Isabella82 Posted January 21, 2005 Share Posted January 21, 2005 I was just wondering how many people believe that true love doesn't exist because nothing last forever? I have been thinking about it lately and with the divorce rate being so high and everything else like that I just feel like finding your soulmate is kind of impossible. Maybe in life we have people that come in to help us out or change us in some way and then they leave, and we find someone else. I just think that I have given up all hope of finding my "soulmate" the one that will love me unconditionally. Is there anyone else that feels this way? Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted January 21, 2005 Share Posted January 21, 2005 I believe in true love. I also believe in stupidity. The latter is what f*cks up the former. Also, I think unconditional love is only for pets and family members. Romantic love is highly conditional. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 21, 2005 Share Posted January 21, 2005 Originally posted by Isabella82 I was just wondering how many people believe that true love doesn't exist because nothing last forever? The concept of a "soulmate" is a bunch of krap. The concept of "true love" is also a bunch of krap. "Romantic love" does not last over an extended time period and this is why most romantic relationships don't work out over the long run. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 21, 2005 Share Posted January 21, 2005 I was just wondering how many people believe that true love doesn't exist because nothing last forever? I have been thinking about it lately and with the divorce rate being so high and everything else like that I just feel like finding your soulmate is kind of impossible. Maybe in life we have people that come in to help us out or change us in some way and then they leave, and we find someone else. I just think that I have given up all hope of finding my "soulmate" the one that will love me unconditionally. Is there anyone else that feels this way? I do believe true love does and can last forever, but both have to want it to be forever. Nothing will stay 100% true if one spouse/partner gives up or stops making the effort. There are soulmates out there everywhere...And a soulmate does not always have to be in a form of romance or a lover. Could be a friend or someone you were just supposed to meet and have in your life. I agree with Tanbark, Only kids and pets give unconditional love. Family members?? Hmm, well maybe some of them, but not all of them. Link to post Share on other sites
Chris_T. Posted January 21, 2005 Share Posted January 21, 2005 Originally posted by tanbark813 Also, I think unconditional love is only for pets and family members. Romantic love is highly conditional. Very, very true. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted January 21, 2005 Share Posted January 21, 2005 it can exist...look at the marriages that actually last. problem is most people today are lazy, and well, stupid....and it is getting worse each year. Link to post Share on other sites
LilacGirl Posted January 21, 2005 Share Posted January 21, 2005 A few years ago, when I went to my junior prom in high school, we went out to eat at this really popular Italian place. There was our long table of people, and next to us, another long table of people who were celebrating something. At the end of the meal, the servers brought out a biiiig cake and set it down in front of this very old couple holding hands. The cake said "Happy 75th Anniversary!!", and everyone at the table cheered. We asked about it - the couple had gotten married in their very early 20s and were now in their late 90s, and this was their big party to celebrate their 75th wedding anniversary. Despite all the relationship crap we all have to go through, after witnessing that couple, I have a very hard time *not* believing that true love is out there. And that little face just seems appropriate! Link to post Share on other sites
GreenCap Posted January 22, 2005 Share Posted January 22, 2005 What is true love, what is soul mate what is life time partner! There is no answer. People should know that love just isn't enough. One person's concept of love may not be another's. We have this gray understanding of what love is for ourselves and we try to project it to our significant others. But that is the wrong way to go. True love is to understand what your partner desires. It means good communication and not being yourself. Love and marriage is a social contract between two people supposedly binded by love. What is this bond - it is an imaginary concept of one another's expectations of each other. Young men like to speak of rains and clouds And their victories over waves and storms Money without beauty will not bring happiness Beauty without money will also end in failure In relationships, one must always practice solicitude For he who knows his fair lady’s thoughts Only he is without equal in the arena of love. Link to post Share on other sites
katiebour Posted January 22, 2005 Share Posted January 22, 2005 I think true love is a combination of infatuation, companionship and committment. If one of them fails, the other two will kick and and support the relationship. Maybe after a few years the infatuation wears off, but by then if both partners are willing there is a sense of companionship and committment. But if you don't have all three, a relationship falls down like a house of cards. My ex and I had the infatuation part down from day one, and we grew into the companionship- but he could not make a committment. I wanted marriage and stability, and he wanted freedom. I think next time around, in a few years maybe, I'll look for someone who wants to settle down, and I won't wait around for a man who doesn't want to commit, hoping to change his mind, like I did this time. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 22, 2005 Share Posted January 22, 2005 Originally posted by LilacGirl The cake said "Happy 75th Anniversary!!", and everyone at the table cheered. We asked about it - the couple had gotten married in their very early 20s and were now in their late 90s, and this was their big party to celebrate their 75th wedding anniversary. These people above were brought up in different times with different values than people have today. This country is going down the mental sewer. You cannot compare people that were born in the early part of last century to people that were born in the '60s or '70s or '80s. It is all about how you were brought up and the prevaliving values and attitudes you are instilled with. Link to post Share on other sites
LilacGirl Posted January 22, 2005 Share Posted January 22, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale It is all about how you were brought up and the prevaliving values and attitudes you are instilled with. True. Obviously you were either brought up with or have developed an extremely negative and pestimistic attitude. *I* believe you can find someone and be happy. Maybe you don't. Either way it's just opinion. But honestly, I don't think that's any reason to put down the country as a whole. We're not some country "going down the sewar". We're individuals. I'd prefer not to be a part of that idea of our country. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted January 22, 2005 Share Posted January 22, 2005 Well, you can adopt a self-defeating philosophy or you can proceed - cautiously, yes - but always with hope in your heart. You'll never see the ten-dollar bill on the street if you decide you'll never see a ten-dollar bill and so never look for one. Link to post Share on other sites
Matilda Posted January 22, 2005 Share Posted January 22, 2005 True love exists, but it is not something that just happens, it is something you make happen. I do believe that you have to find the right person, but I also believe there are many people who could be the right person. Link to post Share on other sites
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