my exbf is moving to a new place. do i get him a housewarming gift?

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Man its me again. I am just wondering about the housewarming gift thing. Do I get him something? Something small?

 

I was thinking of buying him a comforter (he doesnt have one) but since he isnt my bf the chances of some skank cuddling up under it was a negative. Then I was thinkng of getting him stuff like he did when I moved out.

Knives, cookbook, and cooking utensils but he isnt my bf and that seems like a lot.

 

A plant? Like a good luck house plant.. like bamboo or something? But he is gonna be on tour starting in March and it may die.

 

Hmm how about buying cheesy old cook books from second hand stores and some silly coffee mugs or place mats? Cheesy thrift store artwork? We both dig that stuff so its good and cheap.

 

Or should I get him a practical basket.. a laundry basket filled with snacks I know he likes and cleaning supplies, toilet paper? Totally dollar tree stuff.

 

He always says stuff about natural cleaning products.. you know lemon juice or what have you. Anyway maybe getting cheap spray bottles and mixing the natural ingredients for window cleaning, furniture polishing, etc. But is that too much effort. Is that more of a gf present?

 

Then I wonder what is too much. The other day we were shoping and he saw a boxed set he wanted. He said to me "hhmm if someone really cared about me they would buy that for me." SO I said, "its 80 bucks, good luck finding someone to care about you THAT much." He laughed a but but gave me this sad look. So do guys always expect the same standards of gifts from exgfs when the y become 'just friends' with benefits?

 

ANYWAY

 

Bath towels? Coasters? Should there be a limit as to how much I spend? Any ideas? HELP!

 

We have this weird in between thing I dont get. I am sure most of you are familiar with it... so I am unsure what would seem too much and what would seem rude ya know?

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The meaning of "Ex": What does it mean? I guess it means that the relationship is no more, you both ceased to exist as a couple and as such, have gone separate ways.

 

Not too sure whether you have remained friends but even then, it probably will or is a rough transition - how do you reconcile someone you have such intimate knowledge of then reverting to a casual friend. I guess the point of I am trying to make is, don't get anything at all. Don't bother - I never called my ex to congratulate her on her engagement - although must admit ego and pain were mixed in and have had no contact for over a month +.

 

Hope this helps. If you this doesn't answer your questions, then get a comforter but know that he will be sharing and frolicking in it with someone else unless of course he is moved to the point of reconciling with you. Imagine your heart-felt present to him and he uses it to seduce and make love with other women...how do you feel now?

 

Sorry for being an ass - I brought my ex presents to show that I am still thinking of her, know her well, show her how I can take of her etc. She went and got engaged four months after we broke up. If you can handle such things, then more power to you. Hope this makes sense.