loquita1 Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 We been separated for 18 months attempting to make it work. Turns out I was attempting it he was just pretending to. He has depression family issues and in the end impacted our relationship.he says I didn't protect him from them and didn't stand by his side. I'm so sad bc I love him. We have a 4 yr old. So no contact doesn't work. Today he said tomorrow at our therapy he will let me talk but wants us to buy a house so my son and I live I'm it and that he will divorce me. How did it get to this? I feel horrible. I've been battling depression and it's just making me just feel worthless . I always believed I was being there for him how to move on when I see him daily because of our son. Link to post Share on other sites
Mystery2Me Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 So sorry you are dealing with this, especially with depression. Good news is that you are in therapy and are aware of your own depression. Now is the time to focus on "YOUR" personal recovery....as hard as it is to face the truth....you know that you are not responsible for his depression. Like you, only he can take responsiblity for his own healing....not you! Sometimes it is easier for someone to blame the other person for their base line problem, rather than deal with the root causes. Do not go for the blackmail.....all it will bring you is a more hurt than accepting the truth...and just delayed sorrow for him. Let him have his way...yes take the house....focus on your healing.....tell him to grow up...and love him from a distance (even if that means divorce). Take care and take it one day at a time. ~Mystery Link to post Share on other sites
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