don't_break_even Posted March 6, 2014 Share Posted March 6, 2014 So my dumper ex, after 4 months of being broken up and 2 months of no contact, has came back into my life. (Found out his rebound didn't work) He now calls me at least 2 nights a week and texts me from early in the morning throughout the whole day everyday, just like when we were together. He has told me he never wanted to let me go but our meaningless fights were too much, however he never lost feelings for me so we still have a chance.. I just have to make him fall for me again like I did the first time. Thats what he said word for word. Does this sound promising? I just wanted to get some opinions from the LS community as I really want him back and still love and have feelings for him too. P.s. I know for a fact this rebound was someone he met after we broke up, he never knew she even existed before we split. Link to post Share on other sites
flightplan Posted March 6, 2014 Share Posted March 6, 2014 If he did it once, he'll do it again. You're his backup plan. He doesn't adore you and will never be committed to you. When another woman comes along that strikes his fancy, you'll be in the exact same position you were before. "I just have to make him fall for me again like I did the first time." Huh?! Are you kidding me? He's the one who needs to prove he's changed and thats a very difficult thing to do. Have more respect for yourself and let him go. But... unfortunately, you're probably going to fall for the trap, take him back, only to find you should've never done it. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted March 6, 2014 Share Posted March 6, 2014 So my dumper ex' date=' after 4 months of being broken up and 2 months of no contact, has came back into my life. (Found out his rebound didn't work) He now calls me at least 2 nights a week and texts me from early in the morning throughout the whole day everyday, just like when we were together. He has told me he never wanted to let me go but our meaningless fights were too much, however he never lost feelings for me so we still have a chance.. [b']I just have to make him fall for me again like I did the first time. Thats what he said word for word[/b]. Does this sound promising? I just wanted to get some opinions from the LS community as I really want him back and still love and have feelings for him too. P.s. I know for a fact this rebound was someone he met after we broke up, he never knew she even existed before we split. Huh??? You don't have to do crap. It's all on him! How would anyone think that sounds promising? Red flag. He's lonely bc his rebound didn't work. Red flag. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author don't_break_even Posted March 6, 2014 Author Share Posted March 6, 2014 Thanks, I kind of figured this was a red flag. Does it make the any difference in noting that the breakup was over 90% my fault.. the last 5 months we were together I really did treat the guy like crap. (lots of stress from job and money issues) I would reject him for sex almost every night and treat him like trash which I totally regret as he never did anything to deserve any of it. He would cry about the way I was to him to me and his family, and tell me he knows this is not who I am (as we had a perfect relationship in the first year and a half) and snap out of it or he will leave. I kind of just got the idea he would never go so I kept it up. I was a real b!tch and I would never treat him or anyone like that again. To be honest I completely expected to never hear from him again after how I treated him towards the end. I have spent these last 4 months depressed on how I screwed up what was such a perfect relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author don't_break_even Posted March 6, 2014 Author Share Posted March 6, 2014 Basically, I'm not sure why he'd even waist his time contacting me if he really didn't still have feelings for me as he had always said he wanted to try again in the future if I could get my crap together and be the girl he fell in love with and not the jerk I had become. I know for a fact if he was just lonely he could just go out and get any girls number he wanted yet he is here talking to me. He told me the rebound was never something serious, rather something to help get him through the pain of our breakup. I'm not sure of any of this changes the outcome of the original question, but just throwing it out there so I can get a more fair answer. Link to post Share on other sites
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