanding his situation on why he did it, i forgiven him i told that. . 1 week after the break i made efforts to get him back, gave him the anniversary gift i was saving up for him. A scarp book of us and lastly a video of me about 100 reasons why i love him

 

After he watched the video he started to blame me, practically telling me it was my fault.. I never argue back. He said "maybe im just confused, regret the idea of courting her, im not into her, just give me time, thats all i am asking, im not serious about her i cannot break up with her so just give me time"

 

After our confrontation i started doing NC im on 90 days NC, 4months of them going out.

I still keep in touch with his mom, he always ask me to her (how i am, do i still go to there house). I made a great impact on my ex he was proud of me, and told people i changed his live for the better, because he had a dark past.

 

Do you think i have great chance getting him back? Is it a rebound?

 

Thank you

[Simon Phoenix]

Hi i hope you could help me

 

my ex bf and i had a great relationship for 4 years, he is my clyde and i was his bonnie my partner in crime. The only reason that i could think of the break up was when we found out that the hospital abroad wanted me to work for them for 2 years.. The deadline was at the of the month.. My ex bf ask me if i could get him any job there so he could come with me he planned to get us wed before i leave even before, i heard from his mom that for 2 weeks he was pissed off cant think clearly, he started to hang out with his officemates that are bad for him, drinking alot going to bars (which he doesn't like ) . I just let him do his thing because i think maybe this is the way for him to let his anger out that i was going away. So thats when he met the girl in their office..

 

I think they took advantage of him being depress and feed him with "she doesnt love you anymore" crap.

 

We broke up and he started dating his co worker, after 3days of the break up.. I didn't curse him, yell at him bad mouth him from other people . i keep understanding his situation on why he did it, i forgiven him i told that. . 1 week after the break i made efforts to get him back, gave him the anniversary gift i was saving up for him. A scarp book of us and lastly a video of me about 100 reasons why i love him

 

After he watched the video he started to blame me, practically telling me it was my fault.. I never argue back. He said "maybe im just confused, regret the idea of courting her, im not into her, just give me time, thats all i am asking, im not serious about her i cannot break up with her so just give me time"

 

After our confrontation i started doing NC im on 90 days NC, 4months of them going out.

I still keep in touch with his mom, he always ask me to her (how i am, do i still go to there house). I made a great impact on my ex he was proud of me, and told people i changed his live for the better, because he had a dark past.

 

Do you think i have great chance getting him back? Is it a rebound?

 

Thank you

 

No clue, but you talking to his mom doesn't help your cause. You need to stop that immediately. His mom is his confidant, not yours. He likely sees that as you meddling.

[Geekinthepinkx]

Thank you for the responding, yeah i already stop talking to her last december.

[rosannnnnnnnaaaaa]

So this guy is always going to be that guy i have feelings for, and i think i'd probably get back with him since i love him so much... anyway:

 

my ex has been trying to contact me the past month, (6 months after we broke up) by inviting me to a party at his house, i didnt even bother replying, then sending me a message a week later saying we should be friends and inviting me out with him and his housemate for drinks to which i replied "is this a joke?". The other day he sent me an essay message basically apologizing profusely for his behaviour, then saying he wants to be friends and then inviting me to his house so he can cook a meal for me and then we can catch up or something like that. To this i replied "i dont know what to say, ill have to think about it"

 

What should my next move be?

 

I think i should go to dinner and see what he has to say? I know i got to make him sing for his supper but i feel like if i dont go ill regret it...

 

Any help would be absolutely wonderful! x

[LifeGoesOnMan]

So this guy is always going to be that guy i have feelings for, and i think i'd probably get back with him since i love him so much... anyway:

 

my ex has been trying to contact me the past month, (6 months after we broke up) by inviting me to a party at his house, i didnt even bother replying, then sending me a message a week later saying we should be friends and inviting me out with him and his housemate for drinks to which i replied "is this a joke?". The other day he sent me an essay message basically apologizing profusely for his behaviour, then saying he wants to be friends and then inviting me to his house so he can cook a meal for me and then we can catch up or something like that. To this i replied "i dont know what to say, ill have to think about it"

 

What should my next move be?

 

I think i should go to dinner and see what he has to say? I know i got to make him sing for his supper but i feel like if i dont go ill regret it...

 

Any help would be absolutely wonderful! x

 

 

 

 

I would make him bust as long as possible, but if you want to get back with him, give it a shot.

[malin819]

I went out yesterday and she popped up with her friends and she pulled my arm and gave me a speach that destroyed me so I left. Saying that she could make mistakes and sleep around even if she didnt want to

 

Then she called 4 times and txted I might be drunk but I miss you. Then Miss you. Then please give me a kiss pleasssseeeee and finally when I didnt respond she said fine then!

 

I only responded to the first call and she was asking where I was why I left the bar and what she was doing.

 

heard nothing from her but she is asking questions to mutual friends :/

[LifeGoesOnMan]

heard nothing from her but she is asking questions to mutual friends :/

 

 

 

 

 

f--k her.

 

she was a drunk slob when she said those things.

 

 

cant take it seriously.

[malin819]

f--k her.

 

she was a drunk slob when she said those things.

 

 

cant take it seriously.

 

didn't expect that anwser bro but she said she is wishing I get better with my therapy and she was in for the long term and to date afterwards

 

I didn't contact her since I moved out Friday and she was mad jealous I showed up with my sexy manager from work to help me out hahaha

[LifeGoesOnMan]

didn't expect that anwser bro but she said she is wishing I get better with my therapy and she was in for the long term and to date afterwards

 

I didn't contact her since I moved out Friday and she was mad jealous I showed up with my sexy manager from work to help me out hahaha

 

 

 

don't mean to be harsh, but its true.

 

 

girls are on a constant roller coaster of emotion, and when they are drunk they might as well be going around a loopty loop.

 

 

don't contact her at all and nice lol love a quick little jab

[malin819]

I had to see her yesterday to give her some money that I owed. I didn't tell her anything and I knocked on her door when she answered her mouth dropped. I gave her the money and left not even a small convo. 5 minutes after I get a txt...no anwser and then a call. She asked to take a coffee and I should not ask one question.

 

So I went over and she has been miserable the whole time crying and not going to work. She asked to work it out and was complety freaking out because I didn't anwser her last friday and didn't contact her after I moved out.

 

Be strong guys...be strong

[LifeGoesOnMan]

I had to see her yesterday to give her some money that I owed. I didn't tell her anything and I knocked on her door when she answered her mouth dropped. I gave her the money and left not even a small convo. 5 minutes after I get a txt...no anwser and then a call. She asked to take a coffee and I should not ask one question.

 

So I went over and she has been miserable the whole time crying and not going to work. She asked to work it out and was complety freaking out because I didn't anwser her last friday and didn't contact her after I moved out.

 

Be strong guys...be strong

 

 

good job and keep it up bro.

[erklat]

Bump for the newly broken hearted.