awwmayne Posted February 25, 2014 Share Posted February 25, 2014 I'm posting this post at my breaking point. To make things short and simple...this girl and i have been co workers a bit over a year and I 've liked her from the start. However, she's had a bf whom shes broken up several of times with. knowing she had a bf I decided to hold off on my confession till she was available or until the chanced showed up. Thus over time we became good friends and supported each other through thick and thin. She's described him to be offensive and manipulating, thus i have comforted her and encouraged her to move on. It was not about 4 months ago that things with him were getting really bad so I decided to make a move on her. She supposedly admitted she loved me but was confused and needed time to clear her mind. I gave her time. Next thing I know, shes back with him and claims to be very happy. I am now sitting here trying to restrain my anger and yeah and a couple manly tears. its been about 4 days since i have spoken to her and really dont want to see her because i honestly love her too much to see and hear her talk about how good things are with her bf. Im very confused as to what i should do. I plan to cut communication with her bc I'm becoming miserable and I really need to get over her BUT I really value the friendship we have at the same time. I just cant bare being with her and knowing she belongs to someone else. Someone please guide me! Link to post Share on other sites
Hornylildevil Posted February 25, 2014 Share Posted February 25, 2014 This is why it's a bad idea to date coworkers. Sorry, I know that's not very helpful but you had to learn this lesson. I learned the hard way, too... Link to post Share on other sites
Author awwmayne Posted February 26, 2014 Author Share Posted February 26, 2014 We never dated though and yeah I know dating co workers is a bad idea but I can't mandate love, it just happened. The thing is im not sure if i should keep trying to win her over or just force myself to forget her and move on. Also im afraid we cannot continue being friends bc of my feelings. Anyone who has had a similar case please give me some advice. Link to post Share on other sites
David87 Posted February 26, 2014 Share Posted February 26, 2014 Never date a co worker and second never date a women who just ended a relationship. In this case don't try too hard just remain friends and that's it. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted February 26, 2014 Share Posted February 26, 2014 The thing is im not sure if i should keep trying to win her over or just force myself to forget her and move on. Also im afraid we cannot continue being friends bc of my feelings. Anyone who has had a similar case please give me some advice. You have to force yourself to move on. You can't be friends anymore. I went out with a colleague and it didn't work out (it often does for others, many people meet their spouse at work, it's common) and we are on friendly terms but I avoid socialising with him after work. It's been ok but he saw me in a shop today at lunchtime and bumped into me on purpose to get attention and that made me sad because I know there is no point Usually it's ok though. Link to post Share on other sites
Iguanna Posted February 26, 2014 Share Posted February 26, 2014 The problem is not her being a coworker but that she is the kind of girl who likes the bad boy who abuses her and treats her bad. You can't (luckily) beat that. I bet that in a few years she would chase you like crazy cause she will have gotten sick of the bad boys and she will be looking for some nice guy to settle with, but by that time you will (hopefully) be long gone. I'm sorry you suffer but that's love. I'd suggest to send her a letter with your feelings and ask from her to stay away from you to the point possible. Move on. She will lose more years with this abusive man, I'm afraid. Don't wait up. She can't even appreciate you now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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