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Couple watching: women are always better looking than men

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KathyM Established Member

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That, or the guys feel that they can't get anybody better.

 

Some men absolutely don't want to be alone and they will date anybody who is willing, whether they are attracted to her or not.

 

Also some guys are actually attracted to really big women.

Well, I can't speak for people I don't really know and have only seen on the street, but of the people I do know who are with someone that is out-of-their league, one very attractive man is with a very plain looking wife because her personality is so engaging/entertaining. Two men I know are with very obese wives because of the women's sweet personality. They could do better lookswise, but the personality draws them in. One attractive man married a woman who has a very fun personality and whom he has a lot in common with other than looks. One very attractive woman I know settled for a man that didn't have a lot going for him, including lookswise, because her personality was not good, and so the better looking boyfriends she dated eventually dumped her. One woman with a very sweet personality and good looks is marrying a guy who is average to below average in looks because he has a very charming personality and treats her really well. One woman I know who is very attractive married an Average Joe because his character was really amazing, and he has a very altruistic spirit. In fact, two women I know have done that. So it's not all about looks for some people. There are many qualities that attract a person.

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janedoe67 Established Member

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I'd rather be in r below someone's league on the outside than on the inside, just sayin ;)

 

People tell me I am very attractive. Whatever. My character was what needed work.

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What about couples where the woman is really overweight? Is the guy overweight too?

 

I've NEVER seen a really overweight woman with a good looking in shape guy or even really an AVERAGE guy but have seen the opposite, good looking or average looking (most likely average I guess) women with overweight guys.

 

IME the overweight women are with overweight men or SUPER scrawny guys. I see the latter quite a bit.

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mukkrakker Established Member

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i people watch when i'm on the train, i take two into work: the first services a generally more middle class area, whilst the second is the city train and all of humanity is aboard.

 

On the first train the couples are more than likely to be well dressed men with well dressed women (there's a range of facial and body plans), and nerdy men with good looking women (they range from well dressed to punks).

 

On the city train (discarding the above) the predominant couples are ugly women with ugly men, with the occasional super model hanging on the arm of some beauty and the beast monster stand in.

 

I'm often amazed by the beauties that some men can acquire, but then again I have to say I've been lucky throughout my life to be in that category to...

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thefooloftheyear Established Member

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]I've NEVER seen a really overweight woman with a good looking in shape guy [/b]or even really an AVERAGE guy but have seen the opposite, good looking or average looking (most likely average I guess) women with overweight guys.

 

IME the overweight women are with overweight men or SUPER scrawny guys. I see the latter quite a bit.

 

 

They are everywhere....Trust me on this..;)

 

TFY

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AD1980 Established Member

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I dont see that at all i see mostly pretty equal,i think women tend to overestimate other womens looks

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EasyHeart Established Member

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In most of the couples I know, the woman is significantly more attractive than the man.

 

But I don't really understand what women find attractive in a man, so what hell do I know?

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I see a lot of fit guys with overweight women. I also see a lot of very attractive women with guys who are just average. I guess it goes to show that many people value other things above looks. Of the slender guys I know who are with overweight women, those women have attracted these guys with their great personality. I also know some attractive men with very plain-looking women, but the women have these larger-than-life personalities that keep them attracted. Some people also are just not hung up a lot on looks, or the person has other really great qualities that attract a mate.

 

 

 

^^^^^THIS^^^^^

 

 

A physically attractive woman, without a matching inner beauty, is a novelty that wears off VERY quickly.

 

 

Most older and experienced men are aware of this important consideration.

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xxoo Established Member

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I can see how this might be true. The men I've been "very attracted to" have not all been "very attractive" physically. An attractive woman can fall head over heels for a man of average appearance.

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Woggle Established Member

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^^^^^THIS^^^^^

 

 

A physically attractive woman, without a matching inner beauty, is a novelty that wears off VERY quickly.

 

 

Most older and experienced men are aware of this important consideration.

 

Very true. A woman with model looks can decrease her attractiveness in a few seconds to me.

 

When I look around I tend to see that most couples are evenly matched.

Els Established Member

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Great point here...

 

Most guys take 5 mins to get ready for the day while the average women takes hour(s)...They(men) dont have the luxury of slenderizing undergarments, makeup, fancy hairstyles, etc...

 

And lets not bring the cosmetic surgery thing into this discussion...Women do it and men generally...don't..

 

TFY

 

I'm not sure I consider it a 'luxury', but yes, that is quite true. ;)

 

I notice a huge difference in myself when I take half an hour to get ready, as opposed to when I take the same time that my SO does (5 minutes to pull on a tee, jeans, and sneakers). Fortunately my guy is fine with either option (yes, non-superficial men really do exist! :laugh:), but there is an undeniable difference.

 

I think men can (and some do) spend a lot of time on their appearance too, and reap the rewards, but in different ways. ie heavy lifting in the gym as opposed to blow drying their hair. :p

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Emilia Established Member

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I can see how this might be true. The men I've been "very attracted to" have not all been "very attractive" physically. An attractive woman can fall head over heels for a man of average appearance.

I think objectively most men I've been out with have been less attractive than me. I don't care if a guy has a big nose or his features aren't that symetric or whatever. I think I've dated one or two that were on par but most have been less attractive.

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MrRightNow Established Member

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Yeah I've noticed this too, especially in NYC where there are lot more single women than single men.

EasyHeart Established Member

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The place I really see lots of mismatched couples is with the younger crowd, eg roughly 25 and under. The girls generally seem much more mature than the boys. I don't mean physically (though that's part of it), more in terms of the way they act, dress, talk, etc. The girls can easily fit into normal (adult) society, but most of the boys seem to look and act like. . . children. What's up with that?

 

(Note: This could just mean I'm a cranky old man and have nieces in that age range. What the hell is up with the boys of that generation?)

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KathyM Established Member

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The place I really see lots of mismatched couples is with the younger crowd, eg roughly 25 and under. The girls generally seem much more mature than the boys. I don't mean physically (though that's part of it), more in terms of the way they act, dress, talk, etc. The girls can easily fit into normal (adult) society, but most of the boys seem to look and act like. . . children. What's up with that?

 

(Note: This could just mean I'm a cranky old man and have nieces in that age range. What the hell is up with the boys of that generation?)

Well, I have sons in that generation (under 25), and I'd say they and their friends look pretty evenly matched agewise with women their age, but when you get into the teenage age range (middle school and high school), the girls look older and are more mature than the guys their age. I often see kids that age that look very mismatched, even though they are most likely the same age.

hasaquestion Established Member

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Its simple. Men care more about appearance than women.

 

So if you have an "equally desirable" man and woman, the woman will likely be better looking.

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I'm 27, and most of the friends in my circle matched up fairly well on looks and personality. That tends to be rule in my personal experience.

FitChick Established Member

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In the UK I've noticed a lot of good looking men are with plain or unattractive women, which always surprises me. It's the opposite in the US.

FitChick Established Member

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I've NEVER seen a really overweight woman with a good looking in shape guy or even really an AVERAGE guy .

 

Well, here is a good example.

somedude81 Established Member

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You should google articles about what brosnan thinks of his wife.

 

Outsiders to the relationship judge one as better looking than the other, but the couple doesn't always share their opinion.

I'm sure he loves her very much, otherwise he wouldn't be with her.

 

BUT if you asked him what he prefers, his wife now, or as she used to be, what do you think his answer would be?

 

Also I'd seriously doubt that they've never had a fight about her weight.

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I'm sure he loves her very much, otherwise he wouldn't be with her.

 

BUT if you asked him what he prefers, his wife now, or as she used to be, what do you think his answer would be?

 

Also I'd seriously doubt that they've never had a fight about her weight.

 

You are assuming that he feels as you do.

 

I've always been thin and fit. I was in a bikini (and looking good) when my babies were still tiny. My husband has been overweight at times in our marriage. Anyone who assumed that I had a problem with his appearance would be wrong. I worried about his health at times, but the sexual attraction never changed.

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somedude81 Established Member

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You are assuming that he feels as you do.

 

I've always been thin and fit. I was in a bikini (and looking good) when my babies were still tiny. My husband has been overweight at times in our marriage. Anyone who assumed that I had a problem with his appearance would be wrong. I worried about his health at times, but the sexual attraction never changed.

Yes I'm assuming that he feels the same way I do, just as you are assuming he feels the same way you do.

 

I just believe that my assumptions are more correct ;)

 

A mans sexual attraction to his partner is more based on the physical than a womans is.

 

Of course there are exceptions.

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