Can a man really fall victim to a female sociopath?

[Editbee]

It's under the link:

A male victims story of a female sociopath! | Dating a Sociopath

 

Very rare it's heard about the female sociopath. Even when I was a couple years younger, sociopath or psychopath were mostly about stories about women falling victims to them not vice-versa. I guess a female with that disorder must be somewhat similar to her male counterpart. Not sure how does a female sociopath's mind works. I think they only represent 1% (or slightly less) of the population.

 

Then a couple weeks ago, one of my female co-workers shared a disturbing story about her past next door neighbor. That man was married but after slightly more than 12 years, he finds out 3 out of 4 of the kids aren't his. Not only that but the woman had multiple affairs and has always been cheating for years, never felt remorse for it and did it on purpose for stability. The house gets sold and nothing is ever heard from the man again. That's got to be a true sociopath. Still, wouldn't early (earlier than her male counterpart) red flags be showing at some time during the relationship? How does a woman like that manage to lie,used and deceive a man for so long?:sick:

[Eggplant]

I've never thought I knew a woman sociopath, but I am positive one of my former female friends was a narcissist. There are also plenty of emotionally, verbally abusive women out there. Don't know whether they're sociopaths, or what personality disorders.

[Editbee]

I've never thought I knew a woman sociopath, but I am positive one of my former female friends was a narcissist. There are also plenty of emotionally, verbally abusive women out there. Don't know whether they're sociopaths, or what personality disorders.

That's why it's shocking when we hear of one like that since they are so rare. It's still surprising to me that a woman can also lack empathy, having absolute no feelings nor concern for others, never show remorse and display many of the other characteristics of the male sociopath.

[Eggplant]

That's why it's shocking when we hear of one like that since they are so rare. It's still surprising to me that a woman can also lack empathy, having absolute no feelings nor concern for others, never show remorse and display many of the other characteristics of the male sociopath.

Yeah, I can't believe that would be great for a child to have a sociopath mother.

 

The woman in the article swindled "boyfriends" out of their money. I can see this actually. A lot of women can put on a pretty good façade when it comes to social interactions, sing with the chorus, so to speak, but really just be out for themselves.

[acrosstheuniverse]

I've only ever known two people who seriously matched the criteria for 'sociopathy' (now known as anti-social personality disorder) in my life, one male and one female. And I've met and worked with a LOT of incarcerated offenders. Once I realised the true character of the female and how poisonous and dangerous she was I cut her out of my life 100% and didn't look back.

[RedRobin]

I believe I came across one male sociopath in the past year.

 

 

You'd be surprised how many 'followers' they can have... and people who claim they are 'nice'.

 

 

They say that 4% of the population are sociopaths/psychopaths.

 

 

Which doesn't sound like a lot, but when you figure that is 4 out of 100... if you live long enough, you are going to be a target of one. At work or in your personal life.

 

 

OLD has made it much easier for those on that spectrum to get around. It's another reason I won't do it (OLD) anymore... especially since statistics claim that men are 20X more likely to have sociopath/psychopath tendencies than women. It's just not worth it to meet men like that.

Edited March 4, 2014 by RedRobin

[Woggle]

I think my former FWB is one. She uses people and seems to have no remorse or regard for them whatsoever but I saw right through her. I tend to know one when I see one.

[thefooloftheyear]

It's under the link:

A male victims story of a female sociopath! | Dating a Sociopath

 

Very rare it's heard about the female sociopath. Even when I was a couple years younger, sociopath or psychopath were mostly about stories about women falling victims to them not vice-versa. I guess a female with that disorder must be somewhat similar to her male counterpart. Not sure how does a female sociopath's mind works. I think they only represent 1% (or slightly less) of the population.

 

Then a couple weeks ago, one of my female co-workers shared a disturbing story about her past next door neighbor. That man was married but after slightly more than 12 years, he finds out 3 out of 4 of the kids aren't his. Not only that but the woman had multiple affairs and has always been cheating for years, never felt remorse for it and did it on purpose for stability. The house gets sold and nothing is ever heard from the man again. That's got to be a true sociopath. Still, wouldn't early (earlier than her male counterpart) red flags be showing at some time during the relationship? How does a woman like that manage to lie,used and deceive a man for so long?:sick:

 

Its absolutely possible...Just take a look at some of the crime shows they air on tv...These depict actual events ...many women are capable of some very bizarre behavior..Certainly less common than men, but absolutely..

 

How can it go on? Simple...She might have been very attractive, charming, etc..Or the guy could have been working 3 jobs and lose sight of whats happening around him...Just dont know,,,

 

TFY

[Taramere]

An ex boss of mine had pretty sociopathic traits. I remember one time going down stairs and finding another associate (who was pregnant at the time) with red rimmed eyes and looking very unwell. I said "you look like you haven't been getting much sleep lately". She then vented to me about things the boss had been saying/doing. Can't remember exactly what, but none of it was a surprise as I knew what the boss was like. I remember looking at the other associate and blurting out "I think she's a psychopath". She nodded.

