Things do get better!

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To summarize, my ex of 5 years left me due to irreconcilable differences (as far as I'm concerned) and It's been almost 2 months since the BU and about a month of NC. I think it helps to not keep track of these figures too closely. I had to think really hard about how long it had been then I just quit because it's a waste of time. I moved out of our apt shortly after the BU and am staying with my parents out of the city temporarily until I get back on my feet.

 

I'm am doing better although I never thought I would. I was laid off, living with my parents, and freshly dumped. Rock bottom. The first few weeks were very difficult and I struggling with my new reality. Broke NC a couple times but learned my lesson quickly. I reached out to friends and family for support and even joined this forum to read and share experiences. You're going to get advice, some good, some bad, but it will help. You will realize things from a different perspective and begin to piece things together. I did my best to keep busy by looking for a job, training for a marathon, reading, studying, learning a new language, etc. I found that in the early stages it was difficult to take my mind off things no matter how busy I was. Eventually (I don't have a specific timeframe for this I suppose it depends on your situation) I thought of her less and I began to really focus on myself. I'm not saying I'm over her but I am moving on and it's not as painful anymore. I just focused on improving myself and that's really the best thing to do at this point in my life.

 

Last week I received a missed call and voicemail from my previous employer. Long story short I have my old job back with more responsibility and a salary raise. I start at the end of the month and am currently travelling Europe. I got the call on a Wednesday, booked a ticket the next day and was on a plane shortly after. I'm visiting friends, meeting new people and having great experiences. I have no plans set in stone and I'm just doing everything I've wanted to do and more. I feel great and find myself smiling again. I am not 100% but I have realized that everything happens for a reason. I no longer wake up with my heart beating out of my chest thinking about her or get upset when something reminds me of her.

 

I'll put it this way, everyone has memories of something great, either a trip or an adventure, etc. That's how I feel when I think about her. I remember the great times we had together and it makes me happy and I smile. I am grateful for our time together and have no regrets. Things ended fairly amicably, although she left, but I do not resent her. Again, everyone's situation is different but the truth is that these setbacks in our lives make us stronger and we are who we are today because all of our life experiences.

 

I look forward to my new life and I thought I would never say that. Things DO get better so hang on friends. I wish you all nothing but the best in your lives and I promise you that everything is going to be okay. You're going to be great!