what does 'i'll see' mean?

[Josh]

Hey, I just had a simple question...

 

Today I asked this girl I like if she'd like to go bowling Monday...and she replied "i'll see," then asked if any other friends were going, and I told her that I was asking her out on a date...and she said that she doesn't know.

 

Quite honestly, I was expecting either a 'yes' or a 'no' answer, not a 'maybe.' (That's what this looks like anyhow).

 

So...what does 'i'll see' mean? is she possibly open to the possibility but unsure about the time, or is it something else altogether?

[blue17]

"I'll see" = "No"

[InsideOut]

I agree. "I'll see"... "maybe"... "I'll get back to you"... Josh, in my experience, when a girl says anything other than "yes", it generally means "no thanks, but thanks for asking"...

 

Sorry man... it's a girl's way to let all guys down easy and gently without being blunt... it's just one of those things!

[alphamale]

Originally posted by Josh

So...what does 'i'll see' mean?

 

it means she is not interested. a girl that truly liked you would never turn you down. do you understand now??

[amerikajin]

>>>Today I asked this girl I like if she'd like to go bowling Monday<<<

 

Yeah, ditto. I'll see means "Thanks but no thanks".

 

The best thing you can do now is to leave her alone and go find someone else. Sometimes if you play it cool you may come back to her at some point later and find that she's interested, though that's not typical.

 

Here's a tip. Next time, don't call it a date, just think of it as doing something together. And moreover, say something like, I was planning to go bowling, wanna go? You're basically saying the same thing, but how you say makes a difference sometimes. You're not making your plans based on what she wants, you're making your plans based on what you want, and you're just inviting her to come along for the ride. Don't pay her way. Don't kiss ass. Just get together and do something you know she'll have fun doing. Movies are good third or fourth dates, but not such a good idea for the first one. Whatever you do, have fun.

[alphamale]

Originally posted by amerikajin

You're not making your plans based on what she wants, you're making your plans based on what you want, and you're just inviting her to come along for the ride. Don't pay her way. Don't kiss ass.

 

I disagree on the "don't pay her way". He is still asking her out on a date even tho the words are less specific. If the dude does not cough up some $$ then many women will be turned off, esp on the first 2 or 3 dates.

 

In addition, if the woman insists on paying her share on the 1st date then this is a bad sign for the dude.

 

I do agree on the "don't kiss her ass" bit.

[amerikajin]

Pay part of it, but not all of it. Or pay for her dinner but say "Why don't I get this, and you can pick up the coffee /dessert later?"

 

If she says "Um, it's getting kinda late I think I'd better go home" you know you're done, and you know that she just stiffed you, in which case, you may as well make her pick up her half anyway.

 

Don't make the mistake of thinking that a bribe (i.e. paying for things) is gonna get you anywhere with a woman. It's all about interest level. Work on that, and everything else falls into place. If she's interested, you can pay for as much or as little as you want.

[Merin]

What does I'll see mean.. Well uh.. I can't think of a single time I've ever said that to anyone except one of my little people..

 

AND what I'll see means to me when I say it to them is "No I'm not buying that/doing that/going there BUT because you're really on my last freaking nerve, I'm going to say I'll see as in maybe.. even though I know and YOU know the chances are it's not going to happen.. this way WE are all some what happy.. because you will be quiet about it now.. and you can later hold it over my head and tell me but you said it was possible"

 

*Whew*

 

Soooo uh.. to pay or not to pay for a date.. (sorry I think I skimmed through something) maybe when the check comes you should look into her eyes.. sigh.. take a deep breath and then say to her... "Hmm I'll see IF I'm going to pay for this" JK JK JK Josh!

 

Josh.. I love that name..

 

BTW Josh, pay for the date IF you asked her out.. and if her I'll see means she is down for going

 

Good Luck

[DoggyDog]

When I said "We'll See"...I was ticked at my friend because he didn't acknowledge me at Christmas or New Years. So when I said it....I wanted to get something from him and he kinda knew it so proceeded to change his tune and kinda bribe me into seeing him. It worked too.

 

L DD

[Sunny3715]

"I'll see" could mean that she MIGHT go with you... but only as long as no better offer comes up. Sorry

[caer]

No better offer.....! No better offer......!

 

"What could be more fulfilling than an exciting night of bowling.....oh,I don't know......cow tipping!!

 

Nah...I'm just kidding, my x-wife and I used to love bowling.

[VirginiaBob]

"I'll see" means "you are not in my league"

[monkey00]

hm... I suppoise "ill see" is similar to "we'll see"...

 

Last time this chick kept hinting me to ask her out, and in reply i said "we'll see".

I guess at that point it didnt really matter whether or not i asked her out cause my IL wasnt high enough. I asked her out the next week, and she made some excuse.

 

Maybe she took it as a sign of disinterest? i dunno.

 

i dunno but i guess i said it as a way of saying maybe.

 

Josh - When her last line was when she said she doesnt know, you should've replied back with "let me know when you do."

 

As a way of saying that she missed her opportunity to go out iwth you, and if she wants that opportunity again, she'll have to ask you.

[monkey00]

Often times women are complicated like this and dont know what they want, and usually needs a guy's response to clear their mind. By saying that line, you may actually have had a chance at changing the outcome and go on the date.