 

That particular woman is, as TFY says, very charming and can be great company...however, she's got an abysmal reputation and I think pretty much everybody in our profession knows that this is not somebody to be trusted. Periodically she'll assume the "respectable grandee of the profession" mantle - but really, that's just an absolute joke. Of course, most people are too polite to laugh in her face but I think by this stage there are very few people who would see her in the way she'd like to be seen.

[ThatMan]

Very rare it's heard about the female sociopath. Even when I was a couple years younger, sociopath or psychopath were mostly about stories about women falling victims to them not vice-versa. I guess a female with that disorder must be somewhat similar to her male counterpart. Not sure how does a female sociopath's mind works. I think they only represent 1% (or slightly less) of the population.

Respected organizations such as NAMI will tell you that 1 in 4 people suffer from mental disorders. Many disorders make it difficult to experience and outwardly share things such as care and empathy, especially borderline personality disorder, which includes six percent of the population by itself. It's up to you to stand up for yourself and walk away from new relationships that aren't healthy.

[dragon_fly_7]

This is not new to me. Sociopathy defines no gender and if your watch the showcases of Deadly Women on discovery and investigation channel, there are tons of female sociopath/psychopath preying on innocent men. Sometimes it's also said that a female psychopath can be even deadlier than a male because those she targets are actually closed members or people she knows (people that trusted her or even her patients if she's a nurse) for money and/or power rather than a male targetting strangers for sex.

Edited March 4, 2014 by dragon_fly_7

[carhill]

The closest we've had to an Aileen Wuornos style psychology in our area was the lady who knocked her estranged husband out (IIRC a taser was involved) and put him in a drum of acid alive. It made one of those crime TV shows IIRC. She had a successful chemical business and didn't like the idea of him getting a piece of it in the divorce, evidently. He didn't, and she went to prison.

 

I've encountered some lesser versions. Very 'cold' aura. Deliberate. However, very adept at the use of feminine wiles with men.

 

I've probably avoided the worst of them because my natural romantic style is 'get to know' so I don't jump into too good to be true encounters with both feet. Been deceived? Sure! That happens, but no experiences I'd call devastating.

Edited March 4, 2014 by carhill

[dragon_fly_7]

The closest we've had to an Aileen Wuornos style psychology in our area was the lady who knocked her estranged husband out (IIRC a taser was involved) and put him in a drum of acid alive. It made one of those crime TV shows IIRC. She had a successful chemical business and didn't like the idea of him getting a piece of it in the divorce, evidently. He didn't, and she went to prison.

That's so disturbing. Poor man. Just imagine being in his shoes, asking a woman for a date, getting to know her better, being bf and gf and later on get married to her only to have this happening to you; finding out late that you married someone evil.

 

There is a woman I can think about that actually fits one of the most evil ones and the even rarer type because she not only killed but actually tortured her victims while they're still alive and suffering (unlike the woman that only uses poison on he victims and no more) like her male counterpart would and also was sexually driven. Her name was Irma Grese Born and she was labelled as ''The Biotch of Belsen''. She's found at Top 10 Most Evil Women - Listverse

She's placed as number 3 out of the top 10 evil woman, all of them being psychopaths.

Edited March 4, 2014 by dragon_fly_7

[Under The Radar]

I tend to avoid dating female sociopaths ......

 

 

...... because I enjoy my oatmeal without arsenic poisoning.

 

 

I watch Investigative Discovery; just sayin .

[Els]

I don't see why the male gender would have a monopoly on sociopaths.

[Els]

That's so disturbing. Poor man. Just imagine being in his shoes, asking a woman for a date, getting to know her better, being bf and gf and later on get married to her only to have this happening to you; finding out late that you married someone evil.

 

There is a woman I can think about that actually fits one of the most evil ones and the even rarer type because she not only killed but actually tortured her victims while they're still alive and suffering (unlike the woman that only uses poison on he victims and no more) like her male counterpart would and also was sexually driven. Her name was Irma Grese Born and she was labelled as ''The Biotch of Belsen''. She's found at Top 10 Most Evil Women - Listverse

She's placed as number 3 out of the top 10 evil woman, all of them being psychopaths.

 

Holy hell. I saw her birth year, and she was just 20 when she did all that.

 

For some reason that freaks me out quite badly.

[topaMAXX]

It's under the link:

A male victims story of a female sociopath! | Dating a Sociopath

 

Very rare it's heard about the female sociopath. Even when I was a couple years younger, sociopath or psychopath were mostly about stories about women falling victims to them not vice-versa. I guess a female with that disorder must be somewhat similar to her male counterpart. Not sure how does a female sociopath's mind works. I think they only represent 1% (or slightly less) of the population.

