FitChick Posted March 3, 2014 Share Posted March 3, 2014 A woman journalist tries online dating for one night stands with much younger men and writes a book. Just like older men who screw much younger women for the ego boost, so did this woman with these guys. I can't help but feel it is a bit of revenge (re: her ex) knowing he'd read about it. She probably had more one night stands than he did. Ultimately both sexes who engage in this sort of behavior feel dissatisfied, if they are emotionally healthy. She does make a good point about people being disposable thanks to the internet and Tinder. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 I have no issue with age difference dating as long as it's between consenting adults but doing this just to get back at an ex is sort of pathetic and I would say the same if it were a man doing it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 Interesting how we each will see what we expect to see out of a narrative. Your post focuses on "older dating much younger," so I'll assume your conclusion that "Ultimately both sexes who engage in this sort of behavior feel dissatisfied, if they are emotionally healthy," applies to that profile. However, I didn't get the same reading from her article. As a matter of fact, early in the article, she summarized her experience as "not always wholesome, but always thoroughly invigorating." Always invigorating, she said. Those don't sound like the words of a woman who was dissatisfied with her experiment of dating much younger. She did express a dissatisfaction along the way - however, it was not associated specifically with the ages of her dates, but rather with the hookup culture of Tinder and the like. You can say that relates to age, but I don't think her article supports your thesis that a healthy person who engages in dating much younger ends up dissatisfied. In fact, just before her experiment was brought to a halt by the somewhat involuntary return home of her ex - due to financial reasons - she describes with delight being able to enjoy one last fling with one of her young "erstwhile Tinder boys." You read dissatisfied, I read thoroughly invigorating. Now, you are certainly welcome to your opinion that older people who happily date much younger are not emotionally healthy (and that is the necessary corollary of your statement I quoted in my first paragraph above, isn't it?) But I think it's a stretch to claim that this article and this woman's experience supports it. My opinion: more power to her if she felt invigorated (which she did say, quite literally) and everybody had a good time. I don't feel the impulse to mold this into a measurement of her emotional health, a revenge scenario, or in a larger agenda, some kind of gender faceoff. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 Im not sure what it proves.... Quite frankly. (and I know the women reading this will be angered by these comments so let me put on my firesuit.,) a guy that is in his later years and can legitimately do well with young women-without resorting to paying them or slipping Ambien in their drinks- is considered a player, is probably rich, attractive, etc...Any old Joe Blow cant pull it off.. ' Conversely, ANY old lady that can fog a mirror can find available young guys for sex...She can be a 300 lb toothless hag and pull that off...The author of the piece isnt at all attractive in my eyes...so case in point.. TFY Link to post Share on other sites
GoreSP Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 I have no issue with age difference dating as long as it's between consenting adults but doing this just to get back at an ex is sort of pathetic and I would say the same if it were a man doing it. She didn't. OP assumed she did. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 NSA sex with horny desperate men requires a book? Lol ok 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author FitChick Posted March 4, 2014 Author Share Posted March 4, 2014 I'll assume your conclusion that "Ultimately both sexes who engage in this sort of behavior feel dissatisfied, if they are emotionally healthy," applies to that profile. ...she summarized her experience as "not always wholesome, but always thoroughly invigorating." Those don't sound like the words of a woman who was dissatisfied with her experiment of dating much younger. She did express a dissatisfaction along the way - however, it was not associated specifically with the ages of her dates, but rather with the hookup culture of Tinder and the like. You can say that relates to age, but I don't think her article supports your thesis that a healthy person who engages in dating much younger ends up dissatisfied. My "thesis" as you call it has nothing to do with age. Her quote: "I felt a vague dissatisfaction because something was not right. I realised I didn't actually care about any of these men. Had all these human beings, even the good and likeable ones, become disposable, mere off-the-shelf products? I didn't want to feel like that." I generally date men 10-15 years younger, with sixteen years being the biggest age gap thus far. I don't care what other people do, frankly. I found the article refreshing in that it showed more younger men have a fantasy about older women and it's become the cool thing to do. Nothing wrong with living out a fantasy between two consenting adults. Ultimately most people want a real connection beyond just their genitals. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 She didn't. OP assumed she did. You are right. I don't know where the OP got that from. Link to post Share on other sites
tbf Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 Creepy and difficult to believe, considering how she looks somewhere between 65 - 70. The incident with the throttling Oedipus Complex head case, was believable. Something I'll never understand, people who struggle with aging, needing pathetic little sexual strokes to supplement what's waning, whether breasts or dipstick. You're old now. Deal with it. Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 My "thesis" as you call it has nothing to do with age. Her quote: "I felt a vague dissatisfaction because something was not right. I realised I didn't actually care about any of these men. Had all these human beings, even the good and likeable ones, become disposable, mere off-the-shelf products? I didn't want to feel like that." I wonder how much of that was the writer in her needing some kind of evolution for her character. After all she was still inviting guys over the night before her ex moved back in so she couldn't have felt too bad about it. Maybe it's because I'm on my phone but she looked good to me for 60. I'll check again when I get back to my HD monitor. Link to post Share on other sites
Eggplant Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 Conversely, ANY old lady that can fog a mirror can find available young guys for sex...She can be a 300 lb toothless hag and pull that off...The author of the piece isnt at all attractive in my eyes...so case in point.. TFYWow! I didn't know that... I thought there was some limit. Wait till I'm a widow in the nursing home. Cool. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
robbysurfs Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 This type of behavior is easy for women to pull of really. Check this you might get a laugh or not...In any event thanks jim hahaha! Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 My "thesis" as you call it has nothing to do with age. Oh, OK. Sorry, I mistakenly believed that the following statements formed the foundation of your post: {Subject line} 60-year old woman's year of dating 20-somethings ...for one night stands with much younger men.... Just like older men who screw much younger women for the ego boost, so did this woman... Ultimately both sexes who engage in this sort of behavior feel dissatisfied, if they are emotionally healthy. Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 Checked her out in HD and noticed a lot more wrinkles but she still looks good for 60. I've seen plenty of 20 somethings that look way worse. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 I have a feeling that horny, desperate guys would screw an apple pie if they were given one. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 I have a feeling that horny, desperate guys would screw an apple pie if they were given one. Might be a tough choice between that and eating it for a lot of guys these days. Is this a form of self-hatred from women? Don't think you'll be worthy of a hot young guy when you're that age? She seems in decent shape, has a nice face, dresses well, has her hair done ok. Really, more than you can say about a lot of younger women. I don't get the hate. Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 (edited) i wonder if she would be so sure of her ideas if she heard that he was deciding to romance a younger version of herself, or had a woman happily pregnant, or getting married/living in what would she say to him? straight question and vice versa Edited March 4, 2014 by darkmoon Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 Why is everybody so against this? Everybody involved is a consenting adult and knows what the score is so leave them alone. It would be a little too much of an age gap for me but to each their own. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 Might be a tough choice between that and eating it for a lot of guys these days. Is this a form of self-hatred from women? Don't think you'll be worthy of a hot young guy when you're that age? She seems in decent shape, has a nice face, dresses well, has her hair done ok. Really, more than you can say about a lot of younger women. I don't get the hate. Oh, I don't think there's anything wrong with her screwing younger guys at all. It's just puzzling that this is seen as an achievement, IMO. If a woman was truly interested in NSA and happy to take anyone she can get (within a certain age range even), it wouldn't be too difficult for her to get it. It's kinda like... publishing a book about getting a cat to like catnip? Then again, people publish about all sorts of things, so I suppose it isn't a surprise. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 Oh, I don't think there's anything wrong with her screwing younger guys at all. It's just puzzling that this is seen as an achievement, IMO. If a woman was truly interested in NSA and happy to take anyone she can get (within a certain age range even), it wouldn't be too difficult for her to get it. It's kinda like... publishing a book about getting a cat to like catnip? Then again, people publish about all sorts of things, so I suppose it isn't a surprise. Precisely.... If the goal of the piece was "if they can do it, so can we!", then it was a failure...There are scores of guys that would bang a warthog-even one thats been dead for weeks,,.Its not an accomplishment or some victorious challenge... TFY 4 Link to post Share on other sites
man_in_the_box Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 This guy tried to bang a park bench: Man gets penis stuck in park bench | News.com.au 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Taramere Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 (edited) Why is everybody so against this? Everybody involved is a consenting adult and knows what the score is so leave them alone. It would be a little too much of an age gap for me but to each their own. I generally agree. I suppose in this particular scenario, because she's written a book and is publicising it in the tabloid press that makes her fairer game for comment. The publicity-seeking, book-selling aspects aside...so what if a woman in her 60s is having sex with younger men? It might not be quite the ideal, romantic scenario that two beautiful young people having sex is, but that doesn't mean she should give it up and focus on knitting and bridge parties instead. ETA - not that there's anything wrong with knitting and bridge parties. Edited March 4, 2014 by Taramere 3 Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 I have a feeling that horny, desperate guys would screw an apple pie if they were given one. They're not always desperate. Some guys actually chase older women. I've seen it first hand. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 They're not always desperate. Some guys actually chase older women. I've seen it first hand. Maybe a 35 year old guy might chase a woman in her late 40's early 50's-I can see that....But this scenario? Its more about a novelty and an easy lay from an old lady... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 They're not always desperate. Some guys actually chase older women. I've seen it first hand. I'm not saying all guys are desperate. Obviously. Men can and do choose not to have sex with any mary, jane, or sally... What I am saying is that there are sufficient desperate men that it would not be too difficult for any woman to find a few for NSA sex. Hence the 'not an achievement' part. Link to post Share on other sites
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