lifric Posted March 2, 2014 Share Posted March 2, 2014 I've been studying in one city and met a really good friend, John. I was in a relationship at the time. A couple of months after my breakup I went out one night and got really drunk and John and me made out. The next day we just laughed about it and went on with our friendship after agreeing that it would be too weird if we acted on what happened. The tension started building and about 4 months after that we ended up sleeping together and he apologized afterwards because he didn't want to lead me on and he wasn't looking for a relationship with me. I wasn't either (my last relationship was very intense and I wasn't ready to get back into another one) so we decided to keep it casual.. what some call "friends with benefits" It's been 9 months now and none of our friend circle is aware of it. We hook up occasionally but maintain our friendship. We have been on dates with other people and he's even slept with another girl once and we maintain open communication about it all - no jealousy. However, recently we've grown much closer on an emotional level. He's opened up to me about very personal issues and we've had very intimate moments. I can't say that I'm "in love" but I am definitely attached to him and was thinking of letting him know... The problem is that even if we DO start a conventional relationship, I'm moving away for my studies in 3 months so we would have to put an end to it anyway. I'm just thinking that maybe it would be easier to just enjoy what we have and avoid me "falling in love" with him somewhere down the line knowing that we'll have to break up soon (we've both tried long distance relationships before and they haven't worked). Should I just enjoy what we have for the next few months or would it be worth to see how we would be as a committed couple (if he feels the same way about me...) Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted March 2, 2014 Share Posted March 2, 2014 I can't say that I'm "in love" but I am definitely attached to him and was thinking of letting him know... Stop the hooking up for the next three months. If he asks why you clearly say: "I don't want to fall in love with you." He will understand. I'm just thinking that maybe it would be easier to just enjoy what we have and avoid me "falling in love" with him somewhere down the line If it happens, you won't be able to stop it. would it be worth to see how we would be as a committed couple No. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 2, 2014 Share Posted March 2, 2014 If you are enjoying what you are doing keep doing it. When it comes closer to your time to leave. At that point, discuss whether you want to be "in love" & do the LDR thing or if this was just a fling based on proximity. Link to post Share on other sites
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