 

Then a couple weeks ago, one of my female co-workers shared a disturbing story about her past next door neighbor. That man was married but after slightly more than 12 years, he finds out 3 out of 4 of the kids aren't his. Not only that but the woman had multiple affairs and has always been cheating for years, never felt remorse for it and did it on purpose for stability. The house gets sold and nothing is ever heard from the man again. That's got to be a true sociopath. Still, wouldn't early (earlier than her male counterpart) red flags be showing at some time during the relationship? How does a woman like that manage to lie,used and deceive a man for so long?:sick:

 

Paternity fraud is not all that uncommon. I read somewhere that something like 7% of kids have different fathers than they think.

 

Just do a google search and you'll find tons of stories about this.

[Eggplant]

I don't see why the male gender would have a monopoly on sociopaths.

I've read that the disorder is more common in men. I feel as though the propagation of a women's genes is a little more closely related to her ability to nurture her children than a man's. Nurturing without empathy is impossible, although I can see how a sociopath might not let a kid die for fear of punishment.

[Quiet Storm]

I've read that the disorder is more common in men. I feel as though the propagation of a women's genes is a little more closely related to her ability to nurture her children than a man's. Nurturing without empathy is impossible, although I can see how a sociopath might not let a kid die for fear of punishment.

 

I think they often view their children as an extension of themselves in the beginning. When they are babies and young children, sociopaths will often be proud of their child, show them off, nurture them, put them on a pedestal, etc. The sociopath has total control over the child, which is what sociopaths often seek.

 

The problems start when the child begins to express their own feelings and opinions. And when the child is unable to live up to their unrealistic expectations. Or when the child rebels, and no longer wants to be controlled.

 

As long as the child is being the perfect little mini me, the sociopath will usually shower the child with attention, praise, etc.

 

But as soon as the child disappoints the sociopath, the dynamic changes and the child becomes the target of the sociopath's rages & manipulative tactics.

 

 

I think many sociopaths were victims of abuse or neglect, which is very similar to borderlines. I think these issues often manifest differently in males & females, where the males will often becomes sociopaths and the females become borderlines. I think this is because males have a tendency to express their anger & discontent externally- with violence towards others, crime, etc, which fits with a sociopath. Women seem to express their anger & discontent internally- cutting, bulimia, suicide attempts, etc., which fits with Borderline. Of course, I am talking in general terms. There are definitely male borderlines and female sociopaths out there.

[Els]

I've read that the disorder is more common in men. I feel as though the propagation of a women's genes is a little more closely related to her ability to nurture her children than a man's. Nurturing without empathy is impossible, although I can see how a sociopath might not let a kid die for fear of punishment.

 

It's definitely proven to be more common in men, but the OP seems surprised that it could EVER happen with women, which puzzles me. Of course it can.

[Taramere]

If you asked a sociopath what a sociopath is, unless it's somebody like that Eastern European guy who makes a living with his "I'm a narcissist/sociopath/psychopath - ask me whatever you want about it" thing, they would probably select fairly normal human behavour, attitudes that they found annoying or that obstructed them in their sociopathic pursuits, and they would probably define that as "true sociopathy". The definition of evil being anything that hindered them in doing or having whatever they wanted.

 

Here's a female psychpath who was recently convicted of a murder

 

Georgina Smith left tribute on Facebook page of victim Scott Blackwood days after helping Allan Nicol and Thomas Moore kill him | Metro News

 

I say psychopath. In truth I've no idea whether she was diagnosed as being incapable of rehabilitiation, but her behaviour in this tends to match up with everything the experts always say about narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths.

 

In particular, her contributions to the victim's Facebook tribute page. Barely legible (she likely rarely attended school) but basically saying "I was you're only true friend. All these other people are now expressing regret now, but I was the only one there for you through thick and thin. I'll get the people who did this to you."

 

Hyping herself up as this great person - caring friend, the only person out of everybody the victim knew who really undertood and cared about him - to get "likes" on the tribute page of the guy she helped to murder. She probably actually believed it as she was writing it.

[dragon_fly_7]

It's definitely proven to be more common in men, but the OP seems surprised that it could EVER happen with women, which puzzles me. Of course it can.

I think the OP knows sociopathy or psychopathy can be represented in women but it's just that once in a while, we all get a bit surprised that a woman could have done all that and if she was horrible enough to apply torture that can make her more evil than her male counterpart. So I don't think that the OP is really surprised out of not knowing this but more like ''Damn, I can't believe a woman can be that evil and even more than the male''.

 

That's because for the most part, women have been conditioned by society since very ancient times to be the nurturer and sex with more empathy, the one that bonds with children and is family oriented so I can understand why it might be such a shock when a woman lacks empathy (the least you would expect this from) and is a true sociopath and/or psycopath.

Edited March 9, 2014 by dragon_fly_7