daboyz Posted January 24, 2005 Share Posted January 24, 2005 First off let me start off by saying that I am a very shy guy. I hate the time when u want to ask a girl out to actually starting a relationship. I tend to over analyze everything and I just drive myself crazy, thus i came on here to see if i can get some help ....LOL Ok heres the story ....Been goin to this sports bar for a few yrs now with a couple of buddies every sunday during football season. We have become friends with 3 girl bartenders there. One big happy group ! We have a lot of fun! 2 girls i thought were given me flirting signs, and not the stuff that goes on for a big tip like i said we have been friends for a few yrs now ! so i asked one girl out to a basketball game and dinner. Normally on dates I am so nervous and shy its ridiculous !! But on this one from the time we met until the time she left the conversation flowed and we had a great time. We had a lot in common. We even had the same credit card with the 6 little puppies on it, signs like that all night long.....LOL. The next day I sent her a dozen tulips and said that I had a great time last night. When i got to the bar on Sunday she was workin and waiting for me with a cute little smile and said thanks for the flowers they were beautiful. During the night she would stop by and talk as much as she could without pissin off her guests...lol.....if she couldnt stop and talk she would walk by and nudge me to let me know she was there. Or when she did stop by and talk she would touch my arm and stuff (signs that she is interested). But me the shy idiot couldnt get around to askin her out again. And the night ended with me leaving the bar with no second date !!! It all sounds pretty obvious what to do but like i said before I tend to over analyze everything. Part of me says she does like me but the other part just says wishful thinking or shes just being nice cause we go to the sports bar every sunday....LOL....i just feel if she didnt want to go out she would say no then. I dont want to smother her by asking her out to often right away ...but i want her to know that i am interested ! So to all my new friends waht does this shy guy have to do ? Thanks for ur help ! Link to post Share on other sites
lovelylady Posted January 24, 2005 Share Posted January 24, 2005 my 2 cents? - ask her out again. if she had been uncomfortable w/your gesture of flowers, she would have made it clear. obviously, she wasn't if you've been friends that long, she knows you're shy and probably isn't surprised that it's taking you a little longer to ask for a second...but if you wait too long, she may begin to think you are just not that interested. if you ARE that interested, make your move. best of luck! and by the way, sending her tulips was awfully sweet.....right on. Link to post Share on other sites
lovelylady Posted January 24, 2005 Share Posted January 24, 2005 just wondering - how long ago was it that you had this date? recently? Link to post Share on other sites
Author daboyz Posted January 24, 2005 Author Share Posted January 24, 2005 Date was on thursday sent flowers friday saw her on sunday want to call her today (monday) try to muster up the courage ! Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
lovelylady Posted January 24, 2005 Share Posted January 24, 2005 i would say that calling her sometime within the next couple of days would be smart - doesn't have to be today....but sometime in the next couple of days. and i would say yes, certainly call her - your next contact with her should not be at her work. again, my 2 cents. good luck!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author daboyz Posted January 26, 2005 Author Share Posted January 26, 2005 Lovelylady : Just wanted u to know that I grew some cajones and just picked up the phone and called her. Phone rang and rang ......great i finally call her and she doesnt answer.....LOL........she called right back though. Asked her out and she said that would be great ! I guess because of the feeling I had after the first date - I knew she would say yes, but I just needed another persons point of view. Thanks for helping me out ! Now I can start worrying about the 2nd date......LOL...... Should I start to ask "relationship" questions ? Not about her ex - bf's or anything just what she wants out of a relationship, stuff like that ???? Also is the 2nd date a good time to start holding hands a little, touching her more and should if i get a good vibe with her should i try for the first kiss before that awkward moment right before u say good bye ???/ Thanks for ur help ! Link to post Share on other sites
roxy_1980 Posted January 27, 2005 Share Posted January 27, 2005 I would say that the second date is too soon for the relationship talk. Stay away from bf/gf labels for at least a few more dates. It could scare her off. Holding hands and going for the first kiss is great for the second date. It'll let her know that you're really interested in her. Link to post Share on other sites
Magus Posted January 30, 2005 Share Posted January 30, 2005 Good job "shy guy". Hold off on "relationship" questions till the 3rd or 4th date, or after you 2 kiss. The 3rd date is the crux. If you don't get a kiss by then you either haven't gone for it, or you aint gonna get it. Link to post Share on other sites
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