irc333 Posted March 1, 2014 Share Posted March 1, 2014 I've been seeing this quite a few times in dating profiles. "My life is busy, so I would be a good match for someone else who is busy as well". To me, this would be red flag to anyone who would consider dating her, because either person may have to sacrifice their own time for "romance" time. Yes? It's like being given the "I've been busy" excuse when you get blown off. Some people seem to always put an "out" or disclaimer in their profile that suggest they may not have time for you....Yes...No? Just something I've been noticing lately. I mean, define "busy"? Anyone can only be busy as they allow themselves to be. Link to post Share on other sites
Teraskas Posted March 1, 2014 Share Posted March 1, 2014 Noticed this specifically with the last date I had. She complained that she was too busy, yet wanted a boyfriend, but then again didn't think she would have time for him due to her busy life. Imo, it seemed code speak for 'I really don't know what I want, I'm happy with my busy life and don't feel like sacrificing any of it to spend time with a significant other. Thus I have no idea why I'm doing dating altogether tbh.' Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted March 1, 2014 Author Share Posted March 1, 2014 Noticed this specifically with the last date I had. She complained that she was too busy, yet wanted a boyfriend, but then again didn't think she would have time for him due to her busy life. Imo, it seemed code speak for 'I really don't know what I want, I'm happy with my busy life and don't feel like sacrificing any of it to spend time with a significant other. Thus I have no idea why I'm doing dating altogether tbh.' I actually met a woman on POF like this...she was rather ideal for me as she was rather local to me. The VERY strange thing about it she never married, nor had children...VERY attractive (at least to me) and intelligent. She was an avid trail biker, so she went biking with a lot of friends...she mentioned she dated a guy in that group, but he wasn't really into commitment. She also mentioned she was previously engaged to be married....then the boyfriend started stopping by her house a little TOO Frequently....this was a problem for her as she had been SO accustomed to being single and comfortable in her own home...by herself...she saw this to be a problem. Also her fiance was sometimes wanting to give up a day in her life to "break routine" when hanging out with her "buds"...she wasn't keen on that and ended the engagement. She acknowledged this as a fault on her part of being selfish and had intended to improve upon that. She has lived and worked in the same backwater town since her mid 20's with her mom as an insurance agent....has her own home, etc. She's pretty much also the family spinster as well. Meaning she's the only unmarried person in the family. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 1, 2014 Share Posted March 1, 2014 (edited) You keep posting things about comments and profiles you read on dating sites... and you always seem to be critical of them.... Tell me.... Haven't you met anyone you're actually drawn to respond favourably to, yet? Or is everyone flaky, in your opinion? Are you hampering and sabotaging your own scope of possibilities by being so critical? What luck have you had? Or are you just cruising sites to pick people to bits? Found anyone you're drawn to in particular? What's THEIR profile like? Edited March 1, 2014 by TaraMaiden 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted March 1, 2014 Share Posted March 1, 2014 You keep posting things about comments and profiles you read on dating sites... and you always seem to be critical of them.... Tell me.... Haven't you met anyone you're actually drawn to respond favourably to, yet? Or is everyone flaky, in your opinion? Are you hampering and sabotaging your own scope of possibilities by being so critical? What luck have you had? Or are you just cruising sites to pick people to bits? Found anyone you're drawn to in particular? What's THEIR profile like? I think he's a troll, I wanna refuse to believe there's a guy in online date sites just picking people apart in annoyance makes me want to not ever use them. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted March 1, 2014 Share Posted March 1, 2014 I think he's a troll, I wanna refuse to believe there's a guy in online date sites just picking people apart in annoyance makes me want to not ever use them. I'm actually thinking it's his profession, or maybe a calling. Don't let it put you off; I assure you this is not common. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JourneyLady Posted March 1, 2014 Share Posted March 1, 2014 I've been seeing this quite a few times in dating profiles. "My life is busy, so I would be a good match for someone else who is busy as well". To me, this would be red flag to anyone who would consider dating her, because either person may have to sacrifice their own time for "romance" time. Yes? It's like being given the "I've been busy" excuse when you get blown off. Some people seem to always put an "out" or disclaimer in their profile that suggest they may not have time for you....Yes...No? Just something I've been noticing lately. I mean, define "busy"? Anyone can only be busy as they allow themselves to be. Yeah, just got the "I'm so busy" excuse from a guy for not even saying hello in the last week. I've got work, I've got family, I'm tired... blah blah blah. If he's that busy - how's he got time to even *start* a relationship, let alone maintain one? I just figured he's not into me and let him go. He was pissed off of course, and inferred that I have no life. I was on a plane or in airports for most of a day and still had time to say hey between flights and let him know where I was... Geez... a "hello, how are you, thinking about you" every other day is too much??? Meh. Next!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Eggplant Posted March 1, 2014 Share Posted March 1, 2014 If she's for example a doctor and works 90 hours a week, she might do well with a man who understands and also works 90 hours a week. They can live their separate lives together. Link to post Share on other sites
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