Frank2thepoint Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 I told him I wanted to hang out with him and that's why we exchanged number. Then when I texted him, I was hoping that HE would ask me about hanging out. But he didn't bring that up and so I thought maybe I was moving too fast for him. That's why I didn't mention anything about hanging out. We just talked about normal stuff. It's been two weeks and none of us has mentioned hanging out even once. So should I just ask him to hang out with me again? Maybe the idea of "hanging out" for him means nothing serious, like a date would. It could explain why he hasn't connected with you these past two weeks. Have you tried what I suggested in an earlier post? You have a choice at this point, out of two options. Either be direct, walk up to him in person, ask him out or ask him if he is interested in you because you are interested in him. Or you can continue posting on here, asking the same questions, for an additional two weeks (or however long you want), fretting that he still hasn't connected with you, hoping the guy will wake up and ask you out. Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 I don't mind waiting at all. But would you wait for someone who seems to like you but keep pushing you away for some reason? How long you wait is your business. People on here will give you advice to move on, a few such as myself will tell you to take matters into your own hands and ask him out, but ultimately you wait how ever long you wish. The possible downside to waiting is nothing will happen. You may become embittered, or at least upset, that he didn't make a move at all, jading your future interactions based on this experience. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedsoul14 Posted March 7, 2014 Author Share Posted March 7, 2014 Or you can continue posting on here, asking the same questions, for an additional two weeks (or however long you want), fretting that he still hasn't connected with you, hoping the guy will wake up and ask you out. Well, this post wasn't meant to be just about me. Originally, I asked people to come here and share their experiences with shy/awkward guys who seemed interested but lacked confidence. I wanted to see how other people have handled similar situations like mine, and I wanted to see the success rate. I was just curious that's it. Because i never had to face a situation like this before. But people started giving me advice instead of sharing their own stories. However, I didn't mind that at all. And I'm not hoping the guy will wake up and ask me out. But at least he could be a little less uptight? I wanted us to be just friends first. But maybe, he is not comfortable being friends with me. And there could be a million reasons for that. I realised what an awkward person he was, when one day, during a conversation, he kept on referring me as "a girl", not as "a friend". He was still very much surprised that a girl randomly came and wanted to be friends with him. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 8, 2014 Share Posted March 8, 2014 I don't mind waiting at all. But would you wait for someone who seems to like you but keep pushing you away for some reason? Do you feel he is pushing you away? There is a big difference between that and just not asking you out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 I know what you are talking about. When the guy is shy and if you happens to be like me who hide her interest well. Eventually, he will go away. I'm not asking you to make the move, but next time you see him, smile to him. A genuine smile Wish I could do that *__* but, eh I just can't... I have so much ego to make any kind of move. Don't be like me though, trust me ,,, if he gave up on you, you'll be in torture for a while. smile and say hi if you can....... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
peruano99 Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 You should strike a conversation to him if you'd like. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedsoul14 Posted March 9, 2014 Author Share Posted March 9, 2014 Do you feel he is pushing you away? There is a big difference between that and just not asking you out. I think you are right. But how do you tell the difference? He keeps acting so weird! Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedsoul14 Posted March 9, 2014 Author Share Posted March 9, 2014 I know what you are talking about. When the guy is shy and if you happens to be like me who hide her interest well. Eventually, he will go away. I'm not asking you to make the move, but next time you see him, smile to him. A genuine smile Wish I could do that *__* but, eh I just can't... I have so much ego to make any kind of move. Don't be like me though, trust me ,,, if he gave up on you, you'll be in torture for a while. smile and say hi if you can....... I will definitely try to do that when I see him next time. Link to post Share on other sites
Esoteric Elf Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 Recently, I'm starting to get really frustrated with this guy who obviously likes me but is too shy to do absolutely anything about it at all! So before I decide that I'm completely fed up, I want to re-evaluate my situation by asking you a question. If your guy was extremely shy with you at first, how did you get him out of his shell and make him comfortable? And how long did it take to accomplish that? And finally I'm addressing all the shy guys out there- Why do you make things so complicated for the girl that you like??? Don't bother with him. We're not worth the time nor effort, as it can be quite a headache. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedsoul14 Posted March 13, 2014 Author Share Posted March 13, 2014 Hey guys! So I have an update for you. I stopped trying to initiate contact with him for about a week. Then this week, I started seeing him around more often, and when I looked at him, his eyes got bigger and he smiled at me. My friend kept on laughing at how he looks my way but not really at me. lol! ;p Is it looking good? Should I wait more or should I try to talk to him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedsoul14 Posted March 14, 2014 Author Share Posted March 14, 2014 No more advice/opinions? Come on I really enjoy reading your views! Link to post Share on other sites
Medium.Lumo Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 No more advice/opinions? Come on I really enjoy reading your views! I think I'm in your guy's position more or less. I think she likes me but I am worried about making a move. Even though we are good friends I am quite shy and have not had a gf. I'm thinking of changing my FB status to in a relationship. We have been going out together one on one for about a month. But the shyness can be debilitating. It doesn't mean the guy isn't into you. Maybe you should give more direct hints that you want him to make a move. Good luck 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xxmusical Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 This reminds me of my crush back in high school hehe The guy was not overtly shy since I was the one who was shy XD He actually slipped several cards into my locker and was always looking at me and even walked toward my desk to help me open my textbook during class (what!?) Anyway, we never ended with anything because he moved away. BUT at the end he did confess that he likes me while we were online chatting...but that was after he moved. Anyway, me being the shy person, my friends helped me out a lot. They asked him if he liked me, what he thought of me, and dropped hints that I liked him. You should bug his friends (or have your friends bug his). From your post, it sounds like he likes you You should definitely ask him to hang out (or maybe even with several other friends if you don't want it to be so awkward), whether it be movies or that event you mentioned (did he reply you in the end?). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedsoul14 Posted March 14, 2014 Author Share Posted March 14, 2014 But the shyness can be debilitating. It doesn't mean the guy isn't into you. Maybe you should give more direct hints that you want him to make a move. Thanks a lot for your reply! Yeah, maybe I should give more direct hints, but the guy gets so awkward everytime I try to interact with him. Just the other day, he smiled at me in the most awkward way possible, and my friend couldn't stop laughing because he was acting rlly funny. But we both found it rlly cute at the same time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedsoul14 Posted March 14, 2014 Author Share Posted March 14, 2014 You should definitely ask him to hang out (or maybe even with several other friends if you don't want it to be so awkward), whether it be movies or that event you mentioned (did he reply you in the end?). Thanks a lot! No he didn't reply! But now I think he is trying to be less shy around me! I will try to invite him to one of my friend's bday (face to face), and see what he does. Link to post Share on other sites
Darkraid Posted April 11, 2014 Share Posted April 11, 2014 Hi, I'm a really really shy guy with very limited experience with the ladies. There's this really sweet Korean girl working part time at a sushi shop in my Uni. I go there everyday for lunch and we would look at each other when I order food from her. I think she has feelings too because she usually gives me a big smile and she doesn't usually smile at her customers. Sometimes when we look at each other she would fumble and drop stuff or forget my order. But I'm so shy! I could only muster up my courage like 2 times to ask her to teach me Korean words. (But I actually know a little Korean) I actually wrote a note to ask her to join me for drinks at the bar beside her store. I have not given it to her because I blush every time I go near the store. I think I would probably die if I were to ask her out in front of so many customers. What should I do? I think shy guys are weird. I can totally talk to any girl, hot or not. That I am NOT INTERESTED IN. Link to post Share on other sites
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