melell Posted March 6, 2014 Share Posted March 6, 2014 I have recently started living with a cousin who happens to be in the same city as me. We are the same age and have always been pretty close. We cook together, watch tv etc in the evenings if we are both free, and have a great time. Her boyfriend of 2 years stays maybe twice a week, usually on those nights I will go out so they have the house to themselves. Yesterday he stayed over, and I didn't go out for the first time, there were hardly two words in my direction. I was a little hurt because she didn't say goodnight to me, just kinda vanished while I was making my lunch for the next day in the kitchen. She definitely wasn't mad at me because we were talking and joking etc before he arrived. And I wasn't in their space- I was only around for those 15 minutes while making lunch the whole night. Thoughts? I know it is a silly thing, but kinda bothers me. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 6, 2014 Share Posted March 6, 2014 It's an adjustment. Tell her that it kind of bothered you that she didn't say good night. Together -- armed with kindness, sensitivity & politeness -- you guys should be able to find a path that makes everybody happy & comfortable. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted March 6, 2014 Share Posted March 6, 2014 Sexual pursuits always take priority over same sex friends. It's nothing personal. Even though it might feel that way. I think if a guy friend went out of his way to say goodnight to me when he was with a girl I'd have to smack him in the head. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author melell Posted March 6, 2014 Author Share Posted March 6, 2014 Thank you both. I don't care enough to say anything about it, but yeah, the sexual nature makes it understandable. I haven't had to live with other sexually active people since living at home, not finding that part of it pleasant.. I will adjust I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
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