Coworker crush

[crushstruck]

I have a crush on someone at my office. We do not work directly together and rarely have reason to speak except passing by in the hallway. I had an opportunity to introduce myself recently and need advice on how to get to know him better without comprising professionalism. The good news is that I will be leaving my company in a few months time, so I can take a chance or two.

[Worldly One]

I have a crush on someone at my office. We do not work directly together and rarely have reason to speak except passing by in the hallway. I had an opportunity to introduce myself recently and need advice on how to get to know him better without comprising professionalism. The good news is that I will be leaving my company in a few months time, so I can take a chance or two.

First:

 

Does he look like he works out?

 

If so then start small talk about exercise or the like.

 

Second:

 

Does your company have a lunch room or cafeteria?

 

If so then try to sit near him or at his table and

 

make small talk about the company or something else

 

non-related to your crush. Like jewelyry or the internet

 

or his attair. Try to act like his friend first , then

 

if there is more you'll know and his views might surprise

 

you.

 

I've had crushes on people at a distance and when I got

 

talking to them was completely dissapointed. Maybe

 

ask some of your female coworkers about info on him, it'll

 

surprise you who knows who in a company.

 

One thing this crush tells you about yourself is

 

you realise your loveability. This is very important

 

in the respect that you are not limiting yourself by

 

possibly viewing yourself as " Never being able to get

 

this guy". You are risking being rejected and not afraid

 

of the circumstances. A very GOOD thing.

 

Always LIVE in the now moment.

 

Dance like no one is WATCHING.

 

Don't let this crush limit your activities or daily

 

life. He has his own agenda and life path . One day

 

you could be placed in close proximity to him and the words

 

for the moment will come naturally.

 

Write Back and let us know what happens.

 

LIFE is such a JOY

 

ENJOY every BREATH

 

Sincerely

 

W.O.

[Christie]

Always LIVE in the now moment.

 

Dance like no one is WATCHING.

 

Don't let this crush limit your activities or daily life. He has his own agenda and life path . One day you could be placed in close proximity to him and the words for the moment will come naturally.

 

W.O. you rock!!

 

I love the advice above, which is so true. What you've written gave me strength that I wished I had before things didn't work out with a guy I had feelings for.

[crushstruck]

W.O.

 

Thanks for the great words of wisdom. I completely agree with you. The cafeteria idea would be great if he ever ate his lunch there. He is an extremely hard working attorney. I have a male friend who was able to extract some info, namely that he is unattached. None of my female friends know him, he keeps a low profile.

 

Your advice has given me the extra push to take my chances. He may end up being a complete workaholic bore or he may be an interesting guy who leaves his personal life at home. Either way I don't want to wonder "what if?" by not doing something about. At the very least, it makes going to work far more interesting!

 

thanks,

 

crushstruck