xyz_212 Posted January 24, 2005 Share Posted January 24, 2005 Hello. My Ex (28) broke up with me a little over a year ago. We dated for almost 3 years, were in love and were discussing marriage and our future all of the time. He freaked out and decided that he needed to be on his own and broke up with me. I (25) decided that I needed to start fresh and so I moved to another city (about 1000 miles away). I have been doing great, i have started my own business, I have great new friends, been travelling etc... A few months ago he contact me and told me that he would like to move to where I lived for both his career as well as getting back together with me. I asked him to come visit for a weekend so we could talk in person. I said that I would like to give it another try. He has sent me a nice birthday card and even invited me up to his parents house for a 4 day weekend over holiday break. It was a nice time, though whenever I see him, i get emotional and its hard. Right after his first visit, we tried talking on the phone a lot but i would get so upset all of the time so i have found that emailing weekly is good with an occasional phone call here and there. Neither of us believes in long distance relationships so we are just trying our best to be in touch and stay realistic until he moves here in Sept (9 MONTHS AWAY) not so long I know... Heres the thing, im scared that he will let me down again, im scared that im asking for trouble. He assures me that he loves me and he has every intention of coming here and starting over with me. im just scared. He also tells me to live my life during this time because he doesnt want me to ever resent him. he says stuff like 'date other people, but PLEASE dont tell me about it' 'i just want whats best for you' etc etc.. what do you think? i love him, but i dont want to set myself up for trouble... does this sound legit to you? I really want to trust him, its just hard because he dumped me last year.. all comments welcome.. THANKS Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Hustle Posted January 24, 2005 Share Posted January 24, 2005 I say what the hell... If up untill SEP. He shows you that he is still interested and does not show any warning signs then Then I say run with it. I just hope im in your shoes a year down the road... Sounds Exciting! I bet you are.... P.S. You know that feeling in your stomach that you got when you first caught wind of this?.... Don't take it for granted... It doesn't come much, but feels great. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted January 24, 2005 Share Posted January 24, 2005 It sounds like you want to be back with him but are cautious you will get screwed. I understand that. Only you can decide what to do but I will say this... All I know is I hope it works out for you. I say give the guy a 2nd chance if come Sept you arent with anyone and there is still interest. Just make sure that you are aware of things and if the relationship looks like it has no hope early on end it. Heres hoping it all works out for you and you'll be happy. Link to post Share on other sites
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