GarrusVakarian Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 Don't know, maybe its just me?. But I don't feel I can move on and start seeing other people until divorce has gone through. I am planning to file as soon as the financial and house has been transferred over to me. I have kind of met someone, but I don't want to take it further until I am divorced and my wife is no longer in the picture. Maybe just in case she kicks off and makes life hard if she found out. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 I think that's a sound instinct, considering you've yet to file! That said, if women are scarce in your area and you've 'found one', maybe better to not let her go, especially if you've an aversion to being alone! Been divorced about three years and alone here. Still have the house too. Different strokes! Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGypsy Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 I don't think there is any one size fits all answer for that. Personally, when I separated from my husband with the intent to divorce I felt free to see someone if I wished. I know for him (ex h) the paper is important and he feels like he can't move on until we finalize. I respect that and am planning to do my best to make it happen in a timely manner. Do what feels right to you. Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 I think that's smart of you. I wouldn't date a man unless his divorce was final....I don't do "separated". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 Don't know, maybe its just me?. But I don't feel I can move on and start seeing other people until divorce has gone through. I am planning to file as soon as the financial and house has been transferred over to me. I have kind of met someone, but I don't want to take it further until I am divorced and my wife is no longer in the picture. Maybe just in case she kicks off and makes life hard if she found out. The rule of thumb is don't GET INVOLVE WITH SOMEONE NEW UNTIL YOUR MESS HAS BEEN SORTED OUT. Also....protect yourself this time around and get a prenup with independent legal advice for both of you. The new person might have baggage that she is not telling you of, and you might find out the hard way If you don't want more kids, get a vasectomy like I did last Xmas.....you don't want any surprises 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GarrusVakarian Posted March 10, 2014 Author Share Posted March 10, 2014 lol, id of loved kids. It was something we was talking about for this year. Until I found out she was screwing around!. LUCKY ESCAPE Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted March 12, 2014 Share Posted March 12, 2014 lol, id of loved kids. It was something we was talking about for this year. Until I found out she was screwing around!. LUCKY ESCAPE Yes...good for you, but do your homework properly this time, you might not be so lucky next time if you leave yourself wide open Link to post Share on other sites
Author GarrusVakarian Posted March 12, 2014 Author Share Posted March 12, 2014 lol I was with her 10 years. Was that not research enough?. Link to post Share on other sites
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