BaneofFire Posted March 3, 2014 Share Posted March 3, 2014 (edited) I have been married for 4 years and it was a great marriage. He left me a year ago out of the blue. He just disappeared, so to speak, to another state. We never legally seaparated but since the day he left he has refused to speak with me completely. He closed all his accounts and changed the passwords for everything before he left. In retrospect, I know he planned it. He took his car and came back to take mine while I was out of the country (I actually encouraged him to take it away when I found out he cheated) At the time I didn't think of it, but I have definitely left him a lot of nasty emails, texts, etc., big mistake, I know. I have also sent him a lot of great things as well. I live out of the country temporarily. We don't have any kids. I found out he was having sex with other women and soliticiting them on craigslist even, though I have no proof. I was so angry I gave him back his car. I have not had relations with another man at all. It's just a personal choice for me, I don't want to until I'm divorced. After about 10 months, I harassed him to file (at the time I thought it wouldnt make a different who did). He did at some point and his lawyer emailed me so short form saying I we agree on everything and I don't want anything, etc. He wanted me to authorize an electronic signature. I don't want to sign anything until I see a lawyer. That's hard since I don't live in the states. I also think he should be responsible for a lot of the loans I've taken out in order to either help or pay in full for rent, bills, etc., I did not work during our marriage because I was doing research as a grad student. The worst part of this has been his absolute refusal to speak with me. It has made everything so much harder.I was not anticipating this or expecting him to behave this way. The story is actually much longer and more complicated but I just want a general opinion of what everyone thinks I should do as far as answering the lawyer and what I believe I'm entitled to. He is a classic Narcissist and fits the description to the T. Of course, I only can see that now. Edited March 3, 2014 by BaneofFire ledt something out Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted March 3, 2014 Share Posted March 3, 2014 It's an electronic signature...it's also divorce and distancing yourself from him. It really had nothing to do with the kids.divorce..agreed. handle the kids separately. Link to post Share on other sites
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