SexiiPinkLadii Posted January 24, 2005 Share Posted January 24, 2005 Ok...I'm getting so stressed and angry. I was with the father of my child for 5 years. I am 19, he is 21. We are no longer together. Our daughter lives with me. The only time he comes around is when he wants to try to get back with me. Other than that, he never calls to check on her or to see if I need anything for her. He never comes over to see her. I have to repeatedly call his boss's cell phone to speak to him. And when that does happen, he calls me back from a private number. He won't tell me where he's staying at, or give me a number where I can reach him at. This is all starting to get to me. I don't know what to do. I want my daughter to have a father in her life but I feel like I can't make him see what he is doing. It's like he doesn't care and doesn't realize. Does anyone have any advice? PLEASE HELP!!!! I'M ABOUT TO SCREAM! Link to post Share on other sites
kypepeo Posted January 24, 2005 Share Posted January 24, 2005 Forget about him.Do you really want your child who has no idea what is happening to be subjected to the stress you are facing? She'll be waiting for him to come and see her only for him to break her heart. My babydaddy is the same and I told him that I don't want him coming around coz he's going to confuse her. He only comes because he wants to get back with me, saying that it for everyones benefit. I care too much about my daughter to get involved with him again and I know that him being around or dependong on him for anything will be me wasting valuable time.I can support her on my own though it won't be easy but it's worth the sacrifice. If you keep chasing after this guy, you won't have space in your life for Mr. Right when he comes along. Forget about him, think about your child's future Link to post Share on other sites
Matilda Posted January 24, 2005 Share Posted January 24, 2005 I want my daughter to have a father in her life but I feel like I can't make him see what he is doing. It's like he doesn't care and doesn't realize. Does anyone have any advice? You're right, you can't make him see what he is doing, and you can't make him care, and you can't make him realize. You need to direct all that energy that is involved in being angry and stressed towards him, into taking care of your daughter. Even though he should be a better father to your child, you can't make him be one. You are going to have to step up to the plate and be the best parent you can be for your daughter. If you haven't already, you need to go to the courts and get child support established. (The courts can make him do that.) Don't expect that he will do the right thing on his own. Link to post Share on other sites
mt_joy Posted January 28, 2005 Share Posted January 28, 2005 I'm sorry that you're having to go through that. Just focus on being the best mom you can be. You can't change him, so don't even try to. Is he really father material? Do you really want him in your life? Take care! Joy MT Student [email protected] Link to post Share on other sites
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