cottom Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 Together for nearly a year. I moved 100 miles away for work she stayed there. She came down to visit me, Saturday night. During the night she went downstairs and started crying to herself, she left her phone upstairs, i flick it on and see no texts off anyone except me and parents and work. Flick open the call log (i wasnt snooping just looking at her new phone as i wanted one). 200+ messages to this same unsaved number over the past 2 days. I call the number and a guy answers. I hang up and text "hey sorry new phone i dont have this number saved, whos this?" ... "james you douche! xxxx" ... "ohh which james lol i got like 20 unsaved on here?" ... "******, the one you text every single day! xxxxx" ... "oh right yeah the one i meet up with" ... "well obviously idiot xxxxxx" I asked her "whos james he just popped up on facebook saying hello, do i ignore?" ... "yeah dunno who that is". So later on i flick through the kids facebook and she has liked loads of his status's, especially the feeling ones (feeling annnoyed, feeling loved, feeling happy). So again i confront her and ask who he is and she replies same she doesnt know. So i show her the evidence that she does and she starts crying and runs to the kitchen and grabs a knife, tries to cut herself!. I got the knife off her then she says she deleted the messages cause id get angry if she talks to a guy. I know she talks to loads of guys all the time and i dont care at all. Suspicious. So i ask her about meeting him she says never met him in her life, then i show her the text and she says okay she went shopping and bumped into him and hung out with him .... bit forward for a guy that she only added on facebook last week. Who she never had anything to do with before until the day they went shopping. Did she cheat? Link to post Share on other sites
Author cottom Posted February 28, 2014 Author Share Posted February 28, 2014 The way this has all gone, my assumption is: Went shopping, a guy came up asked for her number with his mates (he was year below her at secondary school (7th - 11th grade for americans) She gave it him, added him on facebook Been talking non stop to him since Saw me and knew that id know something was going on so hid all evidence or so she thought. Link to post Share on other sites
onemanband Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 your are young dont sweat the small stuff enjoy your youth Link to post Share on other sites
Clay Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 If she didn't cheat then why is she hiding all this stuff from you. I think you already know enough. I would end the relationship and move on. The sooner you get on with your life the better your life will be. Clay 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 Did she cheat? I don't know. Let's break it down. Added him on Facebook, lied about knowing him. Over 200+ texts to him that work out to be daily texts message to each other. She still doesn't know him. Confronted with evidence, she cries and runs to the kitchen and tries to slit her wrists open due to the amount of guilt she has. Yeah, I think it's a safe bet to say that she's been cheating...... 4 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 It certainly sounds as though she's up to no good. You caught her in an utter lie and she tries to deflect attention from that by cutting herself? No. Not good. I wouldn't buy her cover-up story, either. You already know she's a liar so it would reason that she's lying about how well she knows him too. I'd be done with her. Why waste your time with someone who doesn't respect you enough to be honest with you? Find someone who cares about your feelings and treats you with dignity. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 It doesn't matter if she cheated. She lied. Isn't that enough? Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 With that reaction;; yeah, she did cheat. Sorry mate. Link to post Share on other sites
lolablue17 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 I think yes.. she did cheat, but I think its not relevant. The first lie is annoying but OK. you can slip it, when she told you she doesn't know who he is. But When she told you "i never met him" and then you discovered that she did hung out with him - That is serious, man! She is a serial liar, who will always tell you the minimum according to the evidence she thinks you have. Not to mention her cheating. I'd dump her immediatly just because of the lies. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
drifter777 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 Of course she cheated. And the knife thing shows what a raving lunatic she really is. Run, don't walk, for the door and don't look back. She needs mental help and by walking out on her you might actually be helping her hit bottom and finally getting help. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kalimata Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 Dude - the pieces don't add up. Exchanging that many messages on FB and via text in such a short time is quite unusual. Did you happen to go into her FB history and see if she has deleted anything? If anything is deleted then it gives you some other indication that she is cheating. If you REALLY suspect some snooky, then get a VAR and hide it in her car or whereever else she goes to privately talk. Turn off the beep function and turn on the voice activation mode. Within a few days you will know the details of their conversations (whether they are sexual or not). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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