1life Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 So briefly what happend was me and this girl have been together for 2 and half years. We were always happy sometimes we got into a fight because of my insecurities and that night on her birthday I yelled et we for talking to her ex Infront of everyone she felt embarrassed and left that's when her ex msgd to see if she was okay but she assumed that he wanted to talk to him.he has no interest in her he made it clear to me. I was always afraid when she talks to him she might bring up past feelings. It made me doubt if she really loves me like she always told me. She started caring less. She barely texted me I felt like this because I thought she doing this because she is talking to her ex who is my best friend and I haven't talked to him since that day because I fought with him as well. She would come sleep over and try to tell me that wer done and I need to change and she tryed saying he and her ex are only friends. Another day when she came I found out that she was telling her ex that she hates me and he was like I know you sleep over with him so I don't know why you are saying this. And just to prove him wrong she slept on the floor at my house and took a picture to show him she's not sleeping beside me. After that I took her out on valentines day and she kept saying wer just friends. But she slept over and we had sex and she said Is this a fling it made me think does she have feelings for her ex. She didn't even say a thank you or anything for taking her out. Few days later I yelled at my friend her ex for talking to her saying why are you talking to her if it makes me feel uncomfortable. And he msgd her and told her he doesn't wana get involved or talk to her anymore she msgd me after that saying thanks for ruining everything. I asked her your really gonna get mad at me for getting him to stop talking to you and she said I hate you I feel good for leaving you. I felt really upset that's when I thought she doesn't care or respect me like she use to I just don't know if she's doing this outa anger. I feel like she loves me and is over her past or else she wouldn't have spent the last two years with me talking about marriage kids meeting parents and all. I just felt like she was using me for the attention and she can do what she wants and come back and I would still be there. This is the girl when I fought once and didn't talk to her for 2 weeks she was scared I moved on and started crying. I don't know if I'm a push over. I just don't know why she's doing this to me. I love her and I want things to go back to normal. And also while we broke up within a week she messaged her ex my best friend asking him to come to her bday party. He said no because he wouldn't do that to me. She hid that from me I don't know why and I don't know what her intentions were. Should I brush it off or is it a big deal that she did that. Can I forgive her for this. Link to post Share on other sites
flight E Posted March 1, 2014 Share Posted March 1, 2014 She obviously still has feelings for her ex and u are making it easy for her to grow those feelings with your insecurity. Now you are broken up. Leave her alone and what she does now is no longer your business. No contact from now on. Read other threads you will get answers Link to post Share on other sites
legion113 Posted March 1, 2014 Share Posted March 1, 2014 what are you doing dating your best friend's ex? Link to post Share on other sites
Author 1life Posted March 1, 2014 Author Share Posted March 1, 2014 I never meant for it to happen my friend never really called her his gf he was using her. I knew it the whole time even when he was going out with someone else while he was with her I felt bad and became her friend. And It just happend because he pushed her away and let me deal with it Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted March 2, 2014 Share Posted March 2, 2014 i didnt read everything but i think i got the most of it. dating your friends "ex". i dont know this is just trouble from the start. she talking to him if he used her. that is her problem i guess. dont fight with your friend cause he talks to her. it screams insecurity. and dont be afraid of a girl. she can cheat on you. she can dump you. but whenever you get nervous and and afraid of being who you are. thats when they will dump you. you think girls choose bad guys? wrong. they just dont choose insecure guys. im not trying to be mean here but its just how it works. ive been there myself back in the days. i didnt stand up for myself and ended up dumped. and back to that guy. you dont fight guys who talk to your girlfriend. thats insane. do you know whats more attractive? you telling her she cant talk to guys. or you letting her talk to guys? if you respect her she will respect you. let her talk. if she does something bad its not because you didnt tell her to not talk to guys. its because she was stupid. i think i have a beautiful girl in my life. i cannot go to a club without guys hitting on her. even my friend did. im not gonna hit him. i just tell him if he goes to far and if hes a good friend he will understand and feel guilt about it. if the guys at the bar do it then i dont care. im gonna start a fight with them?. i show her that im better then they are. that i dont need to chase guys away from her. because im not scared that they are better then me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 1life Posted March 3, 2014 Author Share Posted March 3, 2014 Hey thanks your reply really makes me feel beter I really love her and I know she does to. I don't want to hurt her anymore I just want to be happy with her what can I do to make things right. I just want her to love me the same way. Link to post Share on other sites
kjackson1 Posted March 3, 2014 Share Posted March 3, 2014 She took a picture of her laying on the floor and send it to her ex to prove she wasn't laying next to you, wow she sounds like a real winner You are bestrfiends with her ex, seems like a lot of drama. Go full no contact, and if she contacts you ignore it. Don't go running back to her at the drop of a dime. She isn't worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted March 5, 2014 Share Posted March 5, 2014 I have to agree with above poster, I missed that thing when I first read it. And besides from that I still feel like this is just nothing I would trust. I've seen so much drama in my life that I know when to turn around. But you got to look at yourself. There's nothing worse then a jealous boyfriend telling her what to do. Fighting you friend . If he's your friend you respect him as much as you respect your girlfriend. If he does anything bad you let him no by words not by your fists. A woman isn't worth fighting for if you cannot trust her. And making her know that everyone around you don't get the respect she gets isn't a good way to show her you love her. Everyone that wants to cheat are gonna find a way. Just be the best you can be and show the girl you end up with that you trust her. Cause if you don't you'll end up being single. But this girl again, I would walk away from. The toughest guys are those who walk away and don't sink to other bad peoples level. Link to post Share on other sites
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