littlelaxer Posted January 23, 2005 Share Posted January 23, 2005 heres what happened eariler in the week...........if u have time thanks http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t55369/ now he is online very often......and i know he doesnt have any buddies and he goes in and out of idle until i put my away message away or soemthing and then IMs me. We talked again last night about him takin classes. Then he got quiet for a bit so i thought it was a good idea that i signed off. The old me would of sat there and waited for him to say something or made someting to talk about....or even stayed on till he left but i left and he went in idle as soo as i left. I just dont want to be friends with him,but at the sametime im scared to tell him all this again cause what if hes startin slow ya know?? or what if its nothing. I want to be with him..........but im scared he doesnt. He was on on a firday night, 3 fridays in a row....and its suprising for him to be on especially on a friday. Some epopel might not see all this as a big thing but for me it is..............its just all weird Was i good with gettin off last night like i did..........cause what if he was exepcting all night to talk more and then i just left....i guess to keep him wondering. Does anyone have any thoughts on my whole situation Link to post Share on other sites
Broken3112 Posted January 23, 2005 Share Posted January 23, 2005 Wow, you are getting so analytical with the IMs, that I am starting to lose track of what YOU actually want from him. I looked at your old posts and I cant seem to figure out whether you want to be with him or not? Who broke up with whom? In the old post you mentioned that you do want to be with him? And from this it seems obvious that he wants to be with you. Can you repost your current situation in a few sentences?.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author littlelaxer Posted January 23, 2005 Author Share Posted January 23, 2005 sorry.................basically he broke up with me after being together a year around 4 months ago. I did no contact for about 2 months with him occationally callin but i wasnt responding cause i didnt want to be friends, i needed to be alone if he didnt want to be with me. Then about two months into my no contact he evenutally found away to talk to me. He then started to pay waaayy to much attention towards me. He would call me often, find stupid reasons to text and call. Ask when i was working and come in. Ask me if i was seeing anyone, and tell me he wasnt seeing anyone. it almost seemed like he wanted to be together. and it continued for a month and i couldnt take it anymore so i told him that i couldnt be his friend, that i still had feelings for him and i didnt know where he stood with the whole thing. He asked if we could wait a little while and see what happens, almost like give it a break and see if we can be friends. I said i dont think so. Then he started commin online. Which was odd cause he is never online. Later that week he showed up at my work again and i really didnt know why. Its a public place but he didnt have to come in after what i had said to him. I was nice and treated him like a normal customer. Also on new years he sent me a text right after 12...i mean it could of been nice but come on. I called him up a couple days later and said that he was drivin me crazy and that if he didnt want anything to do with me, just to tell me. ANd he said he didnt want anything to do wtih me....so i was like fine leave me alone. Ever since then he has come online and gone in and out of idle like crazy....and when im not away he is active......yeah u might think im crazy but i think if this was happening to anyone they would wonder what the heck is he doing.... He now IM's me but its liek WHY?? I thought i kinda made myself clear that i dont want a friendship......and if he just wants that to just leave me alone. Im scared cause what if he just wants to be friends........and i do want more then friends still..........im sorry this is so long, i tried to break it down. i just need to hear from some if they think he doesnt want anything..........or maybe he does want to be together again but is scared, or wants to start slow.....i dontknow Link to post Share on other sites
Broken3112 Posted January 23, 2005 Share Posted January 23, 2005 From what I can see, nobody would act like that or go through that trouble just to be friends....I really think he wants a relationship, but doesn't know how to say it. You guys need to communicate maturely. Link to post Share on other sites
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