josephangel00 Posted March 7, 2014 Share Posted March 7, 2014 My girlfriend is currently in her 3rd trimester. Things since have been VERY up and down. There have been incidents of extreme arguements , (derogatory) words, accusations and more thrown at one another. Things have gotten worse since as weeks go by and now its like we can't make it through a week anymore without a incident happening. We were supposed to be moving in together by end of this month and I am wondering if it is really worth it anymore? Last night just became the worse, over a understanding of her saying that I ignored her on facebook (while I was doing a soundcheck at a night club, I am a DJ btw) and she called me and I tried to answer it but call got disconnected and i called her back because i thought my phone buttdailed her and i called to apologize and instead was met with anger from her claiming i was ignoring her. At dinner later on She got mad because i told the story about how i was having car issues early in the day and during the day yesterday I didn;t tell her i was having car issues and that my day was ok because i wanted to resolve the problem myself and not stress her out but because when she asked "how was you day" (while at work) i said "ok" and thats it. she claims i don't communicate with and have lack of communication. She was getting mad , yelling, and cursing at me and I asked her to please calm down several times and all she kept saying to me was "stay on ****ing topic, you make no sense" and i at one point got upset and yelled at her to shut up and i i put up the "quit finger" and put it to her face (without toching her) and she snapped and socked me one in my face a few times and I Just took it, then when i went to put on my shoes she then tried to physically hold me down and i was onl;y trying to escape and claims i "pushed her while pregnant" and I said "i'm calling police" (just so she could calm down wasn't actually gonna do it) and then she grabs my phone from me and slaps me more times. then she tries to walk out and i physically stand in front of door and told her she wants to leave she is gonna have to hurt me to get out of house . Throughout all this she has continuesly yelled at me, accussed me of not loving her, called me a bunch of deragatory/insulting/abusive/profane words and says " i make no sense" and "are incapable of communication". She makes it sound as If i am pure evil in my ears. It has gotten to that point where I am afriad to say anything to her because it will only upset her, set her off, have her call me a "liar", and feed more derogatory/negative comments. I don't know what to say to her anymore. I feel really hurt, insulted, crushed, and in shock. Should I just move on a seperate path from her or should I give her time to think about everything and hope she apologizes to me? Things are soo hard since we have a baby on the way? I asked her to calm down for the sake of her baby and stressed out mom and claims "well you should of thought of that before pissing me off" thus saying to me that anything happening to my baby and her stressed mom is my fault and have no one to blame but myself and she is not responsible for anything, HELP!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Saurren Posted March 7, 2014 Share Posted March 7, 2014 wow this is so cruel and I don't know what to say, but I can give you an outside perspective. I'd say deal with it and control you anger and don't yell back or provoke her. When one of her fuse blows just say you're sorry and go and hug her kiss her and make her comfortable. Pregnancy is no joke when it comes along and you can't be endangering your child. Women have it in their mind when you give quick and simple answers to them it means you don't want to communicate. Try to go into details so they get every jist of what you did during your day. Other than that make her the center of attention and don't resort to yelling back and threats. Link to post Share on other sites
xUnknown Posted March 7, 2014 Share Posted March 7, 2014 ^^ Yeah, that. And tell her "you're right" as you go to hug her and kiss her on her cheek/neck say you love her. I have no experience in this area (and don't plan on it anytime soon...i'm only 23), but I know pregnancy does do a lot with hormones. So maybe they are just adding to things. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 7, 2014 Share Posted March 7, 2014 My goodness, I would probably leave and come back when the baby is born. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Saurren Posted March 7, 2014 Share Posted March 7, 2014 My goodness, I would probably leave and come back when the baby is born. thats why you're still a fool. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Author josephangel00 Posted March 7, 2014 Author Share Posted March 7, 2014 wow this is so cruel and I don't know what to say, but I can give you an outside perspective. I'd say deal with it and control you anger and don't yell back or provoke her. When one of her fuse blows just say you're sorry and go and hug her kiss her and make her comfortable. Pregnancy is no joke when it comes along and you can't be endangering your child. Women have it in their mind when you give quick and simple answers to them it means you don't want to communicate. Try to go into details so they get every jist of what you did during your day. Other than that make her the center of attention and don't resort to yelling back and threats. I do try to say i love her and give her a hug/kiss and all i get in return is more "stop saying that, you don't mean it" and more negativity. How do I deal with her while she is making negative/derogatory comments without getting negative in return or angry? Its now getting to that point where I am constantly now thinking negative and less positive about myself. I am here trying to avoid lowering myself down to that level. how do i avoid the negativity but at same time communicate without getting defensive/negative? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 8, 2014 Share Posted March 8, 2014 thats why you're still a fool. LOL No you're the fool because you would put up with bad behavior. Pregnancy is not an excuse to mistreat others. Link to post Share on other sites
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