OzHeartache Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 "the power of now" is a great book you should read it. I'm about a quarter of the way through and agree, its full on and you need to probably read some sections a couple of times but well worth it.....puts what your mind does it into some sort of perspective Link to post Share on other sites
realfriends Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 One thing that helps me put things into perspective about my break up and how to handle it is the quote, "Im not getting over it, just getting used to it" Remember that a breakup causes a deep scar. Scars never go away, they just slowly fade with time. Stay strong 3 Link to post Share on other sites
melell Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 I have been hardcore nc for about a yr I checked her FB page once and saw she had moved on it really hurt me deeply so I feel you man. There is hope tho just hear me out. You can rid yourself of this pain if you want to you have to really focus on the now and look at life around you. Yeah I know it sounds like im a kook. The moment you are in and the self preservation of her is already in the past. You actually fuel your ego, thought, and emotional stability with the past not the present. No mind and no pain your thinking is causing you this pain. You are not your mind and your thinking is not your being. Life is really a marvel you have to watch and you will feel you being present then that fantasy will slowly disappear as you become more involved with the now. "the power of now" is a great book you should read it. I think this is a really important point. The attachments you have to your ex in day to day living are broken at this point. All that stuff that initially makes a bu so hard is gone. What is left that is making it hard? Memories? Loneliness? Ingrained thought process? It might actually have less to do with your ex than you think op, I think it would be worth trying to pinpoint it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted March 11, 2014 Author Share Posted March 11, 2014 "the power of now" is a great book you should read it. Complete... I think this is a really important point. The attachments you have to your ex in day to day living are broken at this point. All that stuff that initially makes a bu so hard is gone. What is left that is making it hard? Memories? Loneliness? Ingrained thought process? It might actually have less to do with your ex than you think op, I think it would be worth trying to pinpoint it. Agreed. All in my own thought process. Nothing to do with ex for a very long time. All me!!! Pinpoint?? More like buckshot. Too much to list. LOL!